This is the honest to god truth and I love her and I know she has to do this for her...but I'll feel betrayed and jealous...am I wrong?
2006-12-28 12:04:35 · 32 answers · asked by JackLove 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
is she a lesbian or bi-sexual? maybe she just wants to experience being with another woman. ur feelings of betrayal & jealousy are totally normal, but u have to understand, if she wants to try something with another woman, its best u let her just so she can make sure she knows what she wants & that should make both of u happy.
maybe she's not sure of her sexual preference.
2006-12-28 12:10:37 · answer #1 · answered by Lil'MissSnshne 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi there are u married ? listen I had the same problem with a guy he wanted a threesome but I said hell no why cause i respect myself too much. we have to love another person but also we must show them where we stand our grounds. if you feel not the need to do her wish then you are your own person don't. but if u have the need to please her cause u love her very much then so be it. but would it stop there or would she want more. or would u enjoy it as well as she does. would she leave you for a female does she love both female and male. these are questions that you have to seat and talk to her. this kind of things have happened. hey she is asking for another women not a men but either way it's wrong in my opinion. how much does she love you ? being truthful makes us a better person even if it hurts at times. be safe don't drink and drive even if u do not drive happy holidays. make her a romantic dinner with candles show her how much u love her and talk to her how u feel about what she wants. good luck .
2006-12-28 12:23:17 · answer #2 · answered by sugarlove_one 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe when she said it she meant that she wants to have a three way with 2 women and that was how she asks. Maybe her sexlife isn't fun enough ask her if she needs more spice in her life or set up a night where you play out each others fantasies on like maybe a friday night one of you buys stuff for it all week and you play out your fantasy. (for example if she has a fantasy of having sex with a police officer then rent a cop outfit and handcuff her to the bed and make it all about her that night make her orgasim as many times as possible in one night.) or play sex games. Have fun and be creative.
2006-12-28 12:15:29 · answer #3 · answered by feisty_krittir 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is your relationship a committed one? Like a marriage engagement etc? If the answer is yes then your relationship is no longer committed and you have to reevaluate it and decide whats best for you? Even if just BF/GF with no strings I would say if your not comfortable then you should get out and seek greener pastures!
2006-12-28 12:08:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No that is natural, you would feel the same thing if it was another guy. but you have to think of yourself, willl you be able to handle it. knowing that she slept with someone else. and if it would keep going on. how is it effecting your relationship. can you look at her without thinking about it. sit and think and make sure this is what you want. only you can decide. good luck.
2006-12-28 12:11:54 · answer #5 · answered by misty blue 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ur not wrong but a touch insane most guys would kill 4 that!
r u sure she isnt saying it thinking the idea will please u?
u have to let her get it out of her system
u really need to talk, i mean would she like it if you wanted to try it with someone else just because it was something u needed to do! good luck1
2006-12-28 13:32:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your feelings are just that: yours. As such, they are neither right nor wrong. Just be upfront and honest with her. If she does it anyway and it results in you going your separate ways, oh well; she didn't love you enough to respect your feelings regarding *your* relationship.
2006-12-28 12:08:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well she either wants to be with you or she doesnt..... you cant share your woman in a relationship... it doesnt matter if it is with another woman or a man its the same thing...
you need to consider your relationship maybe she needs to make a serious decision....the hardest one she may ever make...
then again there are people who do the swing thing.... how would she feel if you were to go off with another woman or man?? ask her that one
2006-12-28 12:08:38 · answer #8 · answered by confused 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No you are not wrong...would she allow you to have a fling just because it was something you had to do....
I wouldn't put up with it I'm afraid. I certainly wouldn't be around when they'd filled their boots & wanted to return...I'd let her go her own way..but that's me...I wouldn't do it to someone else & wouldn't expect it to be done to me....neither would I allow myself to have it done to me...if I don't respect myself enough to get the best in my life, then I can hardly expect anyone else to can I?
If someone I were with wanted to do that then I'd expect them to finish one relationship before they started another..however brief.
I wouldn't kick & scream though...I'd hate the thought that someone were with me because I made them feel guilty...God!I'd really hate that.
We're all free spirits to choose...if you're not comfortable with it then don't let her talk you into being untrue to yourself...
2006-12-28 12:30:26 · answer #9 · answered by Funky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your not wrong you want to be with her and not share her with someone else. because you don't want to feel like your playing second fiddle to someone else.
personaly i am not into sleeping with anyone other then the man i am with that and i am not BI so it doesn't appeal to me
i know that for lots of men that is a wild dream of theirs to have their girlfriend sleep with another girl..
but in the end if you don't feel confortable with it then YOU KNOW THE ANSWER don't do it
2006-12-28 12:08:46 · answer #10 · answered by tealee 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋