when we first got together he almost had sex with this chick and did stuff with her.he told me a couple weeks ago.it really REALLY disgusts me.i love him to death,but i cant take it.what do i do?
2006-12-28 11:46:23 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Honey, break off this relationship and work on your self-esteem. It wont be easy letting go of this guy but it will be worth it. If you don't every time you find yourself in a relationship where you are being mistreated you'll put up with it and always end up the victim and you are worth more than that. Life is trying to teach you a valuable lesson and you should listen now cause some never hear the calling until they are 40 yrs and up. If he cheated you don't have much anyway, just a boy that cheats on his girlfriend and if he did it once get ready for the ride cause he's going to do it again. The choice is yours be the victim or the strong courageous lady God has called you to be.
2006-12-28 12:01:49 · answer #1 · answered by spirit2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all once a cheater always a cheater that is my modo.i know you love him but you have to look at the hole picture and way out the goods and the bads.if he cheated on you once he will most likley do it a second and third time. you dont need someone like that.there has to be a reason why he is finding it neccessary to do it. but still there is no excuse for it.play hard to get to him and see how he really is like.start talking with other guys and hanging out with your friends more and see if he notices a difference in you or your time to spend with him....girl you can do so much better there are more fish in the sea .you dont need a guy like that its not worth it.just keep your chin up and do for yourself because iam telling you things will not get better they will get worse and the only person that is going to get hurt in the long run will be you..my personaly oppion is just leave him and move on it is not worth all the heart ache and pain girl there are more fish in the sea......basically it seems like he has issues with relationships and he has a problem so move on and keep your head up girl be better then him dont give him a second chance cause you will be looking like the foolish one at the end.
2006-12-28 12:14:02 · answer #2 · answered by mizz_spoiled_bratt 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are a lot of ways to look at this situation. Ask yourself what is important to you, give yourself some time, and go with your gut instinct. I don't think there is a simple answer, and unfortunately in tough situations, the hardest thing to do is often the right thing to do.
2006-12-28 11:53:09 · answer #3 · answered by Mr. O'Flanagan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well. This has happened to me once but with my girlfriend. I thought it was great she was being honest, but as long as she didn't do it was a load off my mind. If you think he's gonna mess with more girls, break up with him, and watch him. If he messes with alot of girls, then leave him, and he'll regret almost having sex with the other girl.
2006-12-28 11:53:35 · answer #4 · answered by Kevin H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump the scuzbag. He obviously doesn't love or respect you. Find someone who doesn't hurt you this way. No guy who cheats is worth keeping around!
2006-12-28 11:49:52 · answer #5 · answered by Jen Armero 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you were not officially committed at the time, you have right to a beef. If you were officially committed dump him, once a cheater always a cheater.
2006-12-28 11:54:42 · answer #6 · answered by tenbadthings 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find you a f-in back up love as a just in case a man that you can fall back on just in case he cheats again so you wont be lonely when he leaves for another woman...
2006-12-28 11:54:29 · answer #7 · answered by Godson 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this same thing kinda happend to me...and im still with him..if u really love him like u say...and he does to...den yall can start all over fresh and clean and make sure he doesnt do anything!!!! and get stright with that other chick
2006-12-28 11:49:53 · answer #8 · answered by dallaz13 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if he is cheating before you get married, he probably will after you get married. The only reason he is still with you is probably because you are putting out for him.
2006-12-28 11:49:19 · answer #9 · answered by forestofblade 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you'll never be able to trust him again, I know it hurts but end it now b/c he'll probably do it again. If he truly loved you, he wouldn't have done it the first time. Good Luck hun!
2006-12-28 11:49:45 · answer #10 · answered by barefootmodel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋