Guys:how do you handle stress?

Question

Do you want your gf or ex gf to be with you to go through tough times? or do you want to go through it alone without anyone seeing tough things happened to you to maintain your "tough" image?

My ex bf is going through something traumatic, should i stay away, pretend i dont even know or send consolation emails? Which way would you prefer?

PS: after he broke up with me 2 weeks ago we havent talked. And i dont plan to start talking if it's not for this.

Note:although i do wanna get back with him, i dont want him to think i'm chasing him. I chased him back before and no good comes out of it. I want him to realize what he lost and come back himself. Please dont judge me for playing cutting off contact so he'll come back, he's very immature himself and loves to play mindgames. For example, once he called me but was all like i wanna talk to you but if you dont wanna talk, i'm fine with that too. But actually he was crazy about getting me back at that time. He just likes to play cool

Answer 1

A guy handles stress alone. He wants his other as far away as possible. Even more so if she thinks things like guys don't show stress to be 'tough'.

You should stay away. It's OK to send ONE note and say 'i know what your going through and I'm here if you need it'(he won't but it's still nice to say).

Answer 2

Depends on the situation, at most times I don't handle it very well. Stress makes me frustrated and when I'm frustrated I cannot communicate how I feel. Frustration makes me very mad, combine that with stress, I get super mad. It's best to just leave me alone at that time, because then I start b****ing about everything/everyone. If it's stress regarding school papers/exams then that will be at the back of my mind for the entire day as I go from class to class. Then I will develop a headache, I tell myself just go to sleep but then I don't want to go to sleep because things will just keep adding up, so that causes more stress. So I go and take a shower and the headache goes away, but then I get really sleepy. So then I say f*** it, I'm going to bed and tell myself I'll hit the books hard tomorrow. If the stress isn't extreme, then I workout its a great release. -Virgo

Answer 3

What I suggest to you is this, I've been through some rough times and probably will be going through some next year as well. Things are good w/me and my mate. But, I do my best to deal by keeping myself busy and not focusing on him. Yea, its hard if u spend a lot of time w/that person normally.
But, what I do I treat myself to a cheap movie if I can't get a friend to go, I go visit people I have'nt seen or talk to in a while. And, its very important that u look your best when u do these things because one u want to feel good about yourself and apperance and who knows who head u might turn.
And, don't let this one guy drain u emotionally if he's not ready to man up and be your #1. Like Beyonce said if since I'm not the one how about I be nothing at all to u "to the left/to the left" (irreplaceable) however the lyrics go.
But, always put u first because u have to be your #1 one supporter at all times.

Answer 4

Stay away, you are looking for an excuse to chase him back like you did before.


For some reason you are attracted to guys:
very immature himself
loves to play mindgames
want them to realize what they lost
they just like to play cool

You may want to make a mental note of these things and realize when you a falling for another "guy" who likes to play it cool.
You dont play it cool ok? Its a full time job(hahaha)! Be on the look out for a real man.

Answer 5

I can sleep right next to stress anywhere and anytime

Answer 6

Just let him alone, If he wants to talk he knows where you are, Move on with your life.......

Answer 7

i jack off and then fall asleep