Yesterday I discovered my 6 year old son has been masturbating in his closet. I was disgusted and locked him in his room, but he started playing with his genitalia again. I am worried he will become addicted to sex and possibly abuse other children. What can I do as a parent?
2006-12-28 11:35:13 · 16 answers · asked by Bizquik Lamont 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Who knows what is normal any more? With all the growth hormones in the feed that is fed to the cattle and other meat producing animals as well as the genetically altered fruits and vegetables produced it is entirely possible that your son is actually in puberty.
There have been reports of children under the age of 12 entering puberty.
2006-12-28 11:45:01 · answer #1 · answered by Ralph T 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That is perfectly normal. At that age all he knows is that it feels good when he does it.He really has no idea that it is a sexual thing.The worst thing that you can do is punish him for it.You are teaching him that there is something wrong with his sexuality. You made a mistake.We all do.I can understand why that would freak you out. How ever, If he should be caught again let him know that It is not wrong , It is not dirty, it is just private.And you may shudder to know this but as a mother of 2 boys and a sister of 3 brothers I can tell you in all honesty it is quite likely that you will unwittingly walk in on that again. I repeat it is a normal healthy male behavior.
2006-12-29 12:14:39 · answer #2 · answered by blue_eyed_brat78 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course he'll be addicted, because You locked him in his room , Tell him it's like picking his nose, don't do it in front of people as a mother to 4 boys 3 being teenagers this upsets me your child will have guilt now and feel they are bad, all boys do it what you did was cruel, not to mention i cant think of anything a 6 year old could do to warrant being locked in there room try time out for 6 minutes for bad behavior. i don't like to judge other parents and my motto is every parent is different long as its done with love but you really need to reevaluate your parenting skills, what you have done is abuse
2006-12-28 12:22:42 · answer #3 · answered by melissa s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boy did you over react to a "normal" phase in ALL children's lives. Mastubation at this age is self discovery. He is finding out how "that thing" works and that it feels good...There is nothing wrong with masturbation. I'll bet even YOU did it as a small child, and either you have done it yourself or have had a partner masterbate you. So, should YOU be locked in a closet for being disghusting too?
2006-12-28 11:40:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
ok wow. im basically 16 to be straightforward. i'm suprised... he's basically 9 . he hasn't hit puberty truly yet and he replaced into at the same time with his chum. talking to him will make issues realllyy awkward ! each from time to time that is excellent to act like it under no circumstances befell haha. he would have even been subjected to some thing in media that had masturbating or spoke about or some thing that intrigued him. it ought to have basically been an experimental element. he continues to be youthful. if there are any male figures in his existence possibly they'd have a communicate. the lube theory is sweet... it shows you recognize and favor to assist... you're a mom that's what you're meant to do... no offense yet you would possibly want to not be able to ward off that sort of behaviour so that you'll besides help. i imagine in case you do go away the lube... do not make it out like its left there deliberately for him possibly go away it interior the bathroom with some different products so that's extra blended so if it is going lacking you does not word... in time he will locate it and that way he will experience even although you do not have any clue as to what he's getting as a lot as... and also you want this believe me... it may nicely be sufficiently awkward otherwise. i imagine you're doing a good pastime as a mum... save it up. in time he may even come to you for suggestion. yet another element is once you've any magazines that communicate about masturbating in them go away them round or supply it to him alongside some extra widely used magazines so at the same time as he stumbles upon it he can study it and understand its organic and what a lot of boys practice. this can ward off the awkward communicate. i'm hoping my suggestion replaced into efficient and under no circumstances patronising ! good success you're doing an excellent pastime.
2016-12-01 06:53:28 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldnt punish him for doing it its natural...but Im a certified medical assistant....and I was taught that when a child does that it means he feels unstable in his surroundings (im not saying thats why yours does it) just tell him thats something to do in private and to try to keep it to minimum hell grow out of it...my nephew did it all the time and hes 12 now and just fine and he dosnt abuse children and as far as i know hes not addicted to sex
2006-12-28 12:35:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He hides in the closet because you have made him feel shamed about it.
This is the most normal thing in the world. Ignore it and never ever punish him or shame him for it.
To the mother up top that wacks her daughters on the butt for masturbating: Good grief you are a horrible parent!!
2006-12-28 11:40:57 · answer #7 · answered by eli_star 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
That is normal. Don't punish him for doing it. Just tell him that is something he has to do in private and not when other people are around. I caught my 4 yr old daughter touching herself. I ignored her. She did it while taking a bath. Don't make a big deal out of it.
2006-12-28 11:38:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's normal. Talk to him about it being a private thing and that he should not do it all the time. Also, sometimes boys get rashes in that area - ask if he itches. He might need to see a doctor.
2006-12-28 11:39:15 · answer #9 · answered by puma 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ok... let's see it feels good to play with oneself. Children like to do things that feel good, there is nothing inherently sexual about it.
You think him touching his penis means he will molest other children, and you think it is reasonable to lock a 6 year old in their room...
Sorry which one of you do you think had the problem again?
2006-12-28 11:46:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋