2006-12-28 11:33:24 · 15 answers · asked by wee blue 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It is always difficult for someone to take over as a step-parent but it sounds as though your g/f has gone beyond this and is making you concerned enough about the situation for you to come and ask a bunch of strangers what we think. Well, most people here think (and I do too) that you cannot allow this person to come between you and your children. If something she is doing is making you feel uncomfortable, then you have to tell her. You must also let your children know that you will always be their dad, and you will always be on their side (which is not the same as taking sides!)
So long as you feel the relationship between your g/f and your children is a difficult one, you will never be entirely happy, as they are your kids and your first priority will always be them. This is why you must talk to her about the situation and give her the opportunity to try to sort things out.
2006-12-28 14:50:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may need to be more specific about how off you mean. If you are serious then I think it's fine for her to take an interest and act in a motherly fashion. I know some men have a problem with doing it differently than it has been done, but thats why you are in a new relationship. If you think it's overboard then you need to tell her and talk about it. But it's hard to say who is right without knowing more.
2006-12-28 11:35:49 · answer #2 · answered by dana j 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Bro, you have actually crammed your heart with this woman. heart is this sort of element, in case you took out all the blood out it would on the instant be crammed with air. A heart consistently desires something to be related too climate its song, alcohol, woman, its consistently wanting something to hold close on too. You look to have completely enable your heart carry close onto a million guy or woman and all your desires are centred on one guy or woman and that's risky bro. heart desires to and could be crammed with the affection and concern of Allah in simple terms!!! What you are able to desire to do from an Islamic point of view is set up a meeting together with her father or mom and ask for her hand in marriage. If it works out positive, if it doesnt then bro you are able to desire to lower back off. that comparable heart could yern for Allah, no longer a created being of his! attempt to stay under Islamic guidlines and then see the interior piece you have.... Allah is conscious suited!
2016-10-28 14:17:19 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont care how much i like , love or otherwise my new Partner I tell ya if he so much as looked at my kids in any rude way or whatever hed be hitting the door . For me to keep my new partner would just be me being selfish and putting my needs b4 theirs . Not a good option !
2006-12-28 11:36:27 · answer #4 · answered by C 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Shes probrally finding it difficult having to share you try some bonding between you all, trips out, board games you will soon find ahe warms to them better. Maybe she feels she has no maternal instincts and cannot relate to them.....tell her how much you appreciate the time she does spend time with them and she should soon feel comfortable. All the best!!!xx
2006-12-28 16:06:48 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We don't understand what you mean exactly. Is she trying to be overly motherly to them or is it that she is treating them differently than you do? First, you need to tell her what is bothering you in general and not hold back, no matter what occurs. If she really cares for you she will understand or at least try to.
2006-12-28 11:40:42 · answer #6 · answered by christinedaae 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
but what? You dont give too much info there. What does a bit off mean? It is hard cos you dont want to criticise your girlf but they are your kids and you want to treat them the way you want. Maybe she is not used to kids or maybe she feels like she has to over compensate for not being their mum...? Behave with them how you like to and hopefully she will pick up from you how to be with them.
2006-12-28 11:38:35 · answer #7 · answered by teary chocolate 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
if i am reading this right you have kids and a new girl well only one thing to do she has to go .blood thicker than water .she not takening them on if she is a bit off with your kids
2006-12-28 11:48:19 · answer #8 · answered by susie 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I wish I could help but I really Don't understand the question. Sorry, Good Luck!
JJ
2006-12-28 11:46:35 · answer #9 · answered by jj 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You need to elaberate a little bit more I'm afraid Sweetie...I don't totally understand your question...
2006-12-28 12:15:38 · answer #10 · answered by Funky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋