My new boyfriend is hesitant to give me his blessing for my lesbian fling. I can understand that he doesn't want to share me, but I feel that this is something I need to find out - I need to answer these questions about my sexuality. Am I totally wrong? I love him, and I don't want this to cause a problem between us. How can we work out what is the right way to deal with this problem?
2006-12-28 11:27:59 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm sure your Boyfriend is just Jealous Hun and a bit of a prick by the sounds of things...if he is truly worthy of your love he'd let you do this and understand...maybe he feels like he may well loose you....I'm sure he really cares....
2006-12-28 11:30:44 · answer #1 · answered by JackLove 2 · 2⤊ 5⤋
lesbian fling or otherwise really doesn't matter, in many cases it's worse forget the donkeys saying cos u wont let him watch. He prob loves u and your infidelity has left him untrusting. If you want to carry on go ahead kick him into touch and enjoy.
If u have real feelings for him and are not in denial of wanting to play with girls then reconsider. Decision time dear, the only thing is if u r going to be insincere to ur self it'll come out in the end.
He may enjoy u both he may not but does he still trust u and wot do U want out of life ? We all enjoy good s£x on the rare occasion we get it but wot cost and wot else is there.
Hope u find happiness....
2006-12-28 12:30:10 · answer #2 · answered by Harryboy 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think women like yourself should NOT get involved with someone for real love until you figure out your sexuality. Because if you get involved for love and a long lasting relationship, but your not sure about your sexuality and feel the need to find out more about yourself, it's not fair for the guy who knows he wants you, and isn't confused.
This is why I don't date sexually confused women. I'm in it for a long lasting love, not something that will last a few months until she's ready for experimentation with someone else. Thats selfish to me.
If you really want to be fair, he should be able to experiment being with other women. Basically, you both should play the 'seeing other poeple but still together' game, which the relationship will most likely not survive at all.
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BY THE WAY, for all, the people here saying that your boyfriend is just insecure, your all complete HYPOCRITES. I bet if they were in love, and their lover wanted their permission to have sex with someone else but not breakup, they'd be completely against it. The women would even call their men pigs.
2006-12-28 11:34:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I do maximum nights, or do you mean a one-nighter of intercourse with the comparable intercourse? Sorry to break it to you, yet that isn't a lesbian fling. uncomplicated interest, possibly even bi-curious. Now if it grow to be with a lesbian and you have been yet another lesbian you've one.
2016-10-28 14:11:51 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not all men are obsessed with sex, some men like to keep their relationships exclusive. If you want to explore things, you should be single. It is cheating at the end of the day no matter what sex it is. Like with 3somes, it's a great fantasy for many men but it will wreck a relationship 99% of the time. I don't think I'd like my partner to have a gay fling anyway! lol. I'm not having a go at you at all, you should jsut leave it to your own fantasy or until you are single. Don't do it.
2006-12-28 11:32:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
it is no different to asking for his blessing for a straight fling - it's still intimacy with another, and effectively you are asking for a licence to cheat - if you are keen to discover your sexuality, that is fine, but it is only fair that you cool things down with your boyfriend - it would be unfair to encourage him knowing that you are not exclusively concentrating on him. And don't make the mistake of thinking that he will be turned on by the idea - alot of guys are - but in practice, it's just another infidelity - decide if you love him more than your need to experiment - doing both is fine, and completely cool, but don't do them together, because he will end up getting very hurt.
2006-12-28 11:31:42 · answer #6 · answered by Miss Behavin 5 · 4⤊ 1⤋
would you give him your blessing if he had a gay fling????? make your mind up about who you are without get involved with anyone, you cant hurt him like that whilst you find out what sexuality you are! he has feelings and your hurting them, i don't think you should be together if you don't know what you want!!!! I say fair play to him, sorry but you should be more considerate about his feelings!!!!!!!!
2006-12-28 12:31:24 · answer #7 · answered by anney 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He feels threatened, which is not all that unusual in cases like this. The time to explore your sexuality is when you aren't entangled in a relationship, but it's possible he'll give in. Sharing her with him would sweeten the pot, but maybe neither of you could face that. This is something that requires very delicate handling, and even so you may not get what you want anytime soon. Good luck!
2006-12-28 11:32:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
Truly I agree, you can't be serious!
Either you want a boyfriend or a girlfiend which one is it?
How would you feel if he came home and said he was going to sleep with your brother to see what it was like?
2006-12-28 11:31:02 · answer #9 · answered by spitfin 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
is this planned. oh, i think i will sleep with he cause shes a lesbian!! If you dont know yourself, dont be with him, it is heartless and selfish. You need to consider HIS feelings not just your own.
2006-12-28 16:14:39 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I've been there and done it. I'm into men and women. At first my bf was really excited and even suggested some threesomes with my exgirlfriend - so we did that and it was great fun.
He caught me in bed with her (she is my flat mate and old habits die hard!) and insisted that this stop. He didn't really understand that my relationship with her was on another level. Anyway, she and I tried to keep it a secret but he caught us and DUMPED me.
He did it in spectacular fashion - he blew up pics from when we had a threesome and handed them out to my (very catholic) parents at a family gathering.
You have to find a guy who is very secure, and perhaps you have to let him join in on the action - that's all I can say.
Good luck.
EDIT - ITS NOT CHEATING BECAUSE ITS A DIFFERENT BALL GAME (pardon the pun)
2006-12-28 11:40:29 · answer #11 · answered by Ella 3 · 2⤊ 5⤋