MOms...why do you think daycare is harmful to kids, I have?

Question

heard alot of moms say this!

Answer 1

I was a single mom of two... I had to work no father in the picture. Both boys were in daycare by 6 weeks. (Someone had to work!) My kids are great kids. My oldest is 11. He is doing great. Daycare taught him many things.. first of all when he started school, the teacher was amazed at how well he got along with others, and he was a child who shared, and didn't have to be the center of attention. (This he learned at Daycare) He seldom gets in trouble, a few times for talking, and in his defense, "HE JUST WANTED TO HELP." My youngest is in 1st grade. He is the same way.
Daycare was great for my kids. You just have to choose the right one, which is not an easy task. I would suggest using only liscensed providers, personally, I would stay away from home care just because of the preschool curriculum. I would make periodic visits during lunch time, just to say hi, and get an idea of what the place looks like when they aren't expecting parents. Talk to the neighborhood schools, they can usually recommend one, based on what they see with students in their classroom. THis is a whole different question, so I will stop now. Remember daycares are business that rely on word of mouth. So ask. IF parents say daycare is harmful, ask where they went, and don't take your children there.

Answer 2

Daycare is a lot like schools. They pass illness around. I have heard from a lot of parents the their children get sick from other kids at daycare. This is usually true but if you find the right daycare - they will help to keep the spread of germs down. I would recommend making sure your children take a vitiamin every morning with Vit C to help keep them healthy.
Other things to watch for a daycares is a high turn over rate of teachers. When the teachers change a lot it is hard on the kids and the rest of the staff. Make sure to check references and talk to other parents.

Answer 3

I think daycare is healthy for kids. It teaches them how to be social and get along with others. I was a stay at home momma, and actually got a job at the daycare in the local country club so I could take my son with me. The extra money doesn't hurt, either!

Answer 4

I don't think it is harmful.

I do think it's better for a child to be home in the preschool years, but that is not a option for every family or a desire for every mom. No one should be mad to feel bad about that. There are also a lot of kids at home with lazy, crappy moms they do far worse then any child in daycare.

Answer 5

Daycare has been the best thing for my baby! She has a strong immune system, she is independent and she knows how to interact with people. To me daycare is a BLESSING!!!! on days that I don't have to work but daycare is open she is at the door bright and early. For all the mother who say day care is bad, its not. Don't degrade something until you try it. Your child might love daycare. They will be with children of there own age.

Answer 6

if you do the preliminary footwork in checking out the facility your child will be just fine....

the problem comes from choosing without really looking just because the facility is on the local approved daycare list does not mean its the best place for your child.

you need to know your child and his/her needs, you need to be able to have at least one or two trial runs at the facility for your child, you need to be able to visit the classroom before your child does to see how it operates, and you need to talk to other parents that have used or are using the school, you also need to be sure the facility knows you will be making unannounced visits to the school before and during the time your child attends.

children are very resilient and as long as you still are a significant influence in your childs life your child will be fine. do me one favor as parent and former teacher be sure you dont leave your child at the daycare facility any more than 8 hrs at a time if you can help it. and understand if your child crys when you leave and when you pick them up after school/work they get attached to the teachers just like they do to you.

Answer 7

Daycare isn't harmful, we do what we have to do...but you have to check the place out first.

I personally prefer a private in-home setting- meaning I bring my baby to the sitter's house. I trust that much more than a daycare center. Just make sure you check the place out and talk to other parents, check references etc.

Answer 8

After 23 months of waiting, and 28 thousand miles of traveling all over China, when we brought our daughter home, she started daycare half days out of necessity. It has been great for her. She was sick a lot at first, but her socialization has been wonderful and she enjoys it.

Answer 9

Because the mom, or dad, should be raising the kids. We arranged our business so that it was in the home so that WE were there for the kids. I wouldn't have done it any other way. We were there for the kids when they needed us.

Answer 10

the short answer they don't get as much one on one attention.