How do I start conversations with women in public without seeming like a creep? how do I make them feel safe?

Question

I need a women's perspective.......like at a Starbuck's or the gym. What places do you feel comfortable with talking to someone new? What's the best approach for a guy to take?

Answer 1

mmm sometimes women at the gym are self-concious so i would keep to yourself there, i'm sure they're at the gym for a purpose. Otherwise starbucks is a great place to meet women, of course make sure they're single. if you over hear what a woman orders, say something like "ohh that sounds really good, have you tried it before?" or suggest something along the same line; ex: if she orders a caramel frapuccino say "on a cold day you should try caramel macciato" (of course if it's hot outside, otherwise reverse it).
I have the same problems with guys I like but my guy friends ask me for advice and it seems to work, I just need to use my own advice i guess. just don't go up to a women right away and say you seem nice, lets go out. try to avoid the word 'seem'. Instead say, something like "You're really fun to talk to, would you like to go out?" (of course talking to her for ahile). a compliment is a great conversation starter. i've had a guy ask me if my shoes are comfortable and if he had to wear something like that he would break his ankle. i was wearing 4" heels that were'nt comfortable but i laughed and told the guy that he would look pretty silly with these shoes on, and that started the conversation. so it's really easy, sometimes it's better to practice out the fist couple of sentences in your head so you know what to say after she replies, but don't let her get away. and don't worry if she doesn't say anything or seems snobby, she probably is and it's best to talk to someone that will say something back, that way you know if you get a date you won't have an akward silence.
GOOD LUCK!

Answer 2

Just be yourself. Chances are, if you approach them and they are creeped out, they arent for you. Smile and be curteous and respectful. The gym is the last place a woman wants to be approached. Coffee is another story. Just saying hello will be an ice breaker if she is at all interested. Watch the eyes. If they wont make eye contact, back off.

Answer 3

You should find somthing seemingly innocent to talk about at first, like you can introduce yourself straight away but that lets on pretty quickly that you like her. If you were at Starbucks and you saw her ordering somthing that you hadn't tried before (or lol, even if you had) you could ask if she thinks its nice etc...I think you'd feel talking to somone new everywhere.....

Answer 4

Just be good-looking and rich. I know you wanted a woman's perspective, but I'm giving you an honest one. Women will tell you that none of that stuff matters, but they are lying.

Answer 5

Never wear a watch. You can start with a simple "do you have a watch", or if the watch is noticable, ask if she could PLEASE (remember your manners!) tell you the time. But don't say it's because you forgot your watch..she'll think you're brainless from the start. Good luck!

Answer 6

Walk up and speak first if shes interested you will see it usually with eye contact, if she's not she will show you that with her demeanor.

Answer 7

dude

make them really BE safe

not just feel safe

Answer 8

Well you support the Redsox so you have no chance lol