I need more help! My puppy is making my life miserable!?

Question

I asked this question once before but I didn't elaborate much on it and I think I got the wrong answers. My husband is a pet lover. I never actually told him I'm not a pet person. We took our kids to a pet shop and I obviously thought the Maltese in the shop were soooo cute. (They really are). Well on my anniversary this year, he bought a white Maltese for me. She is adorable. But I do not like pets. I couldn't tell him. She's the perfect pet. She has been potty trained since she was 6 weeks old. Very obedient. But I can't stand her! The house smells although we keep her cleaned. Her food smells. I can't stand her licking me. Everyone likes her but me. Please help me. How can I tell my husband without hurting him or the kids. This pet needs to be in a family where both owners love her. My life is awful. It wasn't this way before. I'm having mood swings and my patience is ZERO! What should I do?

Answer 1

Wow, that sounds tough. Is it really THAT bad??? I would try to work it out for a few more months and see what happens. Try to ask yourself why you hate pets so much, and see if that is worth tearing the dog away from your kids and husband.

Answer 2

I am sorry but this should have been all thought out and you should have been honest with your husband about not liking dogs. You opened your home to this dog and you have a responsibility to raise it. You also have a responsibility to your husband and kids. Why should your feelings be put above all else. You said the dog is a perfect pet, so why is your heart so cold that you cannot love it? Maybe the hubby and kids should keep the dog and throw you out. I am sorry but this really rubs me the wrong way. You are being very selfish. Dogs are wonderful pets.

Answer 3

You seem so bothered by your pup, are you pregnant again? im not trying to be mean is just a question. Look the dog came as a present for you but i bet is really your kids. I think your husband will understand but not them. A pet is a dream for any child. So i say, train the dog to be away from you , lock her food in plastic containers so you dont smell it and say for ex. if you have a utility room keep her food there far from where you constantly walk. And make sure you tell your kids to be the ones to walk her and take care of feeding her and all that good stuff. Not counting how much money was spent to get the dog! Think of it that it will be not fair now to take it away from your children. You said it they love them you are the only one that doesnt and the one that didnt tell her hubby what she really thinks about pets. So, who's wrong?

Answer 4

Honestly, the only way you will resolve this is to get rid of the dog, or open your heart to her.
Believe me, my husband brought home a beagle puppy, and I am NOT a dog lover. I adore my cats, but, dogs are a different story. However, in time, I have found a way to really love her.
There are some things you can do for your current issues with the pup, and that would be perhaps plug in air fresheners to create a pleasant aroma throughout your home, and possibly moving the dog's food dish somewhere that you won't have to pass it frequently, but that she can get to when she needs it. With some patience and some knowledge, you can train her not to lick you, or, in fact, just to obey you and not bother you much otherwise, if that would make you more comfortable.

But something tells me that it is not just the dog, but something else that is really bothering you, and you have just zeroed in on the dog as the culprit. Maybe you should take a step back and look around and see if there is anything else that might be getting under your skin, that is not as easy to address as your dislike for the family dog.

Or, then again, you could very SUDDENLY develop a terrible allergy to dog dander. :)

Answer 5

i hate to tell you this but the fact you said nothing in the beginning has made it worse. because of this, if you try to convince any of them you will look like the bad guy. they will feel that every time you have a problem with something they will have to accomadate you because of the fact that you are outnumbered by all the people who feel differently. so what do you do when you get stuck with lemons? you make lemonade! basically you are stuck and have to make the best of it. try either keeping her in the garage while you are gone which will limit the time she is in the house which will cut down on odors. use an areosol that kills airbourne bacterias instead of using an air freshener that only makes the air smell better. use air conditioner filters that contain charcoal or basically ones that filter the air better. on top of that change them more frequently than you usually do. spray your areosol in the air conditioner vents so that it carrys through the whole house. if you don't like her licking you then make a standing rule of no animals on the furniture. that should keep her out of your face at least. last, try spending quality time alone with her. just you and her at a park sometime. make it fun by going for a jog with her along for some exercise and pack a lunch for yourself and her to really get to know each other, and lets not forget about the food. instead of feeding her dog food, you could feed all natural foods like scraps of chicken, beef, pork, fish and vegetables. just make sure they are cooked with nothing added for flavor. no salt, pepper, sauces or anything of that nature unless ok'd buy a vet. this might help with odor both inside and out because most dog foods are comprised of by product garbage which sometimes is not good for your pet. it will also smell better to you. you could do the alternative and be honest with your family but it might cause problems and much agony. on the other hand you might find life bareable again by practicing what i told you and who knows you might make a new friend. in the end its your choice alone, just make sure it benefits you and those around you.

Answer 6

For you to say you can't stand an adorable puppy who give you kisses is quite disturbing. I can understand that you don't want the responsibility for caring and taking care of a pet that you did not ask for. It was a very poor decision to bring a puppy into a home when all members were not ready or willing to take some respoonsibility in caring for this dog properly. You only have two choices, either allow your husband and children to keep this puppy, and make them take the responsibility for its care, or tell them that you do not want this pet in your home and find another home for this puppy. Whatever you do, I'd make sure that they all know you do not want any pets, so you don't put another animal through this rejection. Puppies are like innocent children, you don't have the right to treat them poorly. They all need love, guidance, and proper care, and if you can't learn to give this puppy the care it needs, give her to someone who can. This puppy deserves to be loved and cared for just like your children do.

Answer 7

God, if that is the worst problem you have, you are lucky!!! Geez, be glad you don't have a pet that hates you and tries to bite you.

Look, if MY mom can let us have a dog, you can handle it too. She would never let us have one (especially in the house), and it took a LONG time till she decided to let me have one. You have to ask yourself, is it because of the germ issue? Are you germ phobic? This I can understand. Get some febreze to keep the smell down, take the dog to the groomers, etc. Don't feed him wet dog food (it stinks worse than dry). Don't let her lick you. Your dog sounds really cute, you are lucky to have a good dog that is potty trained already!

Don't make your family suffer because you can't handle a little bit of dog hair. You should have told your husband that you don't like pets before you got married.

Your dog is the perfect pet. You should try to change your outlook. My mom didn't like the dog at first, and when she died at age 10 my mom missed her terribly. You'll live. Be glad you don't have real problems.

Answer 8

Get a clue my friend, "the only way you could be the worst daughter, ever...is if you had the worst parenting, ever" !! So it's kind of like, "they reaped, what they sowed", but your the only one your going to hurt and don't you think you've had more than enough pain? If we could take away your anger, we drown in your tears. Drugs are the problem here, not you and when your mother left, it was because was and is unhappy with herself, her life, her everything, that's how misery works, like a torrent of water running down hill saturating, a land side tearing down everything in it's path. Leave the misery to your mother she laid in the bed, let her make it. You very well could run away, but that could get you put in the system, little freedom there. Look, face up to it, deal with the behaviours, get counselling or therapy, get yourself back together, it'll take time but you want to move out of that place a whole and healthy person mentally and physically, with the same attitude for life, if you don't then the drugs win and have destroyed you as much as them. Don't expect the move alone will cure it all, you "will" carry that baggage with you and not understand what is still wrong, you need to unpack a life's worth of baggage before you move forward. Do it for yourself and the future you deserve and dispite route your parents took. Besides it'll help keep you clear of home for a while, it's gonna take time but that's all you have to kill at this point, but the longer one stays in a bad situation the longer it takes to get over it. Put your efforts into your education until then, you can't expect a man to support you today, one has to depend on themselves and a good career is what you need, something that pays well definately needs diploma's to go with it. Make yourself into the person you want to be, someone you admire and respect. And remember..."you may have to love your parents, but you don't have to like them".

Answer 9

Start with talking to your husband. You might could come to a compromise such as he has to keep the dog away from you or something like that. He has to take care of it and all that. If it is truly that awful, you definately need to let him know! He married you for a reason, because he loves you, he would probably want you to be happy! I can understand the kids and him being upset but perhaps replacement with a kitten would be easier! They tend to smell better and are much more independent! Communication is your first step! good lucK!
If you do decide to let pup go, take her to a no-kill shelter or find a home yourself! once again! GOOD LUCK! =)

Answer 10

you should have been way honest with your husband from the start, I dont think it could be that bad. I have a beagle and a doberman and my house does not smell like dog my dogs get a bath once a week , i dont leave food out all the time just when they are about to get fed. anything not ate gets put back. give the pup a chance. dogs live for humans. dont you get happy when you come home at night and your pup is sooo happy to see you. not matter what kind of day you have had your pup will always be happy to see you!