An overweight 25 year old man who works with me--I gave him a xmas card with my pic and phone # and it's been a week and that idiot hasn't called me even to say thank u or anything! That was so nice of me to do, i just wanted to be his friend, and it seems like he doesn't care...
2006-12-28 10:39:27 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
FYI--- I AM NOT TRYING TO BE A PITY FRIEND! He happens to be shy!
2006-12-28 10:46:11 · update #1
Just try to have a soft conversation with him about it to see if he's interested in being your friend. Some people are very shy and afraid to take the next step even when they are approached first, especially if they are self-concious like being over weigh.
2006-12-28 10:46:50 · answer #1 · answered by Chris P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did you give someone a Christmas card with your picture and phone number? What message does that send --> "Merry Christmas I'm available". I mean just because he's fat, doesn't make him automatically wanting or needing female attention.
He may not realise it's just friends, if someone gave me a card with a photo and phone number, I mean the first thing I'd think is What on earth are they sending me a picture of themselves with their phone number? It honestly sounds as though because he's fat, you assume he should automatically fall in your direction with the first opening you give.
Look, you may have just meant it as friends, but it sounds a little much to pass on your private phone number. He may even be embarrassed, unsure of your motives, or even a little intimidated. He may have gotten the wrong idea (I would have).
I know it sounds as though he's a bit rude, or indifferent, but who knows what his feelings are? He may honestly be somebody that is very private in his life and this has put him on the back foot. It would surprise me, that I do know. Someone at work who I don't know that well, haven't established any real friendship, sends me not only a Christmas card, but their picture and phone number......um I think I'd take a step back too. Why not just a card and a greeting.
Also, some people really do not return cards or anything. It is a bit rude, but some just don't.
2006-12-28 10:56:10 · answer #2 · answered by Gus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all... you are getting way too defensive. Maybe this guy hasn't had much luck in the love department and does not know how to handle female attention. Maybe he is shy... Maybe his own personal conflicts and weight issues give him a low self image.
Talk to the guy, feel him out, most of all don't say stuff like that because if it got back to him it could make him feel even lower.
2006-12-28 10:42:52 · answer #3 · answered by ttcdayandnight 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What does his being big have anything to do with why or why not he called you?? Maybe he is just not interested in you. Just because he is big, you think he is desperate to call anyone who give him their number?? Big people have lives just like everyone else, and if you gave him your number so you can be a "pity friend" to him, then he obviously made the right decision.
2006-12-28 10:43:53 · answer #4 · answered by Camille 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just because he is overweight doesn't mean he wanted any of your pity, yes it may have been nice to give him the card but what were you trying to accomplish by giving him a picture of you and your phone number? did you secretly want to go on a date with him because you felt bad for him and thought because of his size that he couldn't get any one else? he may have gotten wierd vibes from you sending the card because its seems like you had a hidden agenda in sending it...
2006-12-28 10:58:09 · answer #5 · answered by MidnightSkies 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Excuse me for being rude by so f***ing what you gave him a card. Your being awfully full of yourself assuming because he is overweight he would jump at the opportunity to be your friend. I say if you want to be his friend you'll need to be the one to do the calling but if you act this way towards him don't be surprised if he wants nothing to do with you, I don't think I would.
2006-12-28 10:44:15 · answer #6 · answered by hthr_1974 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You attitute doesnt say nice..........you attitute says he should feel lucky that you thought of him. Maybe that is why he didn't call.
Maybe he didnt call because he has a girlfriend........maybe you aren't his type........maybe he doesnt mix his personal & professional life. I dont mix business & pleasure. I have work friends & personal friends.... keeps life simple.
There could be THOUSANDS of reasons why he didn't call
and they may have ABSOLUTELY nothing to do with you.
If you really want to be nice then try doing something without
expecting something (including a thank you) in return.
Happy 2007!!
2006-12-28 10:44:12 · answer #7 · answered by Trish 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
umm ouch i know that u are probably mad but that is not very nice, maybe if u reread what u just wrote u would see why he does not call. even if he is overweight that does not mean he is anymore indebt to u or should be anymore thankful for ur number than anyone else
2006-12-28 10:44:53 · answer #8 · answered by pandabear 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My question would be why did you give him your picture and phone number, he sees you every day, and the phone number? You are interested in him and his appearance has nothing to do with it. Be honest and let him know you are interested and want to go out some time, some men are very naive in this area.
2006-12-28 10:45:41 · answer #9 · answered by XMAN 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it really doesn't matter what his weight is and I think that you think he's a lonely guy because he's overweight. That may be true for him, but if he doesn't thank you because of your generosity then he probably is just a cold-hearted guy who probably wants to be left alone. Hey, you did what you could right?
2006-12-28 10:44:31 · answer #10 · answered by Jennifer N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋