should i stay with him .. or just move on ?

Question

okay so im 14 and ive been with this kid for 3 years now, i love him very much .. people tell me im to young to love but this feeling i have is love, i just know it. i want to get over him so baddly, he treats me like an angel, but he always breaks up wiht me becuase hes so insecure about himself. whenever we break up he usually finds another girl and immediately supposedly likes her, but always tells me he loves me still and the feelings he has for me will never change. and hes known to be a jerk in my school, and everyone that knows him sees that when hes with me, hes just a totally different person (in a good way). and sometimes hell get mad becuase he thinks i screw up the relationships he trys to get, but its relaly just him. but when i try to move on to other guys, he pulls me rihgt back in ! .. what should i do ?

Answer 1

Move on down the road.
You're too young for drama like that.
Just live your life and don't worry about who you're with.
Either they come along for adventure or they don't.
Be your own person!

Answer 2

well when he trys to get u back just say no it will be so hard but u have to make him understand that this is not right and that it is hard to do u might not want to but u have to it will be a good thing to do even though it might hurt it will better u in so many way that u never knew u will b-come a stronger person and u know he only dose that cause he know that u will always come back to him and u need to stop letting him control u feelings and to all the answer that u get about just move on tis not that easy when u know that person and been off and on wit them for a while it is even harder and that u justt have to move on and jus think of u for a while yes u will think bout wanting him back but u have to think of it like this U need to try something new but first let the past stay in the past and LET IT GO it will be good to cry let ur feelings out but he needs to know that this is old and need to stop ASAP good luck and u will get over it, it will just take some time i know cause i went though the same thing and now im over it and in some thing new

Answer 3

You are very young and I'm sure there are many great guys at your school. If when he breaks up with you, he seems to like another girl...you should try to find another guy to like. Don't let him tell you what you can or cannot do. Be a strong person and allow yourself to enjoy your relationships. If he truly wants to be in a relationship with you than he will see that it hurts him to see you with another guy and he will end up coming back to you. Just give it some time. You are young and you will learn as you go along. Good luck

Answer 4

Hate to burst your bubble but at 14 (especially if you've been with this guy since you were 11) you really don't know what love is, this reminds me of the situation my older cousin was in and she deeply regretted staying with the same guy since age 11 she eventually got rid of him when she was about 30 and got married to another man, and the way you're already describing this guy sounds the same as her ex was he ended up a druggie, beating her and cheating on her with three or four other women and now has 5 kids (that we know of), but sweetie you don't know what love is at 14, heck I'm 24 and I still don't know, and the fact the he keeps pulling you back in just sounds like he's trying to control you....I wish you luck

Answer 5

Sounds to me as if he is playing a game with you just to get a reaction from you. Ask yourself this, if he really liked or loved you then why would he go off with other women and leave you on your own. You should just move on although this is a very hard thing to do but yet just remember that there are alot of other nice blokes out there for you. Good luck

Answer 6

He doesnt break up with you cause hes insecure, thats just a crappy excuse, if he goes off with another girl then hes just playin the field. Do u really think someone who is insecure would break up with someone who loves them constantly and go off with some other chick? You are still so young so just have some fun by yourself, cut off contact for a while and if he really wants you then you need to sit him down and tell him that you wont be taken for a ride and that if he breaks up with you one more time then thats it. You deserve so much better than him!

Answer 7

Since you're 14, I'm not going to tell you that you're too young to love, but I will say that you should not tie yourself to one person at your age. It sounds as if he's not very mature (but really, how mature is anyone at that age!) and his insecurity causes him to treat you badly. It might make sense to try to concentrate on friends, school, other activities and give the relationship a break.

At your age, you are bound to meet other guys. This guy is trying to control you and you are allowing it.

Answer 8

He's the classic badboy, like a little puppy, he's gonna piss and **** on everything, tear up your stuff, and demand all your attention all the while doing what ever he pleases. These people are fun to be around but they really dont help build you up as a person in any way.

You shouldn't worry about johnny narcicist running around being a player, concentrate on your self and develop yourself as a lady so one day you'll attract a real man.

Answer 9

Indeed you are too young and so is he. This relationship will most probably end when both of you will go to college (hopefully in different colleges), in the meantime start telling him that you cannot see him as often as you did as your studies make it difficult, and give it some time, gradually, the relationship will start to cool off.

Answer 10

I think you should move on because you are young only 14 and you can find someone else who won't be breaking up with you every second. I mean honestly thats a bit ridiculous.