In my case the reason of him breaking up with me is he is already bad at handling stress from college and me wanting attention(not too much, just about 1 or 2 or 3 phone calls every day since we are long distance) adds to stress. We broke up before, and i chased him back. Now i stopped talking to him, wanting him to miss me. I think he will since he's not a ladies' man and i'm his first gf(it's been for a year). So i've been doing this cut off contact with him thing since he wants to be single again. I'll just let him experience the other side of the grass and hopefully he'll realize what he missed.But after a week and a half, now i found out he maybe have to be academically dismissed(the best result is on probation.it would be his last semester in college since he's a senior).So i wonder now should i still not contact him at all or send a email saying i'm there for him. But that way i'm afraid he's gonna take me for granted again given our history. What should i do?contact or not?
2006-12-28 10:15:18 · 14 answers · asked by little asian gal in cresent city 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
by the way, i dont think he'll ever tell me this. It's important to him to maintain his childish man ego so i dont think he would ask for my help or anything. How should i handle this? he probably doesnt even want me to know about this.
2006-12-28 10:18:36 · update #1
And please dont judge me for playing hard to get. I dont like games but he's a fan of it. Please remember this is his first relationship and he likes to play mindgames to show he's cool. I have to do this in order for him to come back on his own.
2006-12-28 10:26:02 · update #2
Since you are his first girlfriend, it is probably not going to work out between you two (well at least now). I think that you should move on. It is his problem about school and you should take no blame for it. This relationship is not healthy and you should play the field.
2006-12-28 10:23:19 · answer #1 · answered by pumpkinpie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't cantact him, he sounds slightly better off.
What do you mean he took you for granted?
2 phone calls a day is quite a bit, most guys would probably prefer everyother day at most.
It souds like he's a man taking care of his business, he is trying to do well in school, and he can't deal with the attention you are demanding of him. I am glad you seemingly want to help him, and be there for him, which is very sweet, but what exactly is he missing? Leashed down by his girlfriend and having to call three times a day?
2006-12-28 18:24:31 · answer #2 · answered by Akshun 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd suggest an email letting him know that you're waiting for him when he's ready.
A phone call puts him in the position to stop whatever he's doing and get to the phone and talk to you for however long the phone call lasts. An email is something he can get when he is available.
Also, since you are worried about him, I would suggest a very short, maybe two or three line email:
I just wanted you to know that I'll be here when you're ready for me again.
Sincerely,
2006-12-28 18:20:36 · answer #3 · answered by stevegoryan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said he is bad at handling stress from college and your excessive need to be reminded that you're the most important thing in his life. He's obviously failing at both. Cut him some slack and let him get his studies in order. If he graduates, then maybe he'll have some time for you. Right now he doesn't. Grow up. This is his future you're ruining. Leave him alone!
2006-12-28 18:26:38 · answer #4 · answered by neiner 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Try not to break up with someone. Think about it you don't want someone to break up with you if something bad happened to you they would probably help with what you were going though,so you do the same for them. Plus they might try to over you(I've been in that kind of position before ). If You have to break up with him/her do it in private so him/her will not feel as if you don't care about them. Make them feel special. After all that's is what you would want. Try to regard their feeling because remember is person is a human to you just can't say that it's over and not give a reason why you want to break up that could lead up to question about how they feel about themself because it could lead to be a big probably for you and that person.
2006-12-28 18:28:51 · answer #5 · answered by Neysha 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have never been one for mind manipulation, but I know some are....
Keep to your guns, you did not want to contact him before, you have proved to be one he can not rely on so why bother now...
Mind games will get you know where in this world, actually they are quit mean to someone you are supposed to "like". I figure youth is to blame for this but some people do not fall for these mind games, he maybe one of them.
2006-12-28 18:20:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him contact you if he wants to. He hasn't forgotten you. Maybe he needs some time to himself to get his priorities straght. If you are meant to be together, the right time will come for you to be together. Don't wait for him. Do your own thing and see how you feel. Your life is about you, not him.
2006-12-28 18:19:08 · answer #7 · answered by Laura Renee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you need to move on to another guy. Let him figure things out on his own. If he needs you he will contact you.
2006-12-28 18:19:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your trying to be hard to get, way too hard. just send him an e-mail and see how he's doing, also there's no harm in you calling him, instead of him having to do all the work.
2006-12-28 18:19:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop playing games. Figure out what it is you want, and follow your heart. Bottom line, just follow your heart and stop being so wishy washy! God bless****
2006-12-28 18:18:08 · answer #10 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋