So i've been friends with this guy for over a year now and i've gradually fallen in love with him. Well, he found out and we kissed (a while ago), but nothing ever came out of it. However, we're now even closer then ever... we hang out more often, we cuddle, he gives me these divine massages (in the middle of the store, but that's another story), etc. The problem is that he talks about other girls, so it just makes me wonder.
He's a big flirt, i know that much, but is there any hope? Please help me out cause i can't just wait around forever.
2006-12-28 10:05:26 · 21 answers · asked by eruname_alcie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This is always a tricky situation, and its often feared that the friendship might be ruined if the other person doesn't feel the same way. I think that if you two are 'best friends' and really close and have a healthy relationship, then if he doesn't feel the same way, maintaining the friendship should be easy.
I think you should tell him and for all you know he could be feeling the exact same way, and having the same fears! So take the risk. If you don't then you are risking a really good chance to be with someone in a relationship that you really care for.
Plan the right way to do it for you- whether that be on the phone, face to face, through a hand written letter, email or msn...whichever is best for you, the point is that you do it and get it out in the open of your relationship.
Just remember of all the great possibilities, that's why you should do it.
2006-12-28 10:10:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Was the kiss good... I mean did you get passionate and feel a lot of emotion when kissing him? That's usually a good sign that you might REALLY be good together, ...if you're really attracted to him like that = the animal magnetism thing. I believe there is hope and don't worry about him talking about other girls. Wouldn't you prefer that he be honest as to pretend not to be attracted to the opposite sex? It's great that he talks about other girls and isn't afraid to be honest with you. At least I think so. Good Luck!!!
2006-12-28 18:10:15 · answer #2 · answered by faithloveseternally 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be open and talk to him. Let him know how much you do care and that you would like your relationship to go further if possible. If you don't let him know then you can't expect him to make the right moves.
If he doesn't feel the same it may hurt but at least you would know where you stand.
2006-12-28 18:10:37 · answer #3 · answered by vancie121 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only he can tell you if he likes you. I don't know if this is true, but i heard that guys talk about other girls around the girls they like to make them "jealous". Hope things turn out ok.
2006-12-28 18:11:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
im a big flirt and i can tell u this much that he does like u and he might jus be trying to make u jelous or hide the fact that he likes u becuz some guys arent that open up about their feelings
2006-12-28 18:12:17 · answer #5 · answered by clowndude915 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
does he talk about the other girls in a way that makes you think he'd prefer to date them over you? or is it a casual sort of talk? either way, ask him about where he sees your relationship going. sometimes its just like a game (he's a big flirt/...)but people dont realize how deep other people can fall into it.
2006-12-28 18:10:50 · answer #6 · answered by ~*Suz*~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, first, get him alone and talk to him. make it clear that you want the truth and ask him if he's cheating, and ask him what he really feels about you. also, it he says he's not cheating too quickly, don't trust him, i've been in your shoes before, not fun eather! ask a friend to spy on him, or talk to the girls he talks about. and if he makes it clear he's just "having fun" with you, move on and don't make a sceen! good luck, whatever happends!
2006-12-28 18:15:27 · answer #7 · answered by jenmatchmaker 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, do you know if he like you to because if he likes you maybe hes just doing all of the flirting and talking about girls just to get you attention because he wants to know that youre jealous so you would say something. so talk to him about it maybe thats just all you need to do.
to make him realize that you cant take it anymore
2006-12-28 18:10:00 · answer #8 · answered by Vanity Chick 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course there is hope. it is obvious that he likes you. Maybe he talks about other girls in front of you because, he wants for you to reconfirm how you feel about him. Try it. He may be shy...
2006-12-28 18:10:17 · answer #9 · answered by I'm Michael Jackson BAD!! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him and tell him how u are feeling cuz if you dont its gonna be killing you inside.. if he really likes you he will seattle down and just talk about you two.. but dont get too jealouse because you two arent datting yet that will probably be a turn off to him..
2006-12-28 18:10:18 · answer #10 · answered by pixiejvgurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋