Is it ok to be uncomfortable around sad ppl even though there cryin about ur dad? is it ok to wanna jst get away and go someplace happy? I hate goin to the cemetary i refuse to.
12 and confused
2006-12-28 10:03:44 · 4 answers · asked by Rickel 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Of course it is o.k. Everyone needs to grieve and to show their sadness in their own way whether that is public or private. If it is your Mom wanting you to go to the cemetery just tell her it makes you too sad. If she insists but it is just too hard for you, then ask a sympathetic adult to talk to her. My Mom 'thrives' on cemetary visits and I can't stand them and we're OLD. My dad died when I was 13 and it is still hard to go to the grave more than 40 years later so I choose other ways to honor him. You will find your own way. My 9 year old cousin told me an elephant joke at my dad's funeral and I think he would have enjoyed it so I sometimes tell myself the same old joke all these years later to help me remember him and get past the sadness.
2006-12-28 11:00:49 · answer #1 · answered by sw-in-gardener 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Everyone experience grief in different ways, some people cry, some people withdraw into themselves, and some people laugh. However you grieve for your father is okay. Just do the things that feel comfortable and the things that don't, do not do it. But make sure whatever decisions you decide today you wont be sorry for it tomorrow. For example, if you do not go to the cemetery you will never have the moment to make closure of that type again, but who knows you may not need that, but it's worth thinking about. God bless you and take care.
2006-12-28 10:11:42 · answer #2 · answered by Gee-Gee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its fine we all grieve at different stages and in different ways. Your family should understand that.
2006-12-28 10:37:17 · answer #3 · answered by wildpalomino 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's more than ok, lots of people feel this way
2006-12-28 10:09:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋