i have a wonderful guy who i love and who is amazing to me but as im a little overweight and come with a fair amount of love handles, i feel concious of this in the bedroom, so please could anyone advise of how to get over this to be a devil in the bedroom, i have started to exercise but just want ideas to help me asap!!
2006-12-28 09:59:54 · 22 answers · asked by shadow 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
develop your oral skills. nothing beats a good B--J--.
2006-12-28 10:02:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Share how you feel with him. Enrol with a slimming group where you will get group support and get him to go on romantic long walks with you, and long bike rides broken up with a healthy picnic. Intimacy is not just in the bedroom it is sharing thoughts, emotions and feelings so don't carry the burden alone. If your partner is in love with you as you are then it is you that he finds sexy and your body will only be a small part of it.
To have instant confidence go for a daring wax like a Brazilian that will drive him mad and make you feel great.
2006-12-28 10:06:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What I am about to tell you is SERIOUS, so don't take it a smart eleck answer. I met this girl once who was very cute, but similar in size to what you are describing. She had a serious thing for me but I couldn't see myself with a "bigger" girl. However, we had a few drinks one night and started messing around a little. This girl was very tantalizing and let's just say she paid extra special attention to me down below. **eh-hem!** You may be surprised, but that is a huge turn on for most guys. And she was VERY good at it, which makes a big difference also. After that, I was so attracted to her that I began thinking about her constantly at work and all the things we could do together, if you get my drift.
Try it out.
2006-12-28 10:06:01 · answer #3 · answered by A T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your not the only one with 'jiggly bits' He's obviously comfortable with your love handles, you need to get to know your partners' body and let him get to know yours...although at first you may feel shy even a little uncomfortable, once you are no longer so conscious about this in the bedroom, things can only get better.
2007-01-01 00:38:13 · answer #4 · answered by Chill_Out 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just when you are doing things with him ask what he would like. Or do something to him in different ways and ask which he likes better. If you do not like yourself then keep the lights low. But if he is with you then this really bothers you more than him. Just learn to make healthy choices and be more active. It will carry over into the bedroom.
2006-12-28 10:08:03 · answer #5 · answered by ronnny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st. make sure you're old enough to be worrying about the bedroom (I can't criticize you if your >18, I personally am waiting till Marriage)
2nd. You are in a relationship with a man you love and he loves you. If it gets to a point where you have the right moment, just don't worry. I find the person I'm with sexy, no matter what. If he is any sort of respectable man, he will be fine with your looks. (if he didn't find you attractive, then he wouldn't be dating you.)
2006-12-28 10:07:56 · answer #6 · answered by go2bermuda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to be VERY self concious in the bedroom cause of my weight, but when you have someone who loves you very much, that doesnt matter to them, they think you are beautiful no matter what. If he is telling you that you are beautiful and it doesnt matter to him, then he means it. The first time is uncomfortable, but once you realize that he IS enjoying it just as much if not more, then you will feel alot better about it
2006-12-28 10:06:52 · answer #7 · answered by tayvrc2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be yourself in the bedroom! It's good that you've started to exercise, but there's no need to wait until you're in better shape! Just go in there and jump his bones with all the passion in your being, and don't even think about yourself! He WANTS you to! =)
2006-12-28 10:06:20 · answer #8 · answered by CrackityJones_83 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you could try some dim lighting in the bedroom this will ease your conciousness and make your love handles less prominent also wear a sexy top which you dont actualy need to take of to get down to business
2006-12-28 10:03:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just keep working at that weight thing. not only will it build your self esteem, but it is a good idea for overall health. Hell, do it together, work out and play together. Eat better, exercise, your body will thank you and so will your bf.
2006-12-28 10:08:19 · answer #10 · answered by rabbi0230 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is not exactly 'stuck in a rut'. There are people out there that really are struggling and feeling like they are attached to a ball and chain. Yours doesnt even compare hun.
2006-12-28 10:45:11 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋