a girl and i were becoming friends, we sorta liked each other, but are both with other people. (she chose to be with someone bc she knows him better and i'm moving away and i chose to work things out with my ex) we both write poems and i use to write some poems for her, which she liked. i sent her some poems last saturday, and said "most of these aren't about you, yay for recovery." since then i haven't heard from her. do you think she is pissed at me?? i still like her a lot, but i was pissed off that she didn't come to say good bye to me before i moved away. how can i make it up to her?? how long should i wait to e-mail her to ask if she is ok?
2006-12-28 09:54:13 · 22 answers · asked by the w 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Good grief. Go do something else.
2006-12-28 09:57:37 · answer #1 · answered by Kokopelli 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Let it go! Remember the time you two spend together and more importantly... People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime.
Figure out which one she was.
When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally, or spiritually. They may seem like a godsend, and they are! They are there for the reason you need them to be. Then, without any wrongdoing on your part, or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled, their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered. And now it is time to move on.Then people come into your life for a SEASON, b ecause your turn has come to share, grow, or learn. They bring you an experience of peace, or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it! It is real! But, only for a season.LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons: things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person, and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life.
2006-12-28 10:06:11 · answer #2 · answered by New beginnings 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand how you may have felt but that was grimey. I know you are full of I am sorry sympathy right now. You did stick your foot in your mouth this time. I know if I cared about someone and he did the same thing, I would've cried, read the poems/note, and saved it in my files under true heartbreak. Though I was with someone else and I still cared about another that can do true damage. Give her a few days maybe a week, but write her or email her and tell her you know what you sent was f*cked up, but that is how you felt at the moment. Tell her you didn't mean any harm behind it but still apologize and ask her if she would forgive you. Then give her time to respond. If she doesn't by the next holiday or 4 or 5 mo. from now, send a text or email sayin' "Im thinkin' about you." Nothing more, nothing less. Keep it plain and simple.
2006-12-28 10:03:28 · answer #3 · answered by BitterSweet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry she isn't speaking to you. You should know most girls are sensitive about that kinda stuff. If she likes you it must make her sad to hear you don't like her back. I think you should email her ASAP and apologize and tell her how you really feel. Hopefully that will help make things better. My guess is that she didn't come say bye to you when you moved because she was sad to see you go. Chin up!
Hope everything turns out ok.
2006-12-28 10:00:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she was really in love with you. Moving away and not taking her with you or at least trying to make the relationship work probably hurt her like you thought she wasn't worth it. Unless you tell her you made a mistake I think you guys are pretty much done. Sorry.
2006-12-28 09:57:37 · answer #5 · answered by lilmama 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me ask you a question. Do you get goosebumps when you are around her? Can you picture yourself with her in ten years? You know when you have met "the one" If this is that person, than you have nothing to lose. Just email her, say hi be patient. If she really likes you, you won't need to beg her for forgiveness, mkay?
2006-12-28 09:58:10 · answer #6 · answered by jamie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She probably took offense in what you said (don't understand why) but to tell you the truth if she misses you she will come back and continue with the friendship, but I suggest you move along. Good luck!
2006-12-28 09:57:50 · answer #7 · answered by shygal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you probably shouldn't have said "most of these aren't about you" because then she found out that the poems you wrote were about herand she probably didn't like that. she might be upset. you should email her back saying that your sorry and you didn't really mean what you said. you should probably email her back soon to ask if she is ok.
2006-12-28 10:02:24 · answer #8 · answered by curvyspine 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the peoms were nice and and you said they werent about her that might have hurt her feelings. Girls like things to be about them (men do too). I would email her a sweet poem and tell her its about her. Maybe she'll come around. Lotsa luck...
2006-12-28 09:57:38 · answer #9 · answered by Chicago Girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you both were cheating on your lovers. Not good. She probably hasn't called you because she has found a person she loves and is probably forgotten you or wants to forget about you.
2006-12-28 09:59:49 · answer #10 · answered by Crystal:) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she really cared about u she would of been there to say good bye i know i wouldent miss someones goobuy but then again it might of been to hard who knows id send her an e-maiol askin if she was ok and lettin her know it hurt that she wasent there and then leave the ball inher court
2006-12-28 09:57:58 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋