I am seeing this great guy. He is everything I have ever wanted in a man. He is smart, funny, Kind and totally into me. I would love to see this go somewhere.
The only thing I am worried about (and it is not holding me back) is that he is a large guy. By large i mean 6'3" 340lbs. I think that he is cute and I don't go much by physical looks but I am worried that when it comes time for us to have sex I might be turned off....?!? That sounds shallow I know, but it is a real thought running through my head. I have never been with anyone that size before. I have always been with really skinny or hard bodied men. I like him a lot and want that kind of relationship with him (i think... it is still early) I am just a little nervous like I said, I don't really know how to feel about it.
I want to say again that the way he looks is not going to hold me back in moving forward in the relationship but physical attraction does play a role in a relationship too.
What do you think?
2006-12-28 09:53:31 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Aww...you are so nice! If you really like him you should try having sex with him when you ready. You havent given him a shot yet, so just give it a go!! I know what you mean by being turned off, him being a large guy. But you being with different people and trying new things is a great thing. That means that your a really good person at heart! Good Luck to ya!
2006-12-28 10:00:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a big guy with a smokin hot wife who enjoys the lovin. I am not that big but I could use a month on the fat farm.
You need to ask yourself what part of sex is important to you. Is it the act or the intimacy. If it is the closeness you enjoy you will have no issues. If you are looking for a six pack to get you off then you need to find an air head that answers to "Dude?.
2006-12-28 10:00:14 · answer #2 · answered by Thor H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he's that important too u then physical should not bother u much..i agree every relation satisfaction is a must but then things can be worked out if both d partners care for each other then they know how to make each other feel good...attractions not all about a relation..try looking more forward to it if d guy feels for u strongly neglect such small differences..life has more to give than take.u have too understand this things cant be perfect u must be having some flaws too... isn't it??so it's never perfect but one tries to make things perfect without hurting and caring for each other
all d best
2006-12-28 10:04:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are focused too much on the physical attributes. I never dated a man over 150 lbs and 5 ft 8 inches tall until I met my current significant other. He is 5ft 7 inches and weights about 250 lbs and I am crazy about him. He is so gentle and warm, like a big teddy bear. I would not trade him for anything.
2006-12-28 09:58:24 · answer #4 · answered by happydawg 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You wont really know until it comes down to the knitty gritty.
I dated a big guy (6', 260lbs) and I thought I wouldn't be turned off....but I was.
I don't need a hard bodied or skinny man, but his obesity really did kinda turn me off.
It was when he walked out of the room & I saw his butt.
2006-12-28 09:59:16 · answer #5 · answered by Miz D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good sex requires passion and you don't usually get the from the physical aspect its the way he makes you feel in the moment. Go for it, really it is no different then dating any other guy.
2006-12-28 09:59:03 · answer #6 · answered by a h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should be open minded and go with the flow...you already like him, therefore when it comes time to have sex, his size shouldn't be an issue...just remember there are no perfect bodies...
2006-12-28 09:56:34 · answer #7 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a ride on the roller coaster and find out if you like it. :) You'll know if you need to get out of the amusement park or buy another ticket after that!
2006-12-28 09:57:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're not physically attracted to him, then don't waste your time with him. Just keep him as a friend.
Looks are the most important thing in life.
2006-12-28 10:01:12 · answer #9 · answered by NJboy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, I'm 6'0" 250 so I'm chubby and girls love it. I am very turned on by chubby girls. Trust me, when it comes time for sex, you'll love the feeling. You can email me to talk about it more..
2006-12-28 09:56:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋