Should I expect my mother-in-law and I to get along now that I am pregnant?

Question

I married my husband 2 years ago, we have been together for 5 very happy years. His mother disliked me from day 1 because I "stole her son" away from her.

He is her only child and she hasn't had a boyfriend in years. Luckily, since we married she has "tried to embrace" me and is no longer mean to me.

I am pregnant with our first child and when she found out she kept crying from actual happiness! She said she was so happy that she was going to be a grandma and knew I would be a wonderful mother.

Do you think we will finally have something to bond over? I am not expecting us to be best friends, but it would be nice for us to maybe shop for the baby together or finally have something in common. We have very different personalities so we don't hang out.

Answer 1

This is the perfect time to make your relationship with your mother in law to be the best one!
Include her in, ask if she would like to do the baby sounds, they sell it at the maternity stores, and maybe she would like to join you at an ultrasound, especially the 3d ones, where it does not contains with your medical information.
Ask her questions, as you would with your own mother, let her help you on baby themes in the nursery, and let her do a nursery at her house for babysitting so you can get a break.
Shop together, and with your mom too.
This will be so healing for the both of you, and you both have one common thing, your husband, her son, you both love so much, and she gonna love her grandchild and spoil the grandbaby.
Keep her involved in your child life, her life and the baby life will be enriched of this relationship.
This is A God Send of answer, for you, of approval of this marriage!

Answer 2

Okay, so you've both had a personality clash for years. She felt that she lost her son rather than gained a daughter and you felt very territorial as well. We women are a little strange that way.

First of all, he was her only child. Do you know why she might not have been able to have any other children? Have you made an effort to befriend her? She might just feel closed out and that may make her feel angry and hurt. I'm an older woman and I remember feeling that way for awhile.

My daughter in law started reaching out to me and we have become very good friends. No, we don't hang out. I'm an old geezer and she's busy raising my granddaughter. I try not to overstep my boundaries, but I feel very territorial about my granddaughter as well. And so does she. That's really very normal and once we were able to express it to one another and recognize that it really had nothing to do with us.

If you don't like each other though, no amount of babies is going to change that.

Answer 3

I wouldn't expect a lot. But if you are actually getting along you should ask her to join you in some baby shopping. Ask for her opinion on somethings that you plan on buying for baby. It will make her feel like she has some control, but remember YOU need to still be in control of you own life so I would keep it to decisions that really are not a huge deal. a bit more food for thought many of my friends have different personalities and it makes hanging out interesting and usually in a good way.

Answer 4

She figures that now that you're gonna be a mommy that you will understand where she was coming from when she thought you were stealing her child from her. The same thing happened to me and after my child was born my mother-in-law and I became good friends. Give it a chance, for your baby's sake. Congrats

Answer 5

Could be, It sounds like it. You will definatley have a new bond with her and you could become friends. Congradulations and Good Luck!

Answer 6

This could be a start for something to bloom just don't be disappointed if it doesn't go the way you wish.

Answer 7

she just wanted her son all to herself (freaky) she's just sad that he's gone now, she'll come around sometime. just give her some time