He tell me that she was just a one night stand, should i believe him or just move on.
2006-12-28 09:41:03 · 43 answers · asked by Grand Ma Jay 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I put this in for my girlfriend who has experience this situation. She is reading all the answer and some are very helpful. I hope she take most of these answers and use them and move on.. Thanks a bunch to all with the serious answers.
2006-12-28 09:59:13 · update #1
Here's what you do. You make him BEG you to take him back. Make him REALLY work for it. Tell him you need a couple days to think about it. After a couple days, tell him you want to meet him for dinner at you FAVORITE place (wherever that is) and you will meet him there at a certain time. Tell him to GET A TABLE and you'll meet him there. Now, here's the fun part. When he shows up, you're not going to be there. You need to write him a letter, go to the restaurant early, and describe your BF to someone who will be likely to meet him at the door. When he gets there and has waited around for awhile, the waitress brings him a sealed letter from YOU. He opens the letter and it reads, "Dear _________, Now you know what it's like to be screwed and feel empty inside. Enjoy your dinner ALONE." Never talk to him again. You may have to give a good tip, but it will be worth it!
2006-12-28 09:51:54 · answer #1 · answered by A T 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey, do yourself, and your boyfriend a favor and move on.
His ex apparently still means a great deal to him. Whether he realizes just how much or not, she's in his life and regardless of whom he's with, if he can do this once, he can (and very well might) do it again.
What you might want to be concerned with (especially if you decide to give him another chance) is who the ex has been with in the mean time. What kinds of things is your boyfriend giving you for Xmas that you don't want?! Chlamidia? Pappilloma? Shingles? Siphilis?
Another thought is, since you aren't married, you are his girlfriend at this point only, right? How many other women might he find himself "weak" around? If he's unfaithul this early on in the relationship, how can you trust the guy when you're supposed be with him for the rest of your lives?
I say confront him, advise him that this is a deal breaker and find out what he has to say. It sounds like you already did confront him, but perhaps, since you're asking on here, you need to do it again. It appears the answer he gave you doesn't put your mind at ease, does it? And if you're asking yourself (and us) this question, after hearing what he had to say about it, it sounds like you already know the answer. Right?
2006-12-28 09:48:18 · answer #2 · answered by stevegoryan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on. They have a history together and they also have a baby. They will be in each other's lives forever and apparently, they still cannot get over each other.
Had something like this happen to me, too. Guy was involved with me and his ex. Went back with his ex. Got her pregnant. Married her (because they known each other since high school and because it was the right thing to do, according to him), she miscarried, ended up pregnant a couple of months later and then, what happened? Two babies 13 months apart and they are divorced. Still asks about me, though. But, why deal with that bulls-h-i-t? move on.
2006-12-28 09:46:33 · answer #3 · answered by uchaboo 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweet heart your boyfriend is cheating on you. And what make's it worse it's his baby mother. Hello. This is a women that he has to see until his child is 18. It's not like he had a one night stand and will never see her again, and you both can move on. No this is a women he still has to see.And this women his child mother is laughing at you. She knows she can still get him, in bed when she whats too. This person, your boyfriend, is only your boyfriend. You need to ask yourself can you live with this for the next 30+yrs of your life. Is this man a match for you.If you stay your always going to worry and be under a lot of stress.And one day your going to realise this is not wroth it. I just hope you open your eyes now and not waste years. Right now you got your eyes wide shut. You need to read ten stupid things women do to mess up their lives by Dr. Laura C. Schlessinger you need to build up your self worth, you need to love yourself first before this man.He will do it again. Trust me on that one. And not only will he cheat on you again with the baby's mom, he will cheat on you with other women too. Why not he got away with it. A man will keep doing things as long as you let him, get away with it. Ask God to give you strength.
2006-12-28 10:07:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to tell you this but dump him.
First he had a relationship with a girl long enough to get her pregnant. Then he goes BACK to HER even if he has you. Sorry but that's a big signal that he enjoys her more than you. No offence darling....
I feel for you
No need to stick with a guy that is so low. Just dump him and you'll feel better. Trust me.
Good Luck making a decision! Whatever decision you make, I hope you'll be happy at the end!
2006-12-28 09:51:39 · answer #5 · answered by ace_star_sl 461 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im married to someone who has a baby with a girl that was supposedly a one night stand. I know he dont care about her because we have undergone some situations with her. But if i found out that she cheated on me with her, it would so be over. I would not be able to forgive him ever. That would just hurt me too bad. It would be much easier to leave if i wasnt married or had two girls with him. So you that he is just your boyfriend i would take the oppertunity to leave now. Wish you the best, I know it hurts.
2006-12-28 09:47:32 · answer #6 · answered by Jenn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the choice is yours to make. If you feel that you can make a go of this relationship then by all means do so. It's easy for "outside people" to tell you to just leave him because all they know is that he cheated. Yes there are those who continue to cheat and there are those that make bad choices but sincerely learn from them. Let's hope that your boyfriend is one of them. I wish you the best of luck in your relationship:)
2006-12-28 09:53:24 · answer #7 · answered by albert 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello! Wow, quite a few responses you have sparked. I would leave him, because he is not committed to you. And he has disrespected you, so pull your self together and move on. It is hard to end a relationship when ever you have strong feelings for someone, but she will always be around & you will always wonder! So be the smart one and put an end to the drama-be patient someone nice will come your. good luck
2006-12-28 09:59:59 · answer #8 · answered by Ms. Nicki 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It couldn't possibly be a one night stand since they have a child. If I were you I'd get out now for two reasons.
1. He cheated. No one should ever put up with that crap.
2. They have a child together and it is in the best interest of the child that his/her parents be together.
Good luck to you and God Bless!
2006-12-28 09:45:43 · answer #9 · answered by The OTHER Boelyn Chic 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
move on, this sounds like a bad deal in the first place, if she has his child then they will always be connected, so you have to trust him when they are together doing things with and for this child, obviously you can't. ask him if its' the second night stand since it seemed that the first one night stand got her pregnant in the first place.
Unless you have Britteny spears money, you shouldn't date idiots like this.
2006-12-28 09:48:57 · answer #10 · answered by artist-oranit.com. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋