Money owed?

Question

I got into a financial jam and I owe my mom $200.00. She's being really pissy about it and I'm doing all that I can to get her the money back. Is she wrong for being mad at me? We all have responsibilities and I know that $200 is a lot to owe someone, but, I am working hard to give her money back. Should I be upset because she's angry with me and talking badly about me to my other siblings?

This is actually the first time I've ever had to borrow money from my mother. I'm a very independent single mother. I can't even remember the last time I bought myself something new. Any extra money I ge, I spend on my son, oh and I spend $7 to ge my eyebrows waxed every two weeks!

Actually Jules, I've given my mom 100 dollars back, I only borrowed the money two weeks ago.

Answer 1

If your mother is willing to strain your relationship over $100 bucks, think about what that says about HER! You sound like a hard working single mom, holding things down, and the one time you needed a little help, someone rode your back about it. People wonder why a lot of people never ask for help...

I would let her know that I'd get the money back to her as soon as I can, even if that meant putting $5 in her hand a week or something just to show good faith. I think your mother is being unreasonable. And $200 is NOT a lot of money.

Answer 2

When you say you are working hard to pay her back, does that mean you have given her SOME of the money back, a little at a time? Could she be mad because she has not gotten ANY of it back yet? I have always thought that money and family don't mix, but then you would be upset if she hadn't helped you out. So, if you haven't done so already, start paying her back. NOW.

Your Mother should not be upset with you, as you are making a concerted effort. However, since money is never worth the trouble it brings with family, I wouldn't borrow any from her again.

Answer 3

I would call it a lesson learned and NEVER give things to anyone unless they have money RIGHT THEN. I would just ask, or say we really need that 50 you borrowed because tax time is coming up and you need the money. Otherwise consider this a stupid mistake and NEVER let it happen again. Maybe just forget about it and if they give it to you they do, if not your loss. That was a bad call giving a sons friend money, or anyone from outside your family. Just don't do it again, and I doubt she will EVER pay you for the clothes, thats a GIVEN! Good Luck I don't know them but it usually ends up being uncomfortable. Ask for the BOW back! Afterall you bought it. They can have it back when they pay you for it, or let it go and let it be a lesson learned.

Answer 4

A few things: Now you know not to borrow from her again. Secondly, if deep down honestly you are truly doing what you need to do to pay her back, then know in your heart your intentions are pure and this is about as much as you can do right now. You also, should talk to her and start with apologizing that you had to come to her in the first place, but it was very wrong for her to paint you so low in other's eyes. Remind mom that everything may look rosy for her financially now...but what goes around comes around. Don't let the shoe be on her foot.

Answer 5

Take it as a lesson learned: Never borrow money from Mom again. I've learned that lesson years ago. My suggestion is to just pay her back asap. If you can't get her the whole amount immediately, offer her installments so she'll know you have every intention of repaying her, and you're doing the best you can. Once it's paid, remember, don't ask to borrow anything again. I hate when Mom's do that...your's isn't the only one...trust me. Good luck!

Answer 6

Sorry you are going through this. We all have money problems from time to time. Go to your Mom and tell her your situation. Tell her you did not think she would be so upset with you. How long have you owed her the money. Anyway, decide on a plan to give her the money, all at one time or make payments, and do what you say you will. Don't worry too much about the other siblings, If they know you and your character, it won't be a big deal to them. Try to save money if you can, so you won't be in this situtation again. Good luck.

Answer 7

I'm sort of on a campaign to encourage people to NOT loan or borrow money. It just causes problems. I think it is wrong for her to talk about it to others and anger is pretty much the wrong word that should describe her if she's your mother, but nothing good ever comes from borrowing money. Neither a borrower nor a lender be, as the old addage goes.

Answer 8

Try to sit down and have a good talk with your mom. Explain to her your situation and how hard you are working. Let her know it is important to you to pay her back. Most likely this is just a miscommunication.

She has a right to be upset and maybe she's tight on money as well. But you have a right to be upset to if she's taking things out of hand and trash talking you to siblings. Communicate, communicate, communicate! Good luck to you.

Answer 9

I just got out of the marines and i loaned buddies money and never got it paid back. (more than $5 mind you.) I don't loan money any more even to family. she may have had similar experiences in the past and is taking it out on you because of that. I'm out now so i am barely getting by trying to go to college but i will manage. good luck and as long as she gets the money she shouldnt be as upset as she is. if it was going to give her big financial problems she wouldnt have loaned the money in the first place.

Answer 10

Think about what she is saying and how she is acting and see if you think she is justified in feeling as she does. Think about any times she gave you advice about money and what she said and see if you followed her advice. Ask her why she may need the money all of a sudden if this is the case. Ask her why she feels the way she does about you owing her the money. Tell her again that you are doing your best to pay the money back to her as soon as you can and to try to please understand your situation and don't forget to explain your situation to her.