how do i deal with my ex boyfriends new girlfriend?

Question

my ex boyfriend got another gf 3 weeks after he ened it with me and she is makin it really hard for me to move on from him. i really dont wanna like him anymore but everytime i think of him and try to move on reality comes in and i keep comparing myself to her, keep imagining how hes probabaly on the phone with her at the same time he used to be on the phone with me. i dont kno her (iv seen her) and she dont kno me but i kno for sure that shes seen me and to make matters worse she added me on myspace today (i dont see the point in that, acually i think that was rude of her). but anywayz getting another bf right now isnt easy cuz i cant seem to find another guiy im intrested in but i need to get over him but somehow i cant cuz of her. she really pisses me off. idk if its just b/c im not over her and she has him now or if its that and the fact that she got with him when she did. is this normal and what do i do.i need to GET OVER HIM AND MOVE ON but easier said then done

Answer 1

The GOOD news is, you know what you need to do. The BAD news is, you probably won't do it, therefore, causing yourself more pain. My sister just went through the same thing recently and she kept talking to him occasionally and thinking about him CONSTANTLY and especially about her. This is only torturing YOU, and there is no need for it. You have to look at this like a drug addiction, because that's basically what it is......the only way to cut it off is COLD TURKEY. Destroy everything you have involving him, delete him and her from myspace, and never talk to either of them again. Free yourself of the thoughts by doing something else with people you love and who love you back. Don't worry about another guy because it is too soon anyway. You have to FOCUS and force yourself to do this, or you will linger in pain and agony and unncessary jealousy. If it didn't work out, it's not meant to be and you WILL find someone better.

Answer 2

Its easy what you do is become friends with her, then you put yourself back in the driver seat because she is only doing this to annoy you cause she knows it bothers you so don't let her think it does, go a head except her as a friend on my space then take it from there.(Honey it will also give you closure). Once she and he knows it doesen't bother you they will stop, if not maybe you will acually have a BFF. Good luck

Answer 3

First of all, delete her from your MySpace. You don't need the constant reminder. Second, you are in charge of your thoughts. When those thoughts come creeping into your head, find something else to do... walk away from BOTH of them. You don't need to compare yourself to her... besides, you wouldn't want him back anyways!! I mean, he can't be trusted to STICK to a relationship...can he. Don't worry about finding another guy. What you've gotta do is live an interesting life... volunteer at a local animal shelter... get busy with friends... if you are interesting and busy, guys will want to be a part of your life... if you are moping about, worried about another girl, they will run away as fast as they can from you!!! Be the person you always wanted to be... and trust me, your self-confidence, ability to make yourself happy (rather than relying on a man to do it), and your cheerful spirit will draw men to you like flies. But... first things first... delete her from your MySpace account. No need to rub salt in the wounds. If she emails you and asks why, tell her that you just don't feel comfortable being her "buddy" since she is dating your ex. Be confident in yourself. You have alot to offer this world!!!

Answer 4

Its normal to feel that way. Just try to keep yourself occupied so you can forget him. Get a new hobby or better yet..hang out with the girls! that always cheers me up. Go clubbing or something. I think friends are the best medicine in forgetting your ex. If that doesnt work just remember that life goes on, and theres probably someone better out there for you! good luck and i hope you get passed this and move on to a better man! haha

Answer 5

Well, you should not be dealing with him. It is rude she added you on to MySpace, you should not let her be on there with you if she doesn't know you.
She knows it pisses you off, that is why she is doing it.
I think you need to calm down a bit, relax and do other stuff with friends and forget this dude. He obviously isn't interested in you anymore, and he seems a bit rude and vindictive actually because why would he keep flashing her off to you unless you are being annoying and calling him and trying to get back with him?

Answer 6

ignore her. if it makes u feel any better delete her off of your friends and try to stay away from your ex bf and his new gf. what happened already happened and u can't go back and change it. just accept that he chose to be with her and probably lost a really nice person in the process. so don't let it get to you. hope this helped.

Answer 7

She is not the problem, you are.

You are one who is comparing yourself to her, you are the one who is living in the past.

Get over him and move on is much easier said than done, but it is the only way to stop worry about her.

A relationship is a living thing, and when it dies we morn it. You are still morning yours. The easiest way of getting past that isn't to think of it as moving on but rather "letting go." You have to let go of what you two were and let him be free, and let your self be free.

Let Go.

Answer 8

omg honey we r in the SAME EXACT BOAT. except my exs new gf i completely hate her. and he got with her 3 DAYS later. and i just cant seem to find anyone either. i just thought id let u know ur not alone. if u need anyone to talk to messege me on yahoo (brunetteofyourdreams) or if u have AIM then i am mountaindewglitr

Answer 9

you are letting her ruin your life, she has your ex and now she has your dignity. or she honestly does not know who you are, why are you in contact with them at all is beyond me.
you will find someone else and it will be easier to move on. try and avoid them both and the sooner you will occupy yourself elsewhere the better it is.

Answer 10

first stop comparing yourself to her, you will just make yourself miserable. try hanging out with friends doing fun things. seems like your not truly over him, don't let his gf bother you so much.