How come break-ups have to end ugly. Why not just say, it has been fun, I enjoyed it, maybe we can get together for a drink some time, later I'm out. Why do things have to get so emotional. Why can't people accept that some things aren't made to last forever?
2006-12-28 09:34:46 · 18 answers · asked by Susan 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
because there is always someone who does not want the relationship to end, therefore an ugly breakup.
2006-12-28 09:37:57 · answer #1 · answered by ohiomontana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have had a lot of experience with breaking-up. I have dated my present b/f for 10 years on and off. I always did the breaking up. He never did. Apparently his love was stronger than mine at the time. When I would break up, he knew it was only temporary because I had a lot of stuff to get straightened out in my emotional state. I stayed away once for 1 year and 1/2. That sounds like a long time. We talked on the phone, e-mailed, IM each other and sometimes dated. So were we really broken up, I would say not. There was always something, like signs, that we were meant to be with each other. So now after 2 years of being together again, I have remained with him without any breakups in between and just work on our issues. So far it has worked. Once you are involved in a long-term relationship, it is very difficult to let go. If you dated someone casually, then that should be easier, unless the other one is big-time into you. Either way breaking up stinks. As most people will say, it takes time, and nobody wants to wait, they want it to all go away.
2006-12-28 09:47:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
relationships are the deepest emotional attachment to another human being. A break-up is a big betrayal especially if your the one being dumped. Best thing to do is spend some time alone and figure out what you learned from that relationship. Think about what you will like and won't like in your next partner. A lot of break-ups happen because people don't stop to think and quickly move on to the next partner. Also, never keep an ex as a friend. It will only prolong your recovery.
2006-12-28 09:58:25 · answer #3 · answered by oscarmzqt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you're trying to convince yourself... if relationship beginning, middle and ends weren't emotional, why would you bother? Accept your emotions that you feel and hopefully they will grow less ugly. Remember you are just as responsible for how things turn out as the other person.
2006-12-28 09:41:52 · answer #4 · answered by Marla T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because so many are taught from a young age that love is supposed to be 'forever'...and marriage is supposed to be 'til death'...
Not all breakups are ugly, and if there was no pain then chances are we didn't really care a lot about the other person...but it's a shame that it often comes to ugly words and hard feelings...
2006-12-28 09:38:45 · answer #5 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its called a break up, because there is a break, damage has been done. Just because you are ready to move on doesnt mean the other person is. You want them to just accept it to ease your conscious. Sorry life isnt easy that way. Deal with it.
2006-12-28 09:37:53 · answer #6 · answered by fancyname 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is always one partner who initiates the breakup, and one who has a broken heart as a result of it. one who feels wonderful, and one who hurts. depends on which side of the fence your on as to if it gets emotional or not. some people have a hard time giving up on something, as they blame their self for it, and get depressed, and in reality there is little one can do if the other partner doesn't want them, but when ego's get hurt it tends to become ugly.
2006-12-28 09:39:52 · answer #7 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because that emotional feeling is still there, when a couple breaks up, they just don't want to accept the fact that is over, i guess from there it gets ugly
2006-12-28 09:38:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because most of the time only one person wants the relationship to end.
2006-12-28 09:38:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have thought about this issue a lot and have no idea why girls hate me when i dump them. Maybe it's human nature that we appreciate something only when we lose it. Many of us are too proud to accept our fault so we try to blame others for our own faults. My friend wants to divorce his wife but he is too afraid about what she would tell others after their divorce!!
2006-12-28 09:40:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋