Well.... On my dad's side of the family, my aunt has been stealing money from his work for 5 years. Now they won't get along and since they dont, our annual Christmas Eve party that we've had every year was canceled. And my aunt has been going to all my other familys parties and it's not fair because she is the one that is the bad one! How can they get back together? On my mom's side of the family my aunt is being mean to her daughter and her daughter fights back so the daughter got put under house arrest and she is staying at my house. Her mom keeps calling and she keeps calling my mom bad words. She made my mom cry. And she keeps saying she isn't taking drugs but she keeps acting all strange. Please help me!
2006-12-28 09:29:54 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Over the last ten years my family have all fallen out with each other and I got involved and ended up a lonely person. You don't say how old you are but if you are a child, teenager or young adult then make it clear to the adults that this is their fight not yours. The problem is, as I found out, that when you side with your parents against the others you will suffer for something you did not start. Let the adults fight, don't give your opinion on it to anyone in the family on who is good and who is bad, and make it clear to everyone that you do not wish to be involved. These are the lessons I have learned having lost all my family on both sides having got involved and took sides in these adult disputes as a young adult. Now they all talk again and I am still shut out.
You can love and respect your Mum and Dad without getting involved in their cr@p. My advice is to keep out of it and get yourself really good friends you can talk to about this and who you can go round to if things just get too much at home.
Hope everything works out for you.
2006-12-28 09:40:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your Aunt was wrong for stealing money from your dad's job (work). And she has been stealing from it for 5 years. It may, or may not happen for them to get along anymore. You must have trust in a relationship for one to work; be it a family member or a significant other. But when the trust is gone. You don't have anything. So, my suggestion is to have your annual Christmas party but send invites; just don't invite her. As for your mom's side of the family; there are two sides to every story. You will have your aunt's side and you will have your cousins side, but then their is the truth. Your family is about to find out the truth. my suggestion is; do not be naive in the process of finding out the truth. If it walks like a duck, it's a duck. If she is acting like she is on drugs, then she's doing drugs. Maybe that's why her mom is so angry.
2006-12-28 09:48:23 · answer #2 · answered by ricepat2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jenna, holiday parties are the least of the trouble. Your family needs help and you are in the middle of it. Don't worry about the holiday celebration, its really not that important. You'll just have to let the adults work out the trouble, there is little you can do except one thing and that is truly with your whole heart pray and ask God to bring resolution to this very upsetting situation. Good luck and God Bless.
2006-12-28 09:34:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well your Aunt that is the thief, you shouldn't want her at your party, you might have things missing when she leaves! Sorry but klepto is klepto! Now for your Moms sister, im kinda confused, if she is the one that seems to be on drugs, than she probably is, they will never admit, and always point the finger elsewhere! You, yourself can not bring your family together, it can only be done in time!
2006-12-28 09:41:35 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Enjoy the rest of the holidays with your mom and dad, and forget about your aunts. It is not you or your parents fault that your aunts are the way they are.
2006-12-28 09:36:21 · answer #5 · answered by Dulcinea 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude, that's messed up and i know the lady is your aunt but if someone was callin my mom bad words and making her cry, id be juvenile. bc in my family no one talks disrespect bc its wrong, im not tellin you to beat the crap outta ur aunt juss talk to her and tell her u dont appreciate her talkin like that. and if it gets outta hand call the police.
2006-12-28 09:34:39 · answer #6 · answered by i_<3_Jonas bois 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believe it or not, all familys have problems like that. Its hard to even have a family get together in my family, without a fight.
2006-12-28 09:33:47 · answer #7 · answered by tinamaries43 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you are involved in this whole soup, don't bother to interfere. Keep your heads up and high so they their arguments don't blow you off your head. Truth to you is simple when told from one angle but there are three sides to the truth; the truth itself, and both sides.
They are mature enough to handle their own affairs...do not worry.
2006-12-28 09:35:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't talk to them anymore. just totally get away from them. ur family will realize how much they miss u. or if u cant do that, talk with ur nicest and most trusting and most powerful or influential relatives. tell them whats happening. theyll tell the family. the family will wiss u and everything will be ok
2006-12-28 09:37:31 · answer #9 · answered by Kate 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are acting like children and rotten kids at that. Do not invite the trouble makers. It is best to avoid people who cause problems.
2006-12-28 09:33:11 · answer #10 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋