He'd prefer to play on playstation than talk to me!!!!?

Question

I'm seeing someone, I'm in a long distance relationship. I'm fine wit not talking to him everyday but when this guy waits about 3/4 days till he next calls, I can't help but wonder if he really likes me or not!. He's even told me he wants us to have a baby, although I've never heard "I love you" from him yet.
Also, I sent him an instant message on MSN and he replied sayin he can't type at the moment cuz he's busy on the playstation. I can't help but feel used, maybe he's using this "baby" talk to make me think he wants a future. Do you think I should call him now about how I feel and talk to him about it or should I leave it till he calls?!!!!! PLEASE HELP this is really important to me

Calling everyday is excessive, which I understand, but he doesn't call me for like 3/4 dayz, that's the issue

Answer 1

You both have valid needs, so you need to find a compromise. Agree on how often you should call each other, and set a schedule, like every Tuesday he calls you and every Saturday you call him. Then you won't have to wait and wonder when he's gonna call, and he won't have to wonder why you're upset.

Also, talk to him openly about the future of the relationship. Confirm that he does intend to be with you for the long-term, and that marriage and babies are a possibility (but make it clear that you are NOT seeking any promises or deadlines from him at this point, you just want to make sure it's not out of the question).

Give yourself a day or two to think about this and figure out what you really need, then call him. Do NOT have this conversation over IM, far too much nuance is lost.

Answer 2

He pretty much telling you that he would rather play with the Playstation then talk to you. If he was real interested in you, wouldn't he call you everyday to see how you were doing? Why do you have to wait for him to call after a few days all the time? And why do you have to call him all the time? See what I am saying. A person who is real interested in you would want to see and know how you were doing. But, this does not sound like that person. Maybe he is not interested in you or he has someone else that preoccupying his time.
Other then that, cut your loses. Wait til he calls. when he does call, ask him why did he not call sooner. Then, before he gets into that "baby talk", tell him straight out that you are ending the relationship and that you are moving on. That this long distance thing is not working and that you hope he understands. Then, tell him you got to run because you are real busy and do not want to be bother. Then, he will get the message. Unless you like feeling "used" (which you are ) and being his puppet.
Hope this helps. Leave him, cut your losses and go.

Answer 3

Long distance relationships can be tricky.

I'd suggest you start talking about seeing one another in person very soon. This will give him the oppurtunity to actually see you and experience you physically. Which, no matter how much you have in common, is going to be a huge factor in any future you may have with the guy.

If that is something that is out of the question then try having a little more respect for him. Find out when he is most easily available to talk. It you are like most of the women I have encountered over the internet, you probably want to talk forever when you call/he calls, and while that is fine sometimes, it can be extremely inconvenient.

Also, if you are are like many of the women I have met on the internet, you probably want to talk more for the sake of talking than anything else. It is not always easy to have a 45 minute-> 4 hour conversation about nothing. Maybe get a playstation of your own and find some common conversational ground.

Another thing you may try is finding an activity you can share while you are talking. Yahoo offeres a lot of games you can play while you talk on the phone or over the internet. Another great thing is rent a copy of the same movie and watch it "together". Most of the major networks like NBC and ABC are posting full episodes of their recently aired shows, so you guys could have a weekly "date" to get together and talk online or on the phone while you watch some of the shows "together". this not only will make the calls less boring to him, but it will give BOTH of you an endless supply of things to chit chat about.

If you are unwilling to try any of those things, do the guy a favo and break up with him.

If you do try those things and you still find you are unable to keep his attention, do yourself a favor and find someone who is as needy as you are. There are plenty of guys who wear there hearts on their sleeves and will enjoy spending 100's of boring hours on the phone with a woman too far away to touch. True they are generally less interesting and have less to offer, but if it a better fit and it makes you happier GO FOR IT.

All in all it is a decision YOU have to make, because only you can really know how you feel.

Good luck whatever you decide.

Answer 4

First of all, I'm sorry but long distance relationships don't work. I hate it too, but I've never seen one work. Second, any guy who can go almost a week without talking to his gf (there a exceptions of course) isn't really into her in the first place. If he would rather play a game or hang with his friends than call you at least every other day, than I say tell that freak where to get off. He ain't worth your energy! And lastly, ANY guy who is talking baby before he can say the L word only wants one thing. You need to call him, now, and tell him how you feel, and if he can't explain in detail what he's going to do to make if right and be the guy you thought he was, then tell him to loose your number.

Answer 5

He should be putting YOU before the playstation (especially since he does not call for 3-4 days). If he talks about having children and talks about a future with you, why does he not want to talk to you almost everyday?? My husband and I were a long distance relationship before we got married and when we first were talking we would talk every other day--then after we met in person a year later, we talked almost everyday. I think if he is serious about this relationship he would contact you a little more often--and definitely put you above his video games. I would call him and tell him how you feel or he may end up continuing this pattern. Good luck!!

Answer 6

If he's treating you like that why haven't you left him yet It sounds to me like he hardly has any time for you at all I say dump him because you deserve better then him he doesn't want no future with you his only love is that damn playstation the man can't even pick up the phone to call you and plus its a long distance relationship which usually comes to an end and I mean Bad end he could be messin around which could be the reason why he haven't been in contact with you so I say drop him now before someone ends up gettin hurt.

Answer 7

Rule #1. Long distance relationships NEVER work.
Rule #2. If I a guy doesn't tell you he loves you, he doesn't.
Rule #3. If a guy tells you he wants to have a baby with you, but spends more time playing video games than talking to you, obviously he only wants one thing.---okay that's not a rule, but it makes sense.
Rule #4. When in doubt with a guy, ignore him for awhile and act like YOU are too busy a few times. Then watch him squirm. If he really wants you, he'll work for you.

Finally, don't call him and tell him how you feel. All he cares about it how many points he can tally on his awesome playstation!

Answer 8

If you don't like the situation, break up with him. There are long distance relationships that work that don't even need calling every few days. Why does he have to say "I love you" anyway? Those are just words. Do you really want someone who'd rather play computer games than chat with you? Sounds like a bozo to me. What are you even doing in this relationship? Do you really think things will change if you physically get together? I can just picture it: You're living together, you're married, you have a kid, and he's a couch potato. Where else is this going?

Answer 9

If playstation comes more important than having a conversation with you then there is something else cooking in the pot. Be patient and you are going to save a lot on long distance calling but you might end up spending the savings on gas.....Cheer up girl. Don't worry. Self esteem and self respect is the keyword. Do not let any body take you for a ride.

Answer 10

It seems that he is not really into you as much as you are into him. He may like you very much, but he is not head over heels for you. Besides, you are just a date to him, a long-distance relationship, as you said. By the way, girls can talk all-day long, but guys can only talk for a while unless they are debating someone.
I would plan on getting together and see if the spices things up. If not, let him go. Besides, what kind of relationship can you have over the phone? You will either go further and hook up or the relationship will dissipate.
Best of luck to you.
Mr. M on "PlayStation."