If your girlfriend keeps lying to you about everything, is it ok to set her up to see if she tells the truth?

Question

Is it ok to see if she can be faithful when put to the test.

Answer 1

If you know she is lying to you all the time then yes it is totally ok for you to do anything you want (within the realm of legal stuff I mean) in the name of vengeance. It is perfectly ok for you to use and humiliate her, because that is what she has been doing to you.

If your true concern is to find out if she is a liar then setting her up is ok, but be careful. It can backfire. Women as a rule are less faithful and more egocentric after you have been dating for a long time. In the early stages it is the guy who is more likely to lie, but that is ok too because it is early and nothing is vested.

Make sure whatever "set-up" you plan will go unnoticed if she actually proves faithful, but, will leave her totally vulnerable and without any kind of excuse if you catch her lying.

If you do catch her lying, plan a magnificent evening make a great dinner, take her somewhere she has wanted to go for a long time, have some great sex etc etc BEFORE you confront her......

Confront her somewhere semi=public, this will not only add to her humiliation, but it will allow you to strand her soemwhere far from home by denying her a ride money for a cab etc etc.......

Make sure that that very evening you tell everyone that the two of you know about what happened FIRST. This will make it harder for her to manipulate your friends later on.

Remember that if you catch her in a lie, she is not deserving of you and you shpould not feel bad about anything you do or did, regardless of what she says or other ignorant people in a place like Yahoo chat say.

Also remember that there are always plenty of women out there, but it is very very very hard to find a good one that is not overly pompous. So if you have been seeing her for awhile, and if you want to keep her, use the ammo you got cataching her in the lie to take her down a peg, and as an excuse to make some rules that she might not normally agree too.

In all honesty you should probably just kick her to the curb unless she is really hot. If she is really hot, disinvest yourself from her emotionally and just use her, that is what she is doing to you......

Good Luck handling your problem, i hope it works out for you.

Answer 2

I don't think I would want to "test" her if I were you. You should not be sneaky like she is being. I think it would be smart to tell her straight out that if she continues to lie and be dishonest, you really don't see the relationship working out. Why would you want to be in constant worry about if she is faithful or honest. I think honesty is the most important thing in a relationship becasue without it it's fake and unvaluble to the dishonest person, and a waste for the honest one. If you test her she won't learn anything and will continue her bad behavior. And if you catch her at something bad or she thinks you're spying on her, she might just keep being more and more secretive. Good luck.

Answer 3

I honestly don't think that is a good idea for two reasons. Well, maybe more. 1. You don't like it when she is lying to you and yet you are going to lie to her? What a double standard. 2. If you already know she is lying, why the need to test her? Decide if you want to stay with her or not and make your decision. Setting her up helps no one and you'll feel horrible afterwards.

Answer 4

Well, no its not okay to set her up. Now if you know for sure she is lying, pull her to the side and talk to her. Its your choice if you want to work it out with her if she admits. If she doesn't admit and you are sure she is cheating , tell her you want to see other people and not just date her. See how she reacts. If she is okay with it, Im telling you go your seperate way, if she isn't okay with it , than it is love there. And you two should work it out. Choose if your girl is worth the fight, sometimes when you are young you don't want to be committed. She may feel like what you two have isn't serious, so ask her that.

Answer 5

You must not have real prove that she is lying. If I was you I put her to the test. Nobody don't need a person if there always lying. That's not a good relationship. And when you do have your prove, what are you going to do with it. Give her other chance? or let her go?Those are the question you need to ask yourself.

Answer 6

No, it's not okay. If you have issues with her faithfulness than that is your own insecurity. You won't believe anything she tells you anyway because you've already decided she is guilty of something, you just don't know what. Jealousy searches for proof to give itself validity. And that is what you are doing.

Work on your own self-esteem issues, don't torture her. As a wise man once said: "The jealous are troublesome to others, but a torment to themselves."

Answer 7

When you get to the point that your thinking about stuff like this, chances are if you set her up she will fail. Do you really want to go through all that ? She already lies about everything so why do you want to be with her ? Anyhow, I dont think its wrong to set her up. Its your life too and you need to know what is going on before you waste more time with her.

Answer 8

You could. However, after she passes the test, you will feel very foolish. And when she discovers what you have done she may break up with you. And if you are with someone you don't trust, you probably should not be together anyway. And you should ask yourself is it you with the issue or is she really giving you reasons not to trust her? Good luck and God bless****

Answer 9

It's not ok or right to set anyone up. It's sneaky and dishonest in itself. You are going to "trick" her with a lie, and then call her dishonest???? Just break up with her if you can't trust her. Playing games is just a waste of time and childish. No one will win.

Answer 10

i think you should give it a go if you know for sure that shes been lying to you then if she keeps doing it then maybe you should cut her loose, but until you know the truth about her lying dont act on it!!!