2006-12-28 09:13:23 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well not wanting to sound too old I would have to agree with you. They would not have much in common and it sounds like this lady must have a pretty low self esteem and is building it up by having this boy toy. She was having a good time and partying as a teenager while he was getting his diapers changed. Sorry there would be not much for them to talk about ie: music taste, news, past things alike.
2006-12-28 09:17:36 · answer #1 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
they may not realise it yet, but age is a BIG problam!!! depending on how serious they are for each other, but could end up being rather sad when they realise they are both at different stages in their life... she is older, therfor problams agreeing on when to have kids, she may want and he may not, or later on he may want and then her biological clock may not allow...forcing a wedge between them...
not to mention as she ages he will find ( he is a man) that he wants a younger woman... thats why my friend women go for older men, that way they will always be the younger woman!!
Love is not everything, i have three friends of various ages all with the same thing, all at least 20 years younger than their partner...and beleive me it does not last, and it is the older woman who ends up hurt...and the younger guy/girl who realises what a mistake they have made depending on the length of time of the relationship.
I wish them luck, unless it is a spiritual journey they are embarking upon together, i think they are making a grave mistake, but only they know wht they are doing and only they can make that mistake, let them be they will figure it out...life is a journey of self discovery, thru good and bad...even if it doesnt work out they will each learn a great lesson...
ps: i was 21 when i met my husband, he was 15 years older than me, i thought he was the perfevct one, being older, more settled ect as i beleived i was older for my years and knewlife, i couldnt have been more wrong, now we are getting divorced and i feelings of resentment ran high there for a while...we all need our youth, being with someone older just drains us of that opportunity...
2006-12-28 09:24:07 · answer #2 · answered by Katie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age does not matter when it comes to LOVE. I still like this guy that I got a crush on when I was 15. He is 13 years older then I but I don't care. I told him "He is the only one I would date in the Special Olympics". He did not say anything. It's hard trying to take to him sense he is much older then me. Just take dating an older person slow.
2006-12-28 09:27:25 · answer #3 · answered by chickswim77 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I won't judge him.
But for me personally, as a 38 year old woman, 20 year olds seem like kids to me, and I could never feel attracted to someone I see that way. It does seem strange, not on the part of the guy, but on the part of the lady.
2006-12-28 09:17:21 · answer #4 · answered by ifyousaysooooooooooo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's a little too much of a good thing . Women live longer so to have a mate a little younger than she is OK, but 16 Years seems severe . However, and here it comes : it is none of your business . Stay out of it, no remarks please and be polite to her . They are both old enough to know what they are doing . Maybe they don't care to raise a family so what's the difference .
I think we all answered you honestly and you are sophisticated enough to know how to act .
2006-12-28 09:22:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As yiky as it sounds. We are no one to judge. Maybe your bf could be concern or ur bf's sister/brother
You won't knw that, maybe at 20, the boy;s attitude and mentality towards life is already mature.
Well, there are chances that they could click intelligently.
But if u are really concern, get ur bf to have a heart to heart talk with his naphew. MAybe he doesn't knw love yet and can't justify the admiration his have for his "gf"
2006-12-28 09:18:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who cares. It shouldn't affect U so why worry about it. It's none of your businness. Is your life so perfect that no comment could be made on it. Or is there an alternative motive. If not, leave it alone.
2006-12-28 09:19:29 · answer #7 · answered by ub6 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that if you continue to worry about other peoples lives,that your life is gonna pass you by.Live for the day and live your own life,let others live theirs.Stop being so judgemental,and cherish your own blessings!
2006-12-28 09:19:07 · answer #8 · answered by fnocentelli 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well my father was 37 and he dated a woman who was 49... I thought that was totally discusting! Maybe it's the same for you. Also maybe its good for him to date an older more mature woman.
2006-12-28 09:17:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is really none of your business. He is a grown man, why are you so concerned with your boyfriends nephew? God bless****
2006-12-28 09:16:02 · answer #10 · answered by ? 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋