I am single. I really care about this guy who I have been talking on and off for almost two years. I date other people but it does not go very far because all I do is compare these new guys to the one (that is unavailable). It is not fair to the new guys and I am heart broken over this guy that can't give me what I need. I want it to stop. But I am not sure what the first move is. HELP!
2006-12-28 09:08:56 · 18 answers · asked by Christina C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
JUST DO IT
2006-12-28 09:10:27 · answer #1 · answered by dce1dg 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The guy is unavailable that means he is already married. Right?
In that case comparing other guys to him is useless and counter productive in my opinion. Sometimes our heart craves for that what is not possible. So you have to accept the fact that you have to move on from the dream world to the real world. It will be hard but not impossible if you give others a chance to prove their worth. Meanwhile I suggest if a thought about that person comes, let it come and pass rather than dwelling on them just let it pass. Ultimately you will learn to disassociate your self from the memories or the thoughts altogether.
2006-12-28 09:17:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first move is to remind yourself that your dignity and self-respect is more important than any guy.
What you are doing, however innocent it may seem, is helping this guy to be emotionally unfaithful to his significant other. Or, if the romantic feeling is all on your side, then you are attempting to steal him from her, and that is just as bad. You are becoming "the other woman," and you are better than that. You need to remind yourself that emotional needs come and go, but HONOR stays with you always.
Tell this guy you can't talk with him anymore, and that he shouldn't try to contact you, even on a friendly basis. You need to get him out of your system. Put away the pictures of him, delete him out of your speed-dial, and have a buddy you can call when the urge to contact him strikes you.
Keep dating other guys, and try to see them for themselves, the unique individuals they are and all they can offer you.
The best cure for heartbreak is to hold on to what's even more important.
2006-12-28 09:21:40 · answer #3 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the first move is simple... come on over to my house!!!
just keeeeeeeeeedeeeeeen, unless you want to... then hey, be my guest...
tell him you can't be friends anymore... it'll help you foreget about him... or do something you know you shouldn't do, so don't... or find someone that is like him no matter what, but if you do that then you will make more bad karma for yourself, than you already made... or maybe, just maybe, you can look within yourself for an answer instead of looking for an answer to your heart in all tha wrong places... all of these answers are the solution if you pick anyone of them, the choice is up to you, now you just need to choose the right one for you... peeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeace... .. .
2006-12-28 09:21:13 · answer #4 · answered by Tha Elite One of tha Gud Muzik 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should definitely read he's just not that into you....but I think that you should break all ties with this guy in order to move on sufficiently. That way it'll be easier to stop thinking about him and eventually his memory will be just a blur..... Soo you'll have a new criteria for the ideal guy and life will be much better.
2006-12-28 09:14:48 · answer #5 · answered by Cathy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's married you just need to forget about him. You don't want a long term relationship with anyone who left their spouse for you. They'll leave you for someone else. Take his number out of your phone. Don't drive past his house. Tell yourself that this is for the better and start concentrating on the available guys.
2006-12-28 09:13:24 · answer #6 · answered by allisoneast 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
playing perplexing to get is stressful, yet somewhat unavailability is effective. If the girl is in simple terms too accessible then it may desire to be much less exciting.. in all probability even lost pastime. a stable real looking stability is solid, do no longer attempt to tension something nonetheless.
2016-10-28 13:57:01 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first move is to take a one year break from all of it so that you can gain perspective! Time heals all things.
2006-12-28 09:11:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is not going to go any where with this guy, except maybe he will use you. you may feel heartbroken, but you need to get over it, as one of these new guys maybe mr. right and you are not giving him the chance to prove it to you
2006-12-28 09:13:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Beyonce said it best"Since I'm not your everything, how about I'll be nothing -nothing at all to you!" Move on! If he wanted to be with you he would be....you're the chick on the side.
2006-12-28 09:15:48 · answer #10 · answered by Kristy M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first move- tell him you are now unavailable
second move- quit talking to him. no contact. at least 1 year.
third move- get on with your life
2006-12-28 09:11:07 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋