absolutley anyone plz help! love life problems!?

Question

my bf and i have known each other since second grade. we sarted going out in sixth grade. everything has been perfect until now. i am starting to like another guy and i dont have as much feelings for my bf.he gave me a gift for christmas that does not help one bit, it tells me that he still loves me as much as when we started going out. but the other guy im starting to love and he said he loves me. we hug every day. he always makes me laugh. and got me a gift for no reason.. if u have been through this please help
and if u just have advice thanks in advance
well i hope i get an answer ( im in 9th grade)

Answer 1

You guys have been together for three years. That seems like forever when you are young!And actually, it is a long time for young people,lso consider that in your decision.. The fact that you have been aquainted since second grade does add special significance to your bond. That is why you are so torn. I would like to say, stick with the fella you have been with, because you do not really know this new guys intentions are pure.For that reason , you need to ask yourself, are you interested in this other guy because he is more exciting, and you want to explore something new? If that is the case, be forewarned. This may not be love at all, it may be your body talking.Not your heart. And thinking you are in love is easy to do when your body is telling you so. But really, that is lust, not love. It sounds like your current boyfriend is good to you, and you don't want to look back later, and say, "I wish I had held onto him." What if this other guy is just barking up your tree for the wrong reasons. He will not tell YOU that, until he has HAD you, and destroyed your love relationship with your boyfriend now. Be very wary, it sounds like a bad idea.

Answer 2

Well Lucky, If you really like this new guy and have lost feelings for your boy friend then just be honest about it. Tell your bf that you want to date other people. Breaking up is never easy, but do the right thing and don't string your bf along. Your young and you should be dating and having alot of fun. Your bf will be hurt, it really doesn't matter what you say. Nothing will make him feel better but time. Try to be truthful and sensitive. And don't feel guilty. People and feelings change over time. It cant be helped. Good Luck!

Answer 3

Try to think how you will feel like if your bf are doing the same thing? What if he find a girl to like more and wants to brake with you? What you will feel? Pain in your heart or release? In everybody life are coming moments like this, but you must choose: a friend for life - or few moments of supreme love? Maybe in the end the supreme love is a real friend. Try to imagine to whom you want to get old? Even if this you don't want to happen with none of them. And take care, maybe the second guy is like that with all the girls... are you sure about he's real feelings? You are sure about the first one, isn't it?

Answer 4

Mmmm Girl. YOu are way way way tooooooooooooo young to be worried about love. With anyone. Dont worry about guys. You will find the right one later on in life. Aside from the fact that you dont want to end up pregnant at a young age. Live life. Have fun, quit dating. Grow up first! Good luck!

Answer 5

I agree with the first answer. It's okay to be inlove, but you're young and trust, you will have plenty more guys you love before freshman year of college. Live your life and let the first guy go...he'll get over it....he has years to do so...just like you. If you guys find your way back to each other at thirty...then it was meant to be. but in love....it doesn't have to be convinced...it already knows. So if you're doubting your love for the first guy...then do him a favor and tell him the truth.

Answer 6

hi there, I'm in 11th grade and i know what ur talking about. well if u want my advice: follow ur feelings.. i mean even though u knew the guy for so long, a person changes over the years especially we as teenz, we change alot so if you dont wanna hurt his feelings or so and if u wanna really be with that other guy, just talk to him and tell him straight away..he must understand ur feelings...
u shouldnt suffer in love, so the guy that makes you laugh, the one that you really wanna be with, thats the one you should seek.


PS:do what you wanna do...make your choice een though it can be hard but just dont be lost bcoz it will affect you rlife in so many ways (ive been through all this)

I hope this kinda helps
:)

Answer 7

Honey you are too young to be worrying about your love life now. Take like with big strides and live it to the fullest. If you are not having the same feelings as before, then you need to talk to you b/f. And worst thing you can do is rush into something else with someone else. That only leaves one memory, if she did it to him, why won't she do it to me?!!!!!! Think of yourself and your emotions. Maybe this new guy does or say something that your b/f doesn't. That come with the comfort zone of a long term relationship.

Answer 8

cos u were sincere i will answer this,see i think the other dude is a joke if u bf has been with u for 3yrs dont u think is worth it? u know they say a bird at hand is worth more than a million in the bush u might date this new guy now and 2moro he will leave u and your real bf will say u betrayed his trust so he is not coming back but i can only advice so do what u please

Answer 9

If you love the new guy, and you are absolutely sure you are feeling nothing much for your bf, it's only fair that you break up with him, it can get pretty messy later if you keep dragging a relationship when you are thinking about another guy.

Answer 10

I KNOW KNOW KNOW that you will hear this a lot.... you are still young. You have to date, see what its like. Just the fact you have a doubt is proof you should date other people. Until you know for sure who you are with is the only one for you... dont hurt the other guy and yourself. Just be honest with everyone and mainly you- take your time and have fun.