When I lose weight, I will make all you shallow men pay?

Question

This is not a feel sorry for me thread or a question. It is simply a comment.

I have been overweight most of my life and see that despite my kindness and generousnesses guys always talk to my skinny friends and not me.

I have even met big guys that "only" date skinny girls. What is up with that?

I have had a guy leave me for a girl who weighed 112 pounds.

I have been losing a lot of weight lately and will continue to do so. When I do, I will make all you shallow hearted men pay. I will ignore, I will talk to your friend if you try to talk to me, basically everything you have done to me. I might even stop liking men for the anger that is in my heart. I know big girls will understand this.

Answer 1

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Answer 2

This is not a healthy way to be nor in the end will it get you the acceptance you want. Also think about it if the guys are shallow hearted it won't effect them enough to make them pay. They would have to have depth of feeling shallow people don't have. And if you did hurt someone then he wasn't the shallow person you were after hurting now was he. Making you just as bad the people you are talking about.

The guy who left you for someone that was 112lbs ask yourself this. Why did he really leave you? If it was THE weight issue he would not have been with you in the first place. So more then likely it had to do with a problem in the relationship that was not your weight.

While I can understand you are hurt and angry over feeling rejected this course of action is not going to make the hurt or anger less, in fact it may make it all consuming as you will not find the satisfaction of revenge you are seeking.

IF you want to lose weight for yourself then lose weight and be happy.

If not your only making your life worse and your the one to blame for it.

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Answer 4

I wish you a lot of luck with your weight loss goals. I have weight issues of my own - but - you know what.....I can't blame people for not being interested in me if they're not attracted to me....for WHATEVER reason. I see plenty of overweight girls & guys with boyfriends/girlfriends........so - no matter who are you - there ARE people out there who will find you attractive.

We don't live in an ideal world - and being kind & being generous are excellent qualities - but those alone won't snag someone who is more concerned with a person's looks. I'm not saying it's fair - I'm just saying it is what it is.

You said a guy left you for a girl who weighed 112 lbs....so - you WERE with this guy.....are you 100% sure that the ONLY reason this guy left you was because he found someone skinnier who came along?? There could be more to it than that - so be honest with yourself - and - if not - sounds like the guy was awfully shallow to begin with - so good riddance...he did you a favor.

I understand the feeling of wanting "payback" - but be careful of becoming what you now hate. If you are a kind & generous person - don't now NOT be those things for the sake of payback. A pretty girl who's mean & nasty is someone who will have a lot of one-night stands - but nothing long-term or meaningful, ya know?

You're saying a lot of things that don't really make a lot of sense (like stop liking men....can you just decide to "not like men" if you're a heterosexual girl??).............but - I understand the emotion & where it's coming from.

I wish you a lot of luck....maybe I'll be one of those lucky guys who meets the new you at some point.

Seriously - good luck....but don't let those good qualities fade out of bitterness, ya know? It's much easier to change the outside than the inside.

Answer 5

Perhaps, they leave you not because of your weight but because of your attitude. It seems from your post that you are full of it - mean attitude I mean.

I am not a skinny girl and have never been a skinny girl. Heck, I weigh 185 right now. I also have friends who are hefty and are in loving relationships. Perhaps you are trying to force something that isn't there and don't want to move forward. I think you need some counseling to let go of that anger.

Answer 6

So what you are planning is to become thin and then shun others based on what others have done to you? So your saying you want to be a skinny *****?
You know, it's just a sad fact that over-eating as well as over-doing anything isn't attractive to most people. Would you talk to the guy at the bar who is ****-faced drunk because of over-indulgence? Or would you find it revolting? Same goes for being to thin! OVER DOING ANYTHING ISN'T ATTRACTIVE. You can't be pissed of that a girl has enough self control to diet and exercise and gets the guy. She's making the effort..choose your route, getting the guy or the double-quarter pounder meal supersized with a Coke. Or Diet Coke usually.

Answer 7

I am a big guy, and even though I can relate to parts of your statement, it seems that you have been hurt. You have to make a choice, either keep the hurt going, or let it go. there are consequences to keeping it going, and the onlt one who will lose is you in the long run. I hope that you can feel good about yourself whatever you weigh and make the right decisions reguarding who to get involved with. I will pray that you stop hurting.

Answer 8

Awesome...I hope you make all men worship the ground you walk on. You can actually blog the whole process on this cool website. The homepage looks a bit incomplete, but the inside features are pretty cool. Good luck and I wish you the best in 2007!!!

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Note: you have to type in the "www." portion in the web browser otherwise you cannot access the site. I think they're gonna fix this soon.

Answer 9

More power to you hunny, but do you think you can change the world by being mean to any male you meet? Unfortunately, boys will be boys, and although I don't like their perceptions any more than you do, that's what society has encrypted into social norms. Truthfully, you should lose weight because it is technically unhealthy to be overweight, and because it may give you confidence, but not to get back at the men that have hurt you. They may never know the beauty that is within, and it is their loss, but if that is your motivation, then you may be disappointed too.

Answer 10

Meeting shallowness with shallowness, who wins? Sounds like you had a bad experience with an ******. Fix yourself and work past the pain of past experiences and the rest will follow. Happiness is not found through revenge.

Answer 11

not to be pointing fingers but you seem awful shallow and judgemental yourself. perhaps because of your
"kindness and generousnesses" you should give these guys a chance too. i cant tell if you are speaking of specific guys or just skinny guys in general.
i can see that you are hurt and i'm sorry about that but dont return that hurt back to the world, because it doesnt need any more of it.