She has a terrible cold while at the developemental stage of experimenting with her limits. How do I sympathise with her illness while not negating the disciplinary milestones we've already set?
2006-12-28 09:01:05 · 10 answers · asked by Eliza79 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
That can be tricky. Just know the difference between acting up because she's sick and acting up because she's just being 2.
For example, just because she has a cold doesn't mean can get into everything or make messes. If she's feeling well enough to spread her toys all over the living room she's feeling well enough to clean them up.
However, she does have a bit of a right to whine or be stubborn since she's not feeling well. She'll probably moan when you try and give her medicine or whine for her drink and that's normal.
2006-12-28 09:05:12 · answer #1 · answered by CelebrateMeHome 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋
You still have to adhere to the standards you have already set. While you may want to cave in since you know she is not feeling well, you can offer sympathy with the same expectations you have already set. Changing the structure of your standards will make it more difficult to go back to the "way things are" when she gets better. Stick to your limits, and just add in some extra cuddling time. They can get really cranky during an illness, but toddlers still have to understand that just because they are sick that they don't get away with stuff they otherwise wouldn't be allowed to. Do this, and you risk going backwards.
2006-12-28 09:08:52 · answer #2 · answered by dolphin mama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is a child and chances are she will not feel like doing much. Obviously she can not get away with blue murder, however a nice cuddle and some nice together time will obviously reassure her that you are still the carer and the best mother in the world in her eyes. Don't worry about discipline, just concentrate on giving her some time. Good luck and happy new year.
2006-12-28 09:06:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not allow her to do differently. If you make different rules when she is not feeling well, she will quickly learn that it is a good idea to be sick. She will also have a difficult time learning her limits.
I would stay consistent with everything that you have done, but include tons of hugs. Let her know that she still has to behave no matter how she feels. I just had this talk with my daughter who is 8 1/2. Good luck.
2006-12-28 09:07:47 · answer #4 · answered by jstimson4 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I have a 3 yr old boy and a 2 yr old girl. And when they are sick sick they usually just lay around like bumps on a log. If they are moving around and being their "normal" toddler selfs they usually arent that sick and I discipline them as normal USUALLY. However toddlers tend to be more fussy when they are ill and maybe misbehave as a way to express they feel bad. So a little slack should probably be given.
2006-12-28 09:04:38 · answer #5 · answered by armywife_racey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I may be a push-over but I think limits should be a little relaxed when your child is sick. Mostly on things like food (let them eat what is comfortable for them, even if its just apple sauce), or bed times (its harder to go to sleep when your sick, and if they're too sick to go to school its not as if they have to wake up early). However, and this is something I haven't had a problem yet, if you have a child who doesn't like to sleep in their own bed, I don't think you shouldn't allow them to break that rule. I had that problem when I was younger, but luckily my 3 (almost 4) year old will stay in her bed.
2006-12-28 09:06:49 · answer #6 · answered by Tiffany 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think there must still be some rules that are important to you, and these are the ones you need to stick to. I could imagine you might be more flexible around what she might eat now she is ill, but still be strict about bedtimes, for example.
When my kids are ill I still insist on a lunch tíme nap, although I let them eat less, and will still give them a yoghurt if they haven't eaten much. I still insist that they clear up their toys, but will let them watch more TV than usual.
2006-12-28 09:04:39 · answer #7 · answered by Sally E 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have 2 kids over this age. You are way overthinking this. The child is sick...screw worrying about developmental stages for a few days.
Keep her hydrated, resting, hugs and kisses, some soothing food, and lots of love.
The world and her developmental stages can continue once she's well.
2006-12-28 09:04:12 · answer #8 · answered by ??? LadyBoyd ??? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well for one, dont let her get away with anything that you normally wouldnt let her get away with. that will just set you back and being sick is no excuse for bad behavior. just make sure you comfort her and make her as comfortable as possible without catering to her tantrums and all that. maybe dont be AS hard with the discipline. instead of giving her time out, make her take a nap. (after all shes gonna be tired) , instead of spanking, make her do something to help you. ease up a little...after all would you want a spanking if you was sick and threw a tantrum because you didnt feel good and felt no one was paying attention to you?
just make sure she has lots of positive attentionm when she does something good, spend lots of time snuggling and take a nap together. youre going to be exhausted to!
2006-12-28 09:05:24 · answer #9 · answered by psychoticangel_kitty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Discipline can go to the wayside if your child is sick. It isn't even an issue when mine are sick...when your ill your allowed to be rotten!
2006-12-28 15:54:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋