I've been dating this guy for almost a year, he used to be all romantic and everything, then when we moved in together he changed completely, its like hes always mad at me, I can never do anything right. Before he left for bootcamp we used to always cuddle and kiss and everything, then when he got back he was a changed man he won't even hold my hand anymore, but then in other instances he is so sweet and gentle, I just don't know what to do anymore. I want to stay with him but I'm afraid that hes just using me to help pay the bills. Please Help Me know what to do.
2006-12-28 08:54:22 · 5 answers · asked by butterflyswimminggoddess 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Be honest with him and "lay it out" just as you did here. Moving in together (having done it myself) is too often like playing house without having the maturity or emotional ability to actually see it for what it is "trial marriage." Hey not dissing you, just aclling it as I see it (yeah, 20/20 hindsight is pretty valuable if you pay attention).
Set some personal boundries, goals and objectives. Tell him about these and then never, ever deceive yourself when you hear his answers. Good luck.
2006-12-28 08:59:46 · answer #1 · answered by pdfllc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Moving in together complicates the issue. Is he willing to marry you? Is he willing to seriously entertain the possibility? If not then he's wasting your time and most likely using you for sex, bill paying, and occasional emotional comforts. Why buy the cow . . . .
2006-12-28 08:58:51 · answer #2 · answered by Sass B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You answered the question yourself... "he's just using me to help pay the bills." Get your money together, deposit and first months rent then get your own place. The honeymoon is over. Sorry.
2006-12-28 09:03:42 · answer #3 · answered by Zee Bee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Words lie. Action always speaks louder than words.
2006-12-28 08:56:46 · answer #4 · answered by tenbadthings 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have a heart to heart talk with him.
2006-12-28 09:10:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋