Okay, I just got engaged but I am so lost. I don’t even know where to start as far as planning goes. My mother does not believe in marriage so she is the most sportive and helping person. I don’t have many friends so I don’t have any help. I thought when you got engaged everyone is supposed to be fighting over helping me plan but no one is helping me! I don’t know what to do or where to start. I am so sad and mad at the same time. I have cried more because of this and not because of the actual engagement. Could anyone let me in on where to start and if there are any books you would recommend? I have searched the Internet but it keeps leading me to dead ends. I know I need to send out engagement announcements and I already got a great idea for that from some one on this answer thing. But what else! This is supposed to be a happy time!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-12-28 08:52:19 · 6 answers · asked by goldie89lynn 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Tons of information online for you!
http://www.theknot.com is an excellent site
http://www.weddingsolutions.com is another good site/forum
Calm down and relax! ENJOY your engagement!
2006-12-28 09:10:43 · answer #1 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to any huge bookstore and ask at the information desk for help finding a wedding planner/wedding etiquette book. There are several. I bought one that came in a three-ring binder, so I could add pages. It was pretty good. I know it is updated periodically. I also bought a couple books on etiquette and on simple decorative ideas. I made the centerpieces ... 5 1/2 years later, the women who took one still display them. :-) You can also check Amazon.com for wedding books. You'll find a dazzling array of selections, but no one will be there to help you, as they would at the bookstore.
More people "helping" can be a pain in the posterior. Everyone knows the only right way to do things. The problem is, 10 people will tell you the right way and those right ways will vary from person to person. You might actually prefer to plan without too much help. I would suggest a smaller, less involved wedding. You'll still have lots to plan, but you won't lose your mind doing it. Then again, can you future M-I-L help? Or maybe a sister-in-law?
And you don't need to send out engagement announcements. You can, but you don't have to. Some women do a save-the-date note once they've picked the date and secured the location(s) for the wedding and reception. Again, also optional.
Good luck!
2006-12-28 17:03:35 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are professional wedding planners available every city in the world. May be expensive though. Try a bookstore or your local library for wedding planner books. You will need to rent a hall, caterer, decorations, invitations, reservations if going on a honeymoon, cake, etc.. List is endless. You better start at LEAST a yr. in advance for it to be nice and to get reservations for a hall. You need to pick your bridal party too. Maid of honor(Who , by the way, should be helping you with this) bridesmaids, ushers, flower girls, ring bearers, etc.
2006-12-28 17:15:39 · answer #3 · answered by Deb 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be nice if a family member of friends can be present on the wedding day but if not, you can still be happy with a quiet,simple one . You can hire someone to take the photos. What matters is the two of you. If you're both happy,that's all that matters.However, I have searched this site below to help give you some ideas. But good wishes to you both and to your life ahead.
2006-12-28 17:19:07 · answer #4 · answered by tagara 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go to your local book store and you can buy a planning your wedding book..ask your fiancee to help...you need to book a place for the reception, a photographer, get your dress, pick bridemaides, ask you fiancee's mother to help you if your mom wont...if money isnt an issue hire a wedding planner...you can make this wedding as expensive or as cheap as you want but still have it beautiful!!!!!
good luck honey
2006-12-28 17:16:16 · answer #5 · answered by diane b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try asking his mother to help you... I'm sure she would love it and the two of you will get to spend some time together(which would really make him happy.)
2006-12-28 17:05:17 · answer #6 · answered by DEBBY'S BABY 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋