Ok now what do I do??

Question

Ok I have know idea what to do now. I have asked questions in the past on my 2 year old son and the problems we have with him. I took him to the doctor to see if it was something medical. They ran some tests on him. They now classify him as gifted (overly smart for his age). His specialist says that gifted children are the hardest to raise (well DUH! Look at my son is what I told her). I am scared now that they are going to be wanting to do alot more tests on him and I really don't know what to do with all of this. Any suggestions?

I am not wanting my son to be treated like a science experiement!

I am very happy for his gift just not sure how to handle it....His grandmother says his dad was the same way when he was younger.......Now I am scared to see what my daughter is going to be like she is 3 months old now.

if at all possible if someone that answers has the same situation as I do please I would really like to talk to you message me on yahoo messanger [e-mail]

I trust my doctor he has been around for a long time he helped deliever me 20 years ago so I think he knows what he is talking about and yes it is possible to classify a child at the age of 2

Answer 1

I have a daughter who is now 21 who was in Talented and Gifted classes since 1st grade. She was a National Merit Scholar and has received many many scholastic awards. Other than being a bit headstrong and hard to reason with (she questioned our answers at times and sometimes she was right!) but she did not have a behavior problem. Seems there may be a two-fold problem here and if you treat this as just a child who is gifted problem, you will solve nothing. Many many gifted children do not have behavior problems. Please look further into why his behavior is bad. Also, keep him as stimulated as possible for his higher intelligence. They did not perform tests on my daughter. Why would they unless he was a prodigy. Otherwise treat him as you would any other normal child. Trust me, I raised a very gifted child and associating giftedness with bad behavior may apply a bit, but it not the whole problem. However, at times I would have to communicate to her, sometimes with discipline, when she would get frustrated with less intelligent friends. She learned- sometimes the hard way. She is an exchange student now during her Junior year in Tokyo as she is studying International Business/Pre-Law and wants that on her resume. Good luck to your family.

Answer 2

What kind of gift? I have never heard of a medical doctor telling a parent that the reason the child is having problems is because they are gifted. Maybe the doctor said that the child is advanced.....as far as norms in developmental stages go but, even then every child is so different. Children are not usually labeled as gifted.............because every child is a gift and has a special talent.
They cant even do IQ tests on a child that young.
I would suggest if you feel the doctor is correct...............go to an educational facility to learn how to better challenge the child and join a parent support group for gifted children.

Answer 3

Be wary of this doctor. It is impossible to classify a child as "gifted" until 2nd grade at the youngest. Two years old, there is no way one could know this already (that he's gifted). Just enjoy him and find ways to deal with the behavior problems. I like the book 1... 2... 3... MAGIC. It's a great method. Good luck and you might want to find a new doctor.

Answer 4

I have children that have been stubborn, they are classified as gifted. That doesn't change anything in the way I parent them. They still must behave. It is harder, but it is possible. Consistency is the key, I read your other questions about your son's temper tantrums, and that isn't necessarily part of being gifted.

I wish you luck on all of it. Why would they want to test him more? What would they test for? They can't test giftedness through blood or MRI's or anything, it's basically an artifical construct built to easily label children who are not mediocre.

Answer 5

I don't think they will do too much testing on him but if they do remember you are the parent. Tell them no more and get their advice on how to keep him stimulated and find out whether they run any groups for his age where you can meet like minded people. If he is truly gifted he will need some friends that think on his level as well as those his age that he can just play and have fun with. You might want to start looking for schools (for the future) that can deal with his gifts. Many say they will adjust a curriculum for him but when it comes to the crunch they don't do it. Look for scholarships to schools that you may not normally look at due to costs. Good luck

Answer 6

Decline anymore testing, and enjoy his gift. We are all here for a reason, and it sounds like you have quite a load to carry. But remember, there is a reason you are carrying it. Make sure that you keep him engaged in a lot of activity, and help him to grow his mind. You should be proud of that! Think of the less fortunate that are born without enough intelligence.

Answer 7

Lady, treat your child the way you expected your parents to treat you before your 21st birthday. It is called On Hands parenting!
Playing with, loving, discipline - as required-, reading to/with
all the things that we all know that we should do!

Do start your child with music when it can physically handle an instrument. Flute, Violin, Oboe, Trumpet - You after learning music - not to make a musician for life!
Too, Martial Arts, Ballet, Fencing, Tennis, museums, concerts, chess!

Forget TESTS on your child! Your Child is YOUR responsibility!
You monitor YOUR Child; YOU decide what you want your child exposed to.

How can your husband make love to you if he does not pay attention to you? Listen to your breathing, the motions of your fingers, the rhythms of your heart, the sounds that escape your inner self? SEX movies will not tell him about YOUR feelings, your love or your physical needs from him!

Paying attention to your Childs face as it does things, its enthusiasm, the time it takes for the child to accomplish things, I am sure you know/understand what I am suggesting.

Expose the child to ALL, as much as the child can ABSORB!
Your children are special to you! That is as it should be! They are not special to the world, or other boys and girls, from which, they will need to find their own friends.

Always be there for your children. Things cannot create love, character, mental stability, only the parents! That is the way nature made

Answer 8

I am not sure of the extent of his intelligence but I have 2 that are in Gifted Honor classes in school and I wouldn't let the Docs make them lab rats, I have had slight behavioral problems and this is my advice to you........ ALWAYS have something for him to do, I carried a backpack full of activities everywhere we went because they completed tasks much quicker then any one else they were bored and when they get bored they get busy sometimes in a negative way. When they started school I had word puzzle books for them to work on after their assignments. Best of luck to you.

Answer 9

gifted and not to be disrespectful any child to smart for their age are a lot of work so when u get to put ur child in kindagarten the child will appear as not my words experience the child will not listen to learn cuz they think to fast check out if your child needs to slow down to smart they slow down and hold back and you may even hear them say hold the child back cuz they didnt learn yet and your child needs special attention so dont be afraid see your childs potential now

Answer 10

then don't exploit him.treat him as normal as possible and thank god for his gift of intelligence.