my cousin who is jewish is getting married to a cathlic girl in april. he wanted a rabbi and a hoopa ( traditional for a jewish wedding) but she convinced him to have a priest and no Hoopah and my family isnt confortable going to a christian wedding. what do we do? i mean like my cousins whole fmaily, besides his parents and grandparents are against it. his new wifey wont even comprimise and have a priest and a Rabbi. do we still go the wedding or what? we tried talking to him, but its no use.
2006-12-28 08:40:21 · 6 answers · asked by bar22bie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Why?? If you love him and care about him, why would you let something so little stop you? It's not your wedding. I think that's really sad that you wouldn't go to a wedding due to religion. Just be happy for them and celebrate. It's reverse racism if you don't go just for the fact they are getting married catholic.
Talk to your family.
2006-12-28 08:47:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
A traditional Catholic Wedding will not be valid if celebrated by a Rabbi. So if she wants a "real" Catholic wedding it has to be the Catholic way. Let us not forget that Jesus was Jewish. Your cousin should ask the priest if a hoopa is permissible, same with the breaking of the glass. I don't know if it is allowable, but "ask & ye shall recieve." What's the worst that can happen--they say no?!
Anyhow about family attending. If he wants to go through with wedding, even though they have different religions, you should support him and go to the wedding. You will not be forced to convert or fall through a trap door for all the girls to become nuns.
2006-12-28 18:12:39 · answer #2 · answered by ee 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would suggest that the bride and groom have a civil ceremony (with just the 2 witnesses), and then everyone attend a reception afterwards.
A lot of times, a couple will get married on their own in whatever service or ceremony, and the guests are invited just to the reception which can be completely nondenominational or can include a blessing by both a priest and rabbi.
2006-12-29 14:08:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to look at it from her perspective as well. Perhaps she is receiving pressure from her family to make it just a Catholic wedding. Okay, so you've tried talking to him and he doesn't want to argue with his fiancee and won't change his mind. At this point, it is his and her wedding and you should be happy for both of them. Your family can attend or not, that is up to you...but being intentionally hurtful toward your cousin and his fiancee will last for years to come, not just for that one day. Maybe you can tell him that while your family is not comfortable attending the Catholic ceremony, you will be at the reception to wish him and his bride a wonderful future. Remember, whether a Catholic or Jewish ceremony...either way...in the end...the result is the same.
2006-12-28 18:04:47 · answer #4 · answered by Jenny 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You can always support them and go.
Or not go, and not be there watching the union of your cousin and fiance.
2006-12-28 16:51:28 · answer #5 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Its not your wedding... You should butt out.
2006-12-28 17:08:45 · answer #6 · answered by Brown Eyed Girl 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋