I mean, I'm not really asking for my own benefit, I'm just curious to what people think about it. My boyfriend left me, and the day of, starting dating a girl that I think caused problems and it was his reasoning, but after two days of being with her, he dumped her and devoted all his time to getting back with me. I mean we're *perfectly* happy now, but do you think it's stupid to get back together with someone who broke your heart? What's your opinion about it? I mean, I know people get back together with ex's all the time, but do most people consider it stupid? I guess the question is on my mind because my friend is going through the exact same bull. So any comment, arguements, I'd love to know what people think. :]
2006-12-28 08:38:50 · 18 answers · asked by Janet 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Haha, well I know some people kind of attacked me for my own decision, which I knew what had happened, anywho, some more of my story, is after he left me, i refused to get back with him for a quite awhile, and extended my options out there, went on dates, and realized I did miss him, and we started dating again. Our relationship has always been complicated cause at one time he was my manager, and he's four years older than me, and that bothers him sometimes. But that's another story, I'm just curious about how people feel about it, not really looking for help. ^-^ Thanks though for the opinions! Makes me realize my original thoughts on a lot of it. Ha!
2006-12-28 08:57:44 · update #1
I don't think its stupid. sometimes you still have feelings for each other, and its the right thing to do. guys think that they dont love you anymore and then break up, and then realize they do love you. They dont always think before they act.
2006-12-28 08:42:56 · answer #1 · answered by sarah♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess when it comes to love it's the most confusing thing ever. Of course you want to believe that he honestly wants you back and regrets leaving in the first place but if he really loved you then why did he leave you in the first place. And why did he start seeing some other the girl on the same day very disrespectful. Your the only one who can be the judge on whether you think he should have another chance with you or not. I think that if you are with someone and then they become your ex they become your ex for a reason and just because probably isn't the reason why. Follow what you think is right and if you think he might just be lucky enough to have you once again then good luck gurly!
2006-12-28 16:45:05 · answer #2 · answered by Mia A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i think it's stupid for the fact that they dumped the other for a reason, and if that reason was to be with someone else, they are using the other's feelings out of convenience. what if the guy finds another girl he wants to be with for a few days, breaks up with you again and then wants to get back together a few days later...do you think that is acceptable.
relationships make me laugh, because there is always that one person that wants to taste the candy on the other side of the street and when it doesn't taste as good as the first candy, they wanna go back. it's a waste of time i think.
how would he feel if you did that to him, which you probably wouldn't (but should) to let him get a taste of his own medicine.
you'll be *perfectly* happy for a lil while, but in the end he will either cheat or leave to be with someone else. don't let guys do that to you unless you are willing to do it back...
2006-12-28 16:45:43 · answer #3 · answered by **Lil QT** 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on why the breakup occured. If a guy dumped you for someone else,didn't like her so came back to you, chances are he'll dump you again when something else appealing comes along.
Generally, the saying that "exes are exes for a reason" is true...if a relationship ends it typically means those people are not a good match together and getting back together is probably going to cause at least one of them more heartache than joy...
2006-12-28 16:47:57 · answer #4 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
from my own experience, relationships end for good reason. either both of you feel its time, or one does, or some outside party causes one person to stray. in this case, your boyfriend.
who is to say he wont do it again with some other girl, and leave for her? i think once this happens, not only will it probably happen again, but it just goes to show that his eyes wander a little bit more than they should.
i have gotten back together with someone after we ended our relationship, and while no third party was involved, it was always only a matter of time before things ended again. if it is meant to be, it will be. but in this case, of getting back together with someone who hurt you and started dating someone else THAT SAME DAY? i dont know, thats kind of rough.
if you feel that things are going perfectly well, no need to fix something that isnt broken. but if you start to wonder if you made a mistake, you probably did, and thats when it is time to move on.
love can be blind. and its never until after its over that you look back and go 'why the hell did i waste my time?' trust me, honey, i know. good luck!
2006-12-28 16:46:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes ur stupid cause he is just going to do it again, sorry but he did it once what makes u think he is not going to do it again, jsut hopefully its not too far in the future to where u are married or have kids or sumthing like that, this is only cause he wants to try new stuff and dosent want to commit to u, if he did then he would have never done that to u. so u can do what u want but if u get hurt again its cause u choose that. good luck
2006-12-28 16:45:42 · answer #6 · answered by quikblue11 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when a person dumps another person to go out with a new person for a short term relationship then I must conclude that the first person who got dumped must realize that the second person just wanted to get laid by the third person and now the second person is back because the first person was better than the third person. tell him to get lost
2006-12-28 16:45:57 · answer #7 · answered by veerfish 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Under these circumstances yes, it would be stupid. He'll always be looking for the next best thing. Sometimes, it isn't stupid.
2006-12-28 16:44:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it is very stupid. why would go back to him after dumping u? he dropped u like a hot potato. r u that bad that u cannot get another guy. gee girl get a grip.
2006-12-28 16:47:41 · answer #9 · answered by ivelisse 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the grass looks always greener on the other side of the fence, but once he jumped the fence, maybe he realized just how tasty the grass on his side of the fence was, so he wants to jump back to his own side.
2006-12-28 16:47:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋