Can someone please help me Understand?

Question

Why someone would care so much about how they look they would try to throw up, anyway how do you even do it? Please answer.

I would never do that, it's gross. Ewwww, that stuff was in your stomach and it's just gross and wrong, plus you can die. There are healthier ways to lose weight. Ick!

Answer 1

They say size isn't important. But when does a girl become a woman? Is it when she is seventeen? Or when she has her first kiss? No, it is when she no longer looks like a girl. But that isn't all of it.

A woman is woman-sized. She is also mature, responsible, motherly, caring, supportive, submissive, strong, reliable, successful, sensual, compassionate, kind, sensible and … that is a bit much when you are forty let alone fourteen. No wonder it takes time to grow into and come to terms with the shape that nature has given you

It can be a problem discovering what sort of woman-sized woman to be. It is not just about being fat or thin. It is about being gay or straight, or a mother or a daughter, working, playing, anything that makes life what it is. It is about control of your impulses and destiny.

Sometimes it seems impossible to control all this. Or if you do everything might go wrong. You might not fit anymore and everything will fall apart.

One way of coping is to develop an eating disorder. The girl who starves herself to a low weight shows desperate determination. She knows exactly what she needs to be. Child-sized. But she can’t be eleven forever. Her body is growing. The world is moving on and expecting her to come with it. It becomes irresistible. Maybe she will eat, but she will vomit until she is happy to be woman-sized.


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1. Anorexia and bulimia


This girl thinks Marilyn Monroe is great. She hates Kate Moss. She thinks Kate Moss is thinner than she is.

The girl with anorexia is convinced that she is fat even though she is not. She is so fixed in this belief that it seems like she is being stubborn, or stupid. In fact she has her back to the wall.

She has to be the thinnest person in the world. It’s the only way she can survive. She’s on a knife edge. Too fat and she has to face the world. Too thin and she dies. Being in the world is so awful she would rather die.


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2. Anorexia and bulimia


This girl would rather die than eat a cheese sandwich. It’s not that she isn’t hungry. She is starving. It’s that if she eats she will put on weight. If she puts on weight she will go totally out of control. She will grow and grow and grow. And everything that she is terrified of will happen.

The girl with anorexia nervosa doesn’t have a problem with being fat. She has a problem with being woman-sized. Becoming a woman means growing up, leaving home, trying to have relationships but not rupturing family links. This is frightening for everyone. For her it is petrifying. Starving makes time stand still.


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3. Anorexia and bulimia


If this girl thought she was going to put on weight she would throw up.
She wants to be thin. She wants to eat.

Women with bulimia binge and may then vomit. They feel they cannot control life. They are taken over by the urge to eat. They cannot stop themselves. So they make themselves sick. If they didn’t, they’d get fat and they couldn’t bear that.

The girl with bulimia is in a no-win situation. She has two intense and conflicting desires. Vomiting is the only way she can either protect her low weight, if she has anorexia nervosa, or avoid becoming really fat if she has bulimia nervosa.


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4. Anorexia and bulimia


If you are what you eat then this girl is nothing. She used to eat a bowl of cereal a day. Now she can manage half a carrot. When she starves herself she is somebody.

Her behaviour fills those around her with fear and frustration. They cannot understand why she won’t eat. They say, ‘It’s easy, all you have to do is pick up a knife and fork’.

She can’t get them to understand. It is hard to explain the fear she has. How can she tell them she would rather die than be a normal adult weight and shape?


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5. Anorexia and bulimia


When she looks in the mirror this girl sees a fatty. She is blind to the hip bones and the ribs. She sees the slightly swollen belly. The bud of a breast. The curve of a thigh.

And they disgust her. As she disgusts herself when she eats a cream cake. As they make her want to be sick. Or hide. Under huge jumpers, massive coats. Invisible and shrinking under layers of cloth.

As she jogs on the spot she mutters her mantra: 'when I don't eat I am in control', 'when I am thin I am safe'.



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FACTS ABOUT ANOREXIA AND BULIMIA

What are anorexia and bulimia?
Anorexia nervosa and bulimia nervosa are the two main eating disorders. People with anorexia have extreme weight loss as a result of very strict dieting. Some people may also make themselves sick, abuse laxatives or do excessive exercise to try and lose weight. In spite of this extreme weight loss, people with anorexia believe they are fat and are terrified of becoming what is in fact a normal weight or shape. About four out of ten people with fully established anorexia make a full recovery, and others improve. Only about three in ten continue to have major long-term illness. Untreated, about 15 per cent of all sufferers will die from the disorder within 20 years of its onset.

People with bulimia nervosa crave food and binge eat, though they are not emaciated. Afterwards they make themselves sick or misuse laxatives to get the food out of their bodies. Sufferers are very afraid of becoming fat.
Who has anorexia or bulimia?

Anorexia nervosa most commonly starts in the mid-teens. About one in a hundred 16 to 18 year olds has the illness. It is much more common in girls. Bulimia nervosa usually starts when people are a little older, but is again more common in girls. Bulimia is more common than anorexia, although people with anorexia in particular do not always ask for treatment.

Occasionally men develop eating disorders, but anorexia nervosa is rare. Male development in puberty is very different from that of females. Related bodily concerns are different and less often lead to the extremes of dieting which commonly precede anorexia nervosa.

What causes eating disorders?
Eating disorders may develop partly in response to difficult life experiences such as abuse or social pressures arising in puberty and in growing up. They are also more common in cultures where it is considered desirable to be slim. Genetic factors seem to be important, especially in anorexia. Sometimes people with an eating disorder are depressed, and they may have obsessions.

What treatments are available?
Mental health professionals need a variety of skills to treat people with eating disorders. A doctor can help diagnose the illness and any associated physical problems resulting from it. In both anorexia nervosa and bulimia, self-help strategies can be very helpful. If this approach does not work, health professionals may suggest a course of psychotherapy. If someone has lost a dangerous amount of weight, the first step will be to help the person start to regain that weight in order to survive. Some people with anorexia may need to be admitted to hospital and the nursing staff has an important role in supporting the patient in the early stages of treatment. Psychological and psychotherapy skills are also necessary at this acute stage, so that the mental health team can begin to understand why the illness developed and how to help the person to overcome it.

In anorexia, this talking treatment will involve the individual with the illness and sometimes other family members. The long-term aim will be to help that person change their attitude, behaviour and ways of thinking, and enable them to cope with the strains of life without the illness as a protection. Shorter-term expert talking treatments and also specific cognitive behavioural treatments are often effective with bulimia nervosa.

What can society do?
We can strive better to understand the distress that underlies and drives these disorders. We can provide access to such information and develop health promotion campaigns aimed at teenagers and young people. Information on how to cope with feelings and fears about growth or about being too fat is useful. We can offer more support in secondary schools and user-friendly services for troubled teenagers

Answer 2

People are self-concious(however you spell it). People do that to feel good about themselves but they don't understand it hurts your body twice as much. Once you stop you put on weight. Your body goes threw withdrawals; its just like a drug. Most people use their fingures or they can gag themselves using their tongue.

I'm letting you know if your thinking about doing it then your stupid because I used to be balimic since I was 5 years old until I was like 13 or 14. I did it a lot & I know I ****** my stomach up because if I get sick now its normally acid. Acid burns your throat & trust me it DOESN'T feel good.

If you know someone who is doing dont hold back help that person because they are damaging their body. It's addicting after awhile because you feel like its going to help you but truly it doesnt. It makes you feel better but doesnt make you really look better because you look sick.

I hope I helped & I hope you dont start doing this.

Answer 3

It is not about looks, food, or weight, it is about control. A person with a eating disorder feels the only thing they can control in their life is weight and what goes into their mouths.

Answer 4

It's like parkinsons or cancer, natures way of weeding out the weak. Its not that they care about how they look, if it was they would actually do something that made them look good, like eat well and exercise. No one in their right mind would tell you that a bolimic or anorexic looks good. Its a disease. Happy new year.

Answer 5

It is a practice that can lead to severe complications. Get help from a doctor. Don't be ashamed--they have heard it all before. Good luck.

Answer 6

Making yourself throw up will kill you eventually. So why would someone kill themselves for vanity? Because society (models, actresses, entertainers etc) shows girls that being extremely thin and sick looking is sexy. It's not. Look at Nicole Ritchie. She looks like death!

Answer 7

Don't worry, we all know your the one with the problem. The first thing is to admit to your problem and secondly get help from a doctor. Good luck!

Answer 8

Bullima is an eating disorder, and yes, many people force themselves to vomit. The eat compulsively, and then, vomit up everything. My daughter was bullemic, and I am, or, was anorexic. We all want to look our best. ~~~

Answer 9

This person should seek professional help right away!

Answer 10

How about what they look like when they are throwing up?

Answer 11

SLIDE YOUR FINGERS AS FAR DOWN INTO YOUR MOUTH AS POSSIBLE....
KEEP DOING IT....DONT GIVE UP
HURL OUT ALL THE FAT
LOOK FABOULOUS
LOL!