i have been split up with my boyfriend of 5 years for a year now,he pestered me for that year saying how much he loves me and can't get over me,he stopped annoying me then that made me want him (happens everytime) then i end up texting him,he has given me an ultimatum-either i want him or i don't and if i don't he won't bother me again,now i am so confused i mean we were the best of friends and got on great but when it came to being intimate it felt like a chore to me unless i was drunk?i am also worried about what other people think,my mum doesn't like him much coz he's an idiot when he gets too drunk and he's quite jealous when i go out,the thing is he was my first love i have never been with any1 else and when i go out i don't get chatted up much,maybe coz i don't hav a lot of confidence,i just don't know wat to do i may never find any1 else that is willing to do anything for me plz help
2006-12-28 08:24:02 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's hard to let go of a first love. It is said you never get over it. So you have to look out of the situation. Is he good for you? In the long run will your relationship/even marriage last? Are you only wanting him back because you're lonely or you have a history with him?
It might be better for you to let him get the partying out of the way.
Don't stay with him because he might be your last chance. No solid, healthy relationship can be based on that. Someday a good guy, who will treasure you will come along.
And not to go against your mother, but mine wasn't too thrilled with my choice, but we've been married for a year and a half and have a wonderful 3 month old son. Parents do want the best for you, but it's not very often that they'd pick the same person you would.
Good Luck!
2006-12-28 08:33:22 · answer #1 · answered by Ashley S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like alcohol may be a problem with your relationship if you need it to get friendly with your husband and he is as you said an idiot when he gets drinking. Booze only gives you a false confidence and you need to become so without this help. If you and your man decide that you are going to try it again perhaps you will need to seek the advice of a professional couples counselor or sex therapist for help. Regardless what you decide realize that eventually you will meet another man who will be your partner and treat you properly, but you need to grow some confidence and believe not only in yourself but that of your partner also. Best of luck to you.
2006-12-28 16:36:54 · answer #2 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't have a physical connection with someone than it's not meant to be. Loving someone is to love them whole and not just a little bit. The reason why you haven't found someone else is because you haven't let go of what's still there. If you want to be friends and he doesn't then let it go. Your confidence will regain and you will meet someone else. But don't just go out there meeting someone to forget someone else. That always backfires.
2006-12-28 16:29:51 · answer #3 · answered by awhisper 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont give up, there are so many great guys out there. You just need more time. What ever you dont run back out with your ex, it just never works out the second time
2006-12-28 16:27:17 · answer #4 · answered by TroubleRose 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well there is nothing that is not possible i think the best is you did better stay put and survey the situation around you. I think you should stay with him first in other to survey everything.
2006-12-28 16:41:46 · answer #5 · answered by danger girlonline 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hang on to what you've got. You'll look back and wonder why you let something good go.
2006-12-28 16:27:30 · answer #6 · answered by neoscribbler 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋