i have low self esteem........................?

Question

well i don't have any confidence and i have a low self esteem and i i always put myself down and i always tell myself the i am not that good lookin guy and i can never attract pretty and beautiful girls and people tell me that i am nice and cool person and they also tell me i got a nice personality and i just can't attract pretty and beautiful girls and i guess i can't attract pretty and beautiful girls cause of looks and my height and i am short thats probally why girls are not attracted to me and girls like guys who are tall and sexy.................................

Answer 1

Dont ever think that yournot attractive i thought that way 4 a long time cause im average but i thought im to tall i dated a boy that was short he had a good heart but i found out im average i know all about dating advice if u need more just ask me. just sk someone to hook u up cause u sound like u have a good personality dont put yourself down jusr think positive try to talk to a gurl become friends and then so on.just look in the mirror and u ken see what wrong fix it there is some girls that like short boys around here ok show your iner self dont change 4 no one if they dont like u 4 who you are then its not a good relationship so be carefull u dont wanna get hurt like i am right now as long as you have a good personality your good enough 4 any girl

Answer 2

It's up to you to change the the way you feel. If you don't like you how can you expect anyone else to like you? Concentrate on all the good qualities you have. Are you a nice person? Are you kind, generous and possess a good sense of humor? You have to believe that you are worthy of good things. You should remind yourself every morning and every evening before bed of all the positive things you do.
Girls like confident guys. Haven't you seen unattractive guys with beautiful girls? Only you can raise your self esteem and when you do a lot of wonderful things will happen to you. Don't just think about yourself think about other people. Help other people, join an interest group or volunteer somewhere to help the elderly or the handicap build your self-esteem by giving to other people sharing yourself and your knowledge .

Answer 3

Project yourself into the future with a confidence and you will find that persistence over time will accomplish great things. Use your anger and resentment as a driving motivator to propel yourself past every one who is having fun right now.

If you're still young, consider yourself lucky. Your self-awareness will give you an idea of what you need to do to complete yourself as a human being and as a man. You have the advantage over the people who believe themselves to be already complete, people who may never be aware of what they are lacking.

Don't be content with people telling you you have a nice personality. You know you want and deserve more.

Hope that helps!

Answer 4

Its not who you are on the outside that's important its the you on the inside that counts. The best quality a person can have is a great personality. I know this sounds hokey but nice and wholesome girls are not attracted to the outside appearance but whats on the inside. A persons personality and mind make them attractive.

Answer 5

Trust those who tell you have a good and attractive personality--the females you are referring to must either not know you well or are too shallow to look beyond physical appearances. You want someone who appreciates personality--this will lead to a successful and satisfying relationship.

Answer 6

Women are attracted to confidence. Be confident about yourself, and you will get more attention.

Since you have low self-esteem, I suggest joining a sport, club, or activity that you enjoy. It will help build your confidence.

Answer 7

You are making a self fulfilling prophecy. You have to catch yourself doing that and imagine yourself as successful. Our lives are self fulfilling prophecy.

Answer 8

me too, i cant attract any guyz either,not becuz im ugly or low self estemm, it's becuz of the stupid race problem. people comfort to me wait patiently, screw them, they dont know how do we feel. so good luck to both of us in new year!!!

Answer 9

I'm sorry that you feel like crap, but there really isn't anything I can do about it without knowing you. I'm sorry. I truly am.

By the way, what was your question?

Answer 10

It seems to me you are looking for validation for who you are from women.

The first thing i have to say is that if you don't like you, no one else, male or female, will.

There really is not enough info in your question for me to give you any ultra specific advice, but here is an idea....

Find something you really like to do, and are fairly good at. Then find a group in your area where others who like the same kind of thing gather to do it. Go and be a part of the activity.Just by being there you will eventually find a comfort zone, and you can build from there.

Remember that women often enjoy being cruel, especially if they percieve you as someone who will just take it. So don't. DO NOT go looking for trouble, but make sure you stand up for yourself.

Remember also, that there is a big difference between conversation, dating and sex.

It sounds to me like you are a little attention starved and because of that you are probably very anxious to find some companionship......

Beoing outwardly anxious can be a huge turn off to anyone who isn't looking quite as hard, so try to be cool. There is a balance, you can;t be so cool that you are cold and you pay no attention to others, but you can't hang on every word either.

It is a sad fact, but a lot of people in this day and age really do not know how to have a conversation, if that is the case for you, the first thing you need to do is recognize it. Pay attention to yourself when you conversate with people. make sure you are not dominating the conversation AND make sure you are contributing to it. When a topic reaches a conclusion, don't feel like you have to say something smart, witty or even related to it to keep the conversation going. Let it end or start a new topic.

Don't expect everything to happen all at once, things take time.

Decide what you are looking for right now.

If all you want is some sex, that is easy. Pick a girl who is not seeing anyone that you see often, but are not required to see (ie, do not work with) and smile and say hello each time you pass her. Do that for awhile. Don't go any further, just a smile and a hello. Then don;t do it for a day or two and see if she does, she sprolly will, women are not as complex as people seem to think. They are just like guys except they are more ego-centric and self-centered. if she does smile and say hi, wait another day or so then stop and talk to her. Let her do most of the talking, pretend to really listen, look right in her eyes while she is talking and pay enough attention so that when she pauses you can say something that applies/she wants to hear. Don't disagree with her, just smile and listen. Pay her some compliments and pretend you had a great time talking to her smile a lot and walk away. Then don;t show up for a few days. After those few days, go by smile say hello stop , tell her how good she looks, how much you were thinking about all the things she said, tell her how much you like her and "confess" that you have been sooooo interested in her ever since you laid eyes on her, etc etc blah blah.....

Then ask her out. Don't pay a whole lot of attention to her on the date. Pay enough so that you are not rude but no more. Feign disinterest in everything for awhile. She is going to think you don;t like her. This is your oppurtunity. Lead the conversation to something just a little adult, then let her yap.......

Before you know it she will be telling you all kinds of slu*ty things and that will make her as hot as it makes you. ..........

Once you have sealed the deal be careful. You need to either avoid her for awhile OR stick with her even if you find you don;t really like her much.

You can do this with as many women as you want at the same time, as long as they don;t find out about each other.

If you are looking for a "relationship" take your time. Don't trap yourself by commiting to ridiculous things. Remember that women rarely see things for what they are, so much as what they percieve and use that to get what you want. Remember also that there are a lot of women out there and if you find you are unhappy in the relationship, get out of it, even if you have time vested. It takes a LONG TIME to change a woman to suit your needs and it is a real job. Sometimes it is better to just play the market.

You seem to be concerned with finding a "pretty and beautiful girl" remember that a lot of guys have already gone there. They have already been used in ways like that which i described earlier and they are defensive. Also remember that prettier girls have more guys interested in them
and will be more full of themselves and more difficult to approach. Wait until you see a weakness, when she is especially sad or happy, or when you know she has a lot of issues going on, like a person close to her dying/going to jail.having big problems and invent a story of something similar happening to you. Work quickly to get where you want to be with her and remember that prettier girls usually have all kinds of rejection/ego issues so chances are it is not going to last.

Remember that prettier girls who are starting to get older are the easiest targets. they generally are starting to feel pretty miserable because less andless people are paying attention to them, and they are very vulnerable, use this to your advantage whenever you can. Even if you don;t see a relationship you like blossoming from your involvement, it is totally ok to take advantage, because they spent many years when they were younger and more beautiful taking advantage of the way men treated them, and wether you involve yourself or not, they are going to pay for thier earlier years with a fall from grace soon anyways.

Good luck in finding what you are looking for, and remember the first thing I said, If you don;t like you, no one else will.