I'm 14 and our relationship was destroyed 1 year ago, because they were to harsh on me when I made a mistake. I'm extrenely resentful. Sometimes I wish we could fix our relationship, but it seems to be impossible
2006-12-28 08:12:52 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
That you want to fix your relationship with your parents makes it possible :)
First you got to work away the resentment, because it's like a wall keeping you away from fixing your relationship with your parents.
Try to talk to someone about what happened between you and your parents; either someone in the family that you feel comfortable talking with or a good friend, someone that can give good advice, talking to someone really helps. But it is just as important, to try to find out and understand why your parents reacted so harshly. Was it because they were worried before? (worried people can be really harsh) Or were they confused and didn't know what to do? Understanding them will help take the resentment away.
Once you feel you can forgive your parents, than you are ready to start over with them; start from the basics, i.e. Spending time with them(do they have any favorite movie?) finding out what their likes are and dislikes (to avoid what they don't like)
Also parents are just people, I mean, they make mistakes, they feel angry and say wrong things sometimes, but they just as much feel happy and most parents want the best for their kids :) If we try to understand them life is so much easier. At least my life is, now I understand my parents. lol
Good luck + Wish you all the best! :)
2006-12-28 09:01:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good parents will always forgive their son or daughter if the kid is truly sorry for whatever it was that was done. At 14 I wonder what could have been so bad. Both parents and kid need to be open minded and sit down and talk about it and just make up. If your parents were too harsh on you then they also made a mistake. People are human and make mistakes in life. Life is too short for a family to not get along with each other. If talking to each other doesn't help maybe you should suggest family counseling. I wish you the best of luck with this.
2006-12-28 08:23:08 · answer #2 · answered by Maggie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's difficult for parents to take a 14 year old seriously even though you are mature enough to have a meaningful conversation. The easiest way to get it out there is to write it in a letter. That way ...you have brought up your problem and if they want to try and fix how they feel on their end...they will. This way...the ball will be in their court and you'll know that you tried. Don't give up! Your parents won't be around forever and you'll regret not trying to patch things up with them. Good luck!
2006-12-28 08:17:58 · answer #3 · answered by Michelle M 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How can a 13 year old decide what is to harsh, you can't even get a job or pay bills yet. You have know idea what harsh is. They are your parents and what they say goes. When you have your own house you can have your own rules. You can fix how you feel about your parents..... stop trying to parent yourslef.
2006-12-28 08:18:33 · answer #4 · answered by Quarter Piece 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would try to talk to them. If that doesn't help talk to your school counselor or church minister. Bless you for trying to fix your relationship with your parents. It is the most important relationship in your life. You will learn that when & if you lose them. Keep trying and don't give up. Your heart is in the right place.
2006-12-28 08:17:48 · answer #5 · answered by The It Girl ∆☻乐 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can tell us you can tell them. Ask them to go to a neutral place like a restaurant ( a quiet one - not McDonalds or Fridays) so you can discus this with them. They'll appreciate your maturity and you'll be amazed; they probably don't know how to approach you on this and will be happy to put this in the past and move on.
2006-12-28 08:19:04 · answer #6 · answered by canela 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you can fix your relationship with your parents. I think you should appologize for your mistake and ensure that you don't repeat it. Show that you are truly sorry, and believe me the relationship will be mended. O.
2006-12-28 09:32:29 · answer #7 · answered by redeemedmikel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
♥ ♥ look at that situation from their point of view for a different perspective, and then remember you can not undo the past, so forgive them, try to figure out why you are so resentful, forgive yourself and talk to them openly and honestly ♥ ♥
2006-12-28 08:15:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is nothing to fix. you are 14 and they will love you regardless, just one day say you are sorry for making them upset.
but if you feel you right, tell them why. lator you may have a different perspective. trust me, there are days i wished i was born into another family. many days!
2006-12-28 08:16:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anthony R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go talk to your parents and apologize to them even if it's not your fault. Parents really love their children and they can't stay mad at them forever. Parents really honor their children. Believe me if you talk to them and tell them that you're sorry and is willing to fix everything just to be okay again, you'll be okay in no time.
2006-12-28 08:15:39 · answer #10 · answered by ... 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋