Do you miss your lifestyle before you had a child since you are single of being able to come and go as you please? Be honest.
2006-12-28 08:10:46 · 11 answers · asked by Venus 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No, I honestly do not miss the old life style I had. I was heading in the wrong direction before I got pregnant. Since having my son, I have grown up alot, gotten my head back on straight, and I wouldnt trade that for anything at all.
2006-12-28 08:19:22 · answer #1 · answered by onearkansasmommy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I had my first at 16, my second at 19, then was single for a few years, then had my 3rd at 26. I have never had a childhood that I can remember, and when people ask me what I like to do, I can't say because I've never had a chance to do anything. Regret being a single parent? Well, I'm pretty sure no one really PLANS it that way, but sh*t happens, and there's nothing you can do about it. Yeah, I love my kids, but I totally regret throwing my life away to have them. God, unless you're 30 or more, rethink this baby thing, because it's not all fun and games, try nothing but total hell, and no one is going to help you. If you know where he is, get your revenge and give HIM the kid to raise. Enjoy YOUR life, cause you won't get another chance.
2006-12-28 08:19:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I do at times miss that ability to come and go. So many times I just wanna go have a drink with the girls after a hard days work, but I don't have that option. Which is fine, I am not complaining about my new lifestyle, I just wish my sons Father wanted a Family and a partnership instead of just walking out on us.
2006-12-28 08:15:49 · answer #3 · answered by KansasCityGirl26 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I am sure we all miss our freedom, however, having a child is such a great blessing that I would never regret having him. When I was single, I traveled to many places as I was able to go whenever I wanted to and not have to wait for his school to be on a summer break. There are so many people out there who wants to have kids and can't and when you are able to do so, take that as a great big blessing. My son is great. As a single mom, when I get sick, I do need help and he would just do everything he can to help me. He would make sure I get food, my medication, wash the clothes, clean up and whatever he can do to give me a chance to rest and get better. Now, if I was alone with my freedom, who would help me when I am sick? He and I travel together and it is a great feeling and wonderful memories. Last year we went to Turkey. The only difference now is that I can not go at any time of the year, but having him did not totally stopped me from traveling. You see, each side has its rewards. Don't ever regret having your child even if it means you have to sacrifice to bring him/her up by yourself. It is not like you have to take care of the child through his/her entire life, but only for some years until he/she is old enough to take care of himself/herself. God gave you that child, so don't ever regret a blessing from him.
2006-12-28 08:57:47 · answer #4 · answered by killerlegs 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not at all, but I did wait until I was 31 to have my baby. You could say I was ready to slow down. When I was in my early to mid 20s, I knew I wasn't ready.
It's not always easy to get things done with a child; they do make the simplest errands complicated. I used to pack more lightly for vacation than I do now for a trip the the grocery store! I never see first run movies anymore, and I rarely get to eat out...but most married parents I know face the same challenges. It's a small price to pay.
For me, I wouldn't change a thing. Being a single mom is the best, most exciting, most fulfilling thing that's ever happened to me.
2006-12-28 08:22:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-12-01 06:43:34 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I definitely don't regret becoming a single parent..and it wasn't really by choice! My son's father was a coward and left the situation instead of wanting a family, let alone seeing his son occasionally. I have given up so much and have had to rebuild everything I was working toward a few years ago. It's been worth it and I know it's making me a stronger person, but sometimes I wish things were a little different. I am very fortunate to have a wonderful family who supports me and assists me..giving me time to be me.
2006-12-31 15:39:23 · answer #7 · answered by Lindsey 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i don't have kids because my mother taught at an early age not to have children while i was still a child..PLEASE PLEASE don't get me wrong i'm not saying your parents didn't teach you well.. Reading all the answers makes me grateful that i do not have a child yet, though i think it's about time i did cause i'm 28 now(though i'm not sure i'm ready for them coz i love my life). I do friends with children who miss out on alot of things we do because they could not get a babysitter. some of them are single and need a man but miss the opportunity to meet good men because they always have to tend to their children.
Rememeber you have been blessed.
2006-12-28 08:42:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes indeed it sucks especially without having a partner to help lessen the load it is exhausting I am extremely jealous of friends who have both parents in the house my daughter's father travels for his job he is always away so I don't even get a few hours a week to myself. Try to establish a support system friends or family who can help you out good luck!!
2006-12-28 08:19:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
yes i do. i found out i was pregnant one month after me and my boyfriend broke up. he didnt want nothing to do with me or the baby. in fact, he met a new girl and he just got married to her! he also doesnt pay support. its upsetting because i cant live a normal life anymore. i didnt want to get an abortion because i was scared. fortunately my parents help me out and im trying to get by and make it through college so i can be somebody one day.
2006-12-28 08:15:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋