Its been 5months, why can't I just forget it. I love him but I dont want to. He broke up with me. I thought we would get married, and share a life together. I'm 26, I'm old. I feel like I won't get another chance. I don't understand what happen. I feel so down about it.
2006-12-28 08:06:58 · 18 answers · asked by Crazy Heart 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Go out and meet new guys and enjoy life while you are still young because later you will regret it, and if you two are meant to be god will always lead you two back together, in life everything happens for a reason or one day you will find someone who wants to be with you forever dont give up hope on love its in you and its natural to feel this way, just think of all the fun things you and your girlfriends can do now ..try speed dating even if your not looking for someone serious its soo much fun and it will definitly take your mind of him...good luck and look on the brighter side of things ..your still beautiful and full of life!
2006-12-28 08:15:54 · answer #1 · answered by abella_03 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You won't forget the breakup, but eventually the pain will go away. He obviously doesn't want to commit and that is the story with a lot of men (sorry guys). Just know, that it is not entirely your fault. Everything happens for a reason and in time you'll know just what that reason is. Be content that you were able to truly love someone. Get out, enjoy your life! Spend more time on you and if you have family and friends nearby, spend it with them too. Appreciate the other people you have in your life that love you and are willing to stick by your side and eventually you'll be able to look back on this time and laugh.
2006-12-28 08:16:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Focus on something else. I tried positive affirmations and it help me get over an 8 year relationship. I finally dumped him for good the other day. It took a few months of affirmations to be strong enough to do it and not look back. Get an affirmation book and journal to write down what you are feeling at a particular time and once it is in the journal, let it go.
"I am a happy girl" and "get happy" worked wonders for me.
I remember a quote to, it kinda goes... the best revenge is massive sucesses. Go out and find someone better.
eHarmony is a great start.
2006-12-28 08:12:47 · answer #3 · answered by gypsygirl247 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nicely, i'm interior a similar boat you're in. i think of that's as a results of fact we are mushy, and continuously searching for approval. i comprehend that no possible make you total, and that i comprehend that the region isn't suited, yet nevertheless can not basically "enable it bypass". i don't comprehend, is it the terror of failure, or that we are going to never experience this form lower back? I easily have not have been given any concept. in lots of different tactics i'm difficult as nails, i'd desire to care much less approximately ditching a chum that has worn me down, no looking lower back, no concern, no concerns, yet some relationships, there isn't any freakin way i'm movin' on, lol. it somewhat is totally almost like i'm formidable them to interrupt my heart in this form of way that's not questionable. Make any experience?
2016-10-19 02:34:44 · answer #4 · answered by binnu 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh God, I feel the same way. We aren't broken up but I feel like he's stringing me along and I'm just uncertain of what I am to him anymore and what I mean... I hate it.
I had this happen a couple years ago, though, where a guy and I broke up--I broke up with him because he cheated on me. God did I love him, though. We had talked about all these "adult" things like baby names and how to keep a house and just, everything was the same we loved how we wanted the same thing out of life. Then he cheats on me. Bastard. It hurt like hell. The first 2 weeks I ate nothing and for me to not eat, you know something's wrong. I'd work out to let my anger and pain out. (Kick boxing, awesome.)
It was about four months fro the break up to the new year, so just a month shy of you and your break up. New Years came along and I was sick and tired of being upset about it. I was sick and tired of being confused, of being sad and hung up over him. I still loved him, though.
But New Years eve was there, and as corny as it sounds, it's coming up again this weekend.
I cried a little, ok... a lot, but I told myself no more. I just said, "Christine, you deserve better than this and you know it. Don't you dare try to talk to him, if he wants to talk to you--well tough. You will get rid of his pictures, you will forget him. You will go out there and you will try to find someone new."
I didn't speak to him. Every time I tried to even think about him, I would go to the gym and think of how dead sexy I was going to be from all this working out. I didn't talk to him until his drunk *** contacted me on my birthday telling me he loved me--and you know what, I shrugged it off. (Feb 19, so not even 2 months into the year.) I just said to him that I didn't need him anymore. And I didn't. I had a new boyfriend, we didn't last long, but when he called I had a new man in my life.
Promise yourself you'll just stop. Have an outlet. Forgive him for whatever it was that happened. Forgive yourself even if you don't know what you did. (Although, I know the feeling where you need to know what you did wrong... ask if you haven't.)
You deserve to be happy. I don't know what's happening right now with my current boyfriend or whatever he is, I don't even know that right now, anymore. But I know I, too, deserve to be happy.
So you promise yourself that he is no more. If you find yourself thinking about him, stop! Go workout, go swimming, clean... do something. You're 26, go out with some friends. I'm 21, I feel old as dirt sometimes. Especially since my boyfriends ex is only 19 now and this girl that keeps "stalking" him--she is his self-proclaimed stalker--is 19, I just feel old and like I'm nothing to him.
But you and I, we aren't old. 26 is not old. Worry about being old after you're 40.
I kind of wish I had girl friends like on Sex and the City... If you have some girl friends like that, they'll take you out and they'll make you forget.
Feel better. Forget him. I know it's hard, but New Years is coming and so is the night of making new promises to yourself. So do what I'm doing, make 2007 about you and forget him.
2006-12-28 08:20:20 · answer #5 · answered by rockerweenie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are young and life has just started. Don't get discouraged, my friend just got married and she is 34. She was able to do many things she wanted and she is more understanding and tolerant in her relationship. Believe in yourself and maintain your confidence and guys will be coming after you. You will then have your choice.
2006-12-28 08:11:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anthony R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
5months together? ofcourse u can get over it.... u just need to surround urself w/people that can support you..go out w/friends and do d fun stuff...and ur not old,,,26 is not old i know people whose in their 30's and still not married, so don't feel bad...=)
2006-12-28 08:10:59 · answer #7 · answered by Jane 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out and move on. 26 aint that old sugar. I am 29 and the possibilities are endless and I am ugly as crap.
2006-12-28 08:11:21 · answer #8 · answered by timboo28 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you feel that it's impossible to find love again? You were rejected. Of course you're going to be hurt. Just start dating again...even if you're not really into it. At least you're trying to lead a normal life.
2006-12-28 08:09:52 · answer #9 · answered by Michelle M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You NEED another man in your life.
You need to accept the fact that you guys weren't meant to be with each other.
Once you start dating, and go steady with another -- eventually that will get you over you and your ex completely.
Good luck!
- mmmfilipino
2006-12-28 08:10:24 · answer #10 · answered by mmmfilipino 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋