can i stop my daughters grandmother seeing her? the woman is a battle axe! her father is not on her birth certificate so she cannot prove my daughter is actually her grandaughter!
2006-12-28 07:59:53 · 26 answers · asked by LISA S 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
my daughter is nearly 12 and for 12 years this woman has undermined me and generally taken the p*** its time for me to stand up for myself
2006-12-28 08:07:10 · update #1
also her father popped into her life shortly before her 8th birhday and disappeared again shortly aftre her 9th birthday, she has seen him 3 times in nearly 3 years!
2006-12-28 08:40:44 · update #2
Yes you can stop her- it has been fought in court a few times and each time the judge came back saying that grandparents have no rights to the child and they can not even award them visitation. Those are cases with DNA proof of the grandparents.
I know how you feel, my baby isnt born yet, but the grandmother to the baby is CRAZY! I hate being mean so telling her not to come over is gunna kill me, but it will keep peace in our house.
2006-12-28 08:03:54 · answer #1 · answered by allaboutme_333 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Grandparents have rights but she would need to prove she is her grandmother need to have had some sort of attempt of contact and prove it if you denied she was the grandparent she would then have to pay for a dna test at worse she would get a day a week but it would go through the courts as a access case and if u could somehow prove it was not in your daughters interest then the court would not grant rights stick to your guns love
2006-12-29 13:37:37 · answer #2 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As far as grandparent's rights, I think it depend on what state you live in. You certainly can withhold the kids from seeing the grandmother and force her to try to get legal visitation.
If you are withholding the kids because you personally don't like the grandmother, you might want to sit and think if it is in the child's best interest. Most of us like knowing we have family including grandparents. If the "battle ax" is hurting the kids emotionally or etc., you are doing the right thing in stopping visitation.
Best wishes.
2006-12-28 08:11:26 · answer #3 · answered by The It Girl ∆☻乐 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I suppose in a way she does have rights. You could easily take this situation to court but there would be no gurantee you would win and then she would have a legal right to see your daughter - not the best outcome. I think possibly you should let her see your dauighter once a month and see how they get on and whether it's working. If it is, then carry it on and if it's not then make the visits less frequent and talk to your daughter about how she feels. The best thing to do is to do a trial run and see how it goes. Hope this helped you! xx
2006-12-28 08:09:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
only fathers and mothers have rights, if you choose to stop your child from seeing her that's up to you, they have no rights in that sense, but instead of pulling contact away you are better of sending her a letter stating how fed up you are of her interfering and change your numbers, and tell her she can see you daughter once a week/month whatever suits you and your daughter nobody else, she has to stick by your decision or she may lose her grandchild indefinitely, but i wouldn't stop contact on your side make it her decision that way she or your child can ever throw it back at you in later life, and be careful what you write on paper, just remember that paper could be shown to your daughter in years to come, as long as you state your reasons, clearly, no slanging it should be OK, good luck, I'm me if you want any further help, i am currently going through this situation x
2006-12-30 08:49:51 · answer #5 · answered by trouble 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, but be careful. In the courts there is such thing as grandparent rights. They could do a paternity test with the dad or with the grandma and grandpa to find out if she is really their grandchild. Good luck. I was a kid who when through that battle so take my word for it. Don't let stuff get to intense.
2006-12-28 08:38:55 · answer #6 · answered by goldie89lynn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The laws vary from state to state. Usually, grandparents can only go after their rights if there is a modification to a custody arrangement. So, what that means is that your daughter's father will have to seek visitation. If he does, then they can also seek visitation.
However, you should check with your attorney. Here is a website that might be helpful though.
2006-12-28 08:12:40 · answer #7 · answered by ssc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Her grandmother should have the right to see her own granddaughter. I think that your daughter should decide if she wants to see her grandmother or not. If she does you should be willing to accept that and move on. If your daughter doesn't want to see her grandmother then there you go no more with that. How would you feel if your daughter didn't want you to see the grandchild. Put it as if you were in the grandmothers place.
2006-12-29 04:32:04 · answer #8 · answered by heritagedancer_333 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, grandparents have rights. They can go to court and win visitation rights.
Your child's grandmother may be acting like battle axe, she might even be one, but she's probably feeling angry and scared of loosing contact with someone she loves. You know that protective feeling you get when you have a child, that you would fight to the death to protect them? Well, grandparents get something like that too ..... I know, I am one. She's probably trying to protect her sons rights too.
My children are adopted, and you can't believe how important it is for them to know their 'blood' ...... Your child will not thank you for cutting his/her birth family out of her life.
It may be hard for you to believe that the battle axe and her son may be a source of support in the future. It is definitely in the childs interest for him/her to know them. Why not try to build some bridges between them, it will make things much easier than going to court.
Good Luck, I hope it all works out.
Sparky x
2006-12-28 08:25:46 · answer #9 · answered by bigcitygirl_uk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Grandparents have no rights. They would like to give them rights because of the generation whose kids ended up being raised by the grandparents anyway. And since the fathers name isn't on the birth certificate you can run free and clear- unless they ask for a DNA test. But still, DNA doesn't give grandparents rights.
2006-12-28 08:07:14 · answer #10 · answered by L.L. 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋