ok so i just graduated and im in love with my high school sweetheart that ive been with since my 9th grade year and im just wondering if these kinds of relationships really work? i mean would i be missing out on anything out there since im in a serious relationship? if so tell me your story..... or your opinion, oh by the way i love him with all my heart and yeah we like any other couple but we are just perfect together.
thanks
2006-12-28 07:55:50 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It will last as long as you both want for it to work... And if you really love him you won't miss anything!!!
2006-12-28 08:04:45 · answer #1 · answered by Becca 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually i have been in your same position. I had a high school sweetheart all through high school and even a year after. It ended up not working out at all. The bad thing about high school sweethearts is that it feels like yall will be together forever because its all you know but most likely isn't the case. Now I'm not saying yall are not going to work i mean i don't know you BUT i feel if yall really love each other as much as you say yall do, you shouldn't miss out on anything because yall should trust each other enough to be able to go out separate and have fun with your friends and also have fun with each other. Life is too short so make sure you don't take things to seriously and have fun doing it!! And even if it doesn't work out, there are PLENTY of fish in the sea!!
2006-12-28 16:40:29 · answer #2 · answered by dazesmitten04 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ever heard that the grass isnt always greener on the other side? Well, its true. Most people who feel that they should go look out there and see what else is there usually end up right back where they started. I know a couple who has been married 50 years and were high school sweethearts and most of my aunts married their hight school sweethearts, and even my stepsister who is 23 is marrying hers. So they are out there and they do work. Even thought its harder to last in a relationship nowadays you just have to trust that life will take you where you are supposed to be. And if you truly love him stay there because there are not a lot of good guys left in this world! You should consider yourself very lucky to be loved!
2006-12-28 16:00:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have heard of teenage relationships working but its hard. THe problem is both of you are going to change over the next 8 years through college. You might grow and change together, or you might grow apart. People change. Its natural. You will both come to a point that you will wonder if you missed something or someone. I married the second boy I dated. I divorced him 24 years later. I realized that many of the things I thought I knew about him were either wrong or had changed and he felt the same way. Its better to be chosen because you were the best throughout, not because you were the first.
2006-12-28 16:00:19 · answer #4 · answered by fancyname 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dated my high school sweetheart all through college. As the years went by, I grew more and more unhappy. After the newness of our relationship wore off, we were constantly trying to change each other.
It took a lot of courage, but I finally broke up with him with only a few months to go in my senior year of college. The decision turned out to be the best I've ever made.
Today, I'm engaged to a man I had always been friends with but had never been able to grow close to because of my old relationship. I never knew what love really was until I started dating him.
Only you can answer your question. Some high school romances are the real thing. But there are a lot of people who miss out because they've never had the chance to really look.
Good luck!
2006-12-28 16:03:30 · answer #5 · answered by the reporter 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people are very lucky and fall in love early. Then they go on to create a family and a history together. Other people take longer to find that special someone and fall in and out of love a few times. Still others are perfectly happy being single. If you love this man then you're not missing out on anything and you should consider yourself lucky. But since you're asking the question you may want to take a break and try other things. It's all up to you.
2006-12-28 15:59:24 · answer #6 · answered by mJc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that if you have trust in each other to let the other person have alittle fun without each other every now and then, then there is nothing wrong with it. If he is "perfect" then you obviously not missing out on other men!! (ya know) Im with my highschool sweetheart, and we have been together since she was a sophmore and i was a junior. The thing that i love about our relationship and what keeps it going is the fact that she gives me alittle space to where i can go out with my guy friends every now and then. She goes out with her girlfriends every now and then also. That way we are not always together and get sick of each other!!
2006-12-28 16:01:49 · answer #7 · answered by smitty4626 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I guess how much you have in common would help determine whether you will stay together. The person that you are now is not the person you will be at 30 or 40. As people age they change. Their interests and priorities as well as many other things. If you both can grow together and stay interested in the same things then you have a good chance of making it, but that does not usually happen. As people age they tend to grow apart in priorities and interests and cannot work together when hard times come.
2006-12-28 16:01:51 · answer #8 · answered by kimber1731 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just graduated from highschool too and am still with my highschool sweetheart!! He is the love of my life. We are planning to get married in the next year or two and I have no doubts whatsoever. Him and I dated in 8th grade and broke up when I moved away....but then got back together our junior year. In those two years inbetween I dated 3 other guys....and I wish I wouldn't have. All it caused was more heartache/break, wasted energy, and extra baggage. It was totally unneccesary. I don't think you're missing out on anything. I am so glad my man and I got back together, and I wish I wouldn't have dated anyone else...
If you know you love you're guy and you want to be with him forever, than don't think anymore that you are missing out on someone or something else....you and I are the lucky ones. Most people don't find someone they truly love and cherish ever in their life time...that's why people get married three times in their life time, they always think they are missing something and their is someone better out therer....and they end up with heartache thteir whole life
2006-12-28 16:05:21 · answer #9 · answered by I'minlovewiththeboy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've known people who stay with and eventually marry their high school sweetheart. Hopefully you will both be close to each other throughout college.
However, be open to the idea that you might want to experience something new. If you feel the pull of the fun college scene, talk to you man and check it out. If you're meant to be together, you will be. Just be sure to not "miss out" on life if you want to. There'll be temptation around EVERY corner. Hopefully he's as loyal to you as you are to him. College changes some things.
GL
2006-12-28 15:59:20 · answer #10 · answered by Peter N 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My high school relationship didn't work out. It ended in Divorce. That's not to say that yours won't work but why rush it. You should have your own time to go be a free girl and then if it's meant to be you will end up together. Trust your instincts, sometimes the heart covers stuff up because we are in love. I wish you all the best just take your time.
2006-12-28 15:59:55 · answer #11 · answered by tpurtygrl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋