There is this girl in my building who I feel certain is attracted to me. She has pointed me out to friends and smiles big when she sees me. I was out on X-Mas Eve with my ex and our kids for dinner and I saw her with what I think was her family(No date). She must have seen me early on and I did not see her until I went to the restroom before leaving. She looked away when I walked by. Why does she seem angry or hurt? I have never met her but we have exchanged looks in the building. I am very attracted to her also but she was difficult to talk to before this because she seemed so shy and nervous around me. I want to talk to her just to let her know how I feel. I just think she believes I am taken now. Why did she act this way when she does not really know me and what can I do from here?
2006-12-28 07:53:56 · 15 answers · asked by Blue-Eyed Guy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
come out and ask her if she had a good time with her family. then tell her you were with your ex and kids.She won't know it was your ex if you don't tell her.
2006-12-28 07:59:21 · answer #1 · answered by nancy e 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Now would be the perfect opportunity to approach her. Asking her why she turned away or didn't speak to you that day might be a great opening statement - just to break the ice. Explain to her that you are not taken - or whatever your situation might be, and let her know how you feel. And yes, to answer your question it is possible to hurt someone although you haven't "formally" met yet. It sounds weird, but sometimes body language speaks louder than verbal. She could have felt a connection/spark with you depending on how lingering the looks were that you both exchanged, or how often and hard you both smiled at each other. You may not have directly hurt her feelings, but seeing you with someone else may have hurt her feelings. Having said that... she may like you a little too much.
2006-12-28 16:07:26 · answer #2 · answered by Queryous 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take this advice coming from a very shy girl....she definitely likes you especially if she has been making eye contact with you. At the same time when she saw you with your ex she thinks that you have someone and she is hurt. If you really want something with her you are going to have to speak to her and let her know that it was just your ex...throw it slyly into the conversation. Also, if she is shy and nervous its more pressure on you to be able to keep the conversation flowing. But if you already know she is shy then you will be prepared. She is probably so attracted by you that it does make her nervous. Good luck with the situation!
2006-12-28 16:07:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that she liked you a lot and when she saw you with another woman, it just hurt her....especially if she's pointing you out to her friends and smiles all the time when she sees you. I know you guys have never met but she probably is just feeling hurt. If you like her back, i think you should talk to her and tell her how you feel. You said she seems shy and nervous around you, i know it makes it more difficult to approach her ...but because she is so shy, you have to put more effort into it. Just explain to her that you were out with your ex and kids for Christmas dinner. Tell her you are available and that you are hoping to get to know her better! I hope this helps you! Good luck!
2006-12-28 16:01:56 · answer #4 · answered by ChunkyMonkey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Atleast introduce yourself. You never know what might happen till you try. Friends is always a good place to start.
Being a girl it seems like she atleast curious about you. Let her know who you really are. You have to talk to her or if you are shy also . Leave or send some flowers with a friendly note.
2006-12-28 15:58:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is not mad at you, she is just disappointed. She thinks you have a family, and she is bummed out because she was hoping you would ask her out!!
So, ASK HER OUT!!
Now you have something to use to get the conversation started. The next time you see her, simply say, "I really need you to know that the woman you saw me with the other night is my EX wife." If she asks you why you needed her to know that, say "because I would really like you to go to dinner with me this weekend"
She will melt, and you will get your date - promise!
Best of luck!!
2006-12-28 16:02:03 · answer #6 · answered by Kailey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She doesn't know anything that you have just told us! You need to get the nerve to speak this this woman and tell her that you'd like to get to know her better. I know it might be awkward, but I'm sure she has a serious attraction for you, she's probably just hurt because she saw you looking, then realized you were "taken".
2006-12-28 15:56:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will have to take the chance and make the right move.
Maybe she does think that you are attached even if she finds you attractive she won't make the first move because of that.
make that first move cause if she is shy she never will
Good luck
2006-12-28 15:59:05 · answer #8 · answered by Spirit_Rain_3-SunShineAries 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's probably not upset, just disappointed (that is if she assumed you were "taken).
Why don't you write her a little note & slip it under her door? Ask her to call you or knock on YOUR door.
Make the first move.
2006-12-28 15:57:46 · answer #9 · answered by Miz D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your absolutly sure she likes you then go up to her and ask her on a date, i know it may seem harder then said heh...or you could make some time to get to know her more and she probably is just a shy person, asking her on a date would be your best shot with her, good luck!
2006-12-28 16:02:34 · answer #10 · answered by Belle!! 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is hard to flirt with a woman when your wife/girlfriend is around isn't it. you poor sap. you will just have to write her a love letter and slip it under her door. Then watch her husband/boyfriend for his reaction.
2006-12-28 15:58:58 · answer #11 · answered by veerfish 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋