is this true or a myth?

Question

.....that all the good looking girls/women wind are single because everyone is intimidated by them and no one asks them out or tries to talk to them???

i have heard this more than once. any truth to it?????

Answer 1

Is a great Myth.

Answer 2

it depends..
i had a good sit down wiht a friend the other day..who basically said i am a pretty girl but the way i carry myself is intimidating..
apparently i carry myself very well, and very confidently.. and i guess i have this appearance that the last thing i'm interested in is some random guy coming to talk to me since it appears i'm having a blast doing what i am doing..
..which almost happened, LOL. i had a guy i hung out with for several weeks..and basically it took him a lot of liquor to basicaly just come up and kiss me.. later on he said he was sorry, but it was the only way he'd have the balls to do it. i asked why..and he said b/c i scared the hell out of him by how laid back and relaxed i was about some things..
so i assume it has some truth to it..however, i don't think it's all true..

Answer 3

While there may be a smidgeon of truth to it (as often hyped by the "How to Meet Gorgeous Women" guides), let's face it: Good looking women are most likely single because in their case it's a "seller's market," so why sell to the first guy that comes along? Good looks also pair with intelligence, because intelligence in and of itself is very attractive. So here you have a smart, good looking woman. No doubt she probably has a measure of financial independence to boot, so she doesn't need to cling to some guy for her support. In the opposite case, just think what a good looking sucessful guy would do. Most likely he would be a player.

Apropos those "How to Meet Beautiful Women" guidebooks: They also say that you don't have to be smart, rich, or good looking to get goregous babes. Yeah right, we all know that gorgeous babes like dumb, broke and ugly guys. Hope that answers your question.

Answer 4

I don't think this is true at all. I know plenty of good looking people who are NOT single. I also know plenty of good looking women and men who are single because they spend too much time worrying about their looks and only care about themselves. THEY think others are intimidated by them when the truth of the matter is people know who is real and who isn't. If looks are all you care about, you will end up being alone.

Answer 5

No. That's not true. Guys aren't intimidated by beauty BUT they might think the girl is conceited and are turned off by it.

Here's the deal. If an average looking girl is having a bad day, guys think she is just unhappy. If a gorgeous girl is having a bad day, it looks as if she is stuck up. That is a turn off and can prevent that girl from being approached, if she has a lot of bad days.

I know. I was one of them.

I found out years later, that there were several guys that thought I was conceited. I was in NOOOO way, conceited but that's what it looked like to them.

I got plenty of dates and it was with guys that had never seen me in a slightly grouchy mood.

Funny, Huh?

SOOOO. It's not that guys are fraid of beauty, they are afraid of a girl that's in love with herself.

Answer 6

Its not entirely true....however there is an element of truth to the saying that attractive women are asked out less. My friends tell me that I look like a model and I rarely get asked out.

Oh well, being single has its perks too!

Answer 7

True and myth... at the same time. People who know they are good looking aren't approached because they're good looking, but because of their attitude. I've seen many women who I found very attractive and began my approach when I heard them say or do something that communicated their personality, which was very unattractive. Confidence is one thing but conceit is really quite another.

Answer 8

yes, I don't see myself as gorgeous or beautiful but I get told that I am by many people. Maybe its that everyone thinks I have a significant other, I'm not sure, I do know that on the very rare occasions I go out to a bar or a social setting the only time males come to me to talk to me is after they are drunk to the point of almost falling over.

Answer 9

Think about this for a moment.

Do you mean to say that in all of your life, you have never seen a good-looking married woman?

That, somehow, all the brides in all the world are not attractive and the grooms have all ended up settling for someone unattractive becase the man was unable to get up the nerve to talk to a good looking woman?

Answer 10

I would avoid saying "all" and "no one;" but yes, there is SOME validity to that statement.

Some men ARE intimidated by "glamorous" women out of fear of rejection, or not being good enough to keep her happy if they do get together, etc. Some incorrectly assume that "a woman as fine as you MUST be taken" or write her off as "stuck-up" and never ask.
A lot of times, the only men with guts enough to approach a woman like that are men who are so "unattractive," they don't have anything to lose anyway.
Eventually, that woman (no matter how fine she is) may end up losing her self-esteem, since it seems the only guys who approach her are "rejects." In time, she may even end up going out with one of those "rejects," because she doesn't think she's attractive to anyone else... which is why good guys often find themselves pondering the question: "How did a guy like HIM end up with a girl like THAT!?"

The truth is, everyone has flaws; and everyone (whether they admit it or not) has some things that they would like to change about themselves.
Just because you're "beautiful" by society's standards, doesn't mean that YOU think you are and that you can't have self-esteem issues (Men aren't exempt).

That's why there are professional models, actresses, etc., that have such a poor self-image, they don't believe people when they give them an honest compliment.
Hence, the increase in diet drugs, plastic surgery, and "accessories" to augment people's appearances... not to mention the break from tradition of women asking men out or the current lesbian/bisexual craze.

Why is everyone trying to look alike? to fit in? to hide who they really are? Because they fear non-acceptance from people who know what they're REALLY like?

The other facade that people put up is the rebellious "I don't care what the world thinks" mask. That's just as bad.
People purposely dress-down/dress-out to show their disapproval for the unrealistic expectations that the media has placed on women to be "pretty."
The fact is, they DO care. By dressing down/out, they're actually saying that they don't believe that they could ever measure up, so why try. It's pretty sad.

Enough psych-background.

The best way to overcome the hurdle of intimidation is:
1) Be self-confident. No man is better than or worse than you, and no woman is "too good" for you. There's no such thing as being "out of your league!" If you're confident in you, she will lean on you to make up for her lack thereof.
2) Overcome the fear of rejection. Finding out that someone is the WRONG one just improves your chances of finding the RIGHT one. "No" is NOT a personal attack, it just means you're not compatible with HER. SHE is still out there!
3) Be reassuring - to yourself and her. Remind yourself how special you are and how much you have to offer in a relationship (Make a personal list of things in case you need a boost sometime). Make her feel comfortable with you and give her the freedom to be herself around you. Don't be judgemental, and let her know she doesn't have to jump through hoops to impress you. You like/love her just the way she is!

All that said, not ALL good-looking females are single, but neither are they ALL taken. A beautiful woman is a powerful thing (look at the TV ads lately... they sell)! But they have insecurities like anyone else and are looking for a sensitive man to support them and to love them unconditionally.
Despite the hype, MOST women don't want thugs or celebrities or rich men, they just settle for them or for the comfort of money or just because they don't want to grow old without a family of their own.

Secret: Women get intimidated too.

Answer 11

I think there is some truth to that statement... i believe that if your are looking at a woman who is attractive and have a low esteem then you would most likely not bother to ask her out in fear of rejection...

I say just ask...whats the worst that can happen...they can either politely say no or laugh in your face.. at that point you just turn around and walk away...no harm no foul.