My boyfriend deric is 2 years older than me. hes 14 and we have been 2gether for about 3 weeks and now hes planned this whole thing that on janurary second were gonna skip school and go to his house and u know. i dont think im ready 4 that but ive already agreed to doin it so i cant change my mind now. i think he is alittle too fast for me because on da phone all he talks about is me and him doin da thing. he knows im a virgin and he wants to be my first and last. he says he loves me and wants to be with me for the rest of his life but i just dont know. my xmas present from him was some diamond earrings and he said the other thing is some d!ck. he really thinks we are gonna be doin that. he got a chocolate flavored c0nd0m from his boy and he is all ready. im just not sure if a should be doin that wit him at such a young age and its not like we have been 2gether 4 years anyway. Would Do U Think? Please answer im in need of advice
2006-12-28 07:39:20 · 72 answers · asked by mekyaluvsu 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
noooooo............way too young...
2006-12-28 07:41:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 0⤋
WHOAAAAAAA!!! You are WAY too young for this! I dont care what this boy promised you or gave you... your virginity is priceless and you only have it once! Save it for someone you love and for when you are ready! I waited till I was much older and it was well worth the wait and also showed that I had great respect for myself! Sounds like his interests in you are minimal beyond what is in your pants! At that age boys will say anything to get what they want... Come to think of it they are like that at any age! Just because you told him you were going to do it does not mean you have to follow through! it is your body not his and if you are not ready you will regret going through with this! You already know what you should do just read over your question... You have so many uncertainties that you actually answered your own question! you are only young once there are more important things to worry about then sex at that age! BTW three weeks may seem like an eternity in the mind of a 14 year old boy but there is no time limit on when you are ready for sex! Youre 12 and I can promise you that you and this boy will not be together forever! You are the one that controls what you want to do with your life... Dont let a foolish boy tell you how it is going to be when you are clearly not ready!
2006-12-28 07:52:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have any doubt in your mind, which obviously you do or you would not be asking for advice, then DO NOT DO IT! You are only 12 years old... that makes you old enough to get into all sorts of trouble, and way too young to be having to deal with those troubles. If he is pushing you, then you do not need him. If all he wants from you is to have sex with you, then I would hand him back the earrings and tell him to move his young behind on down the line to find another girl who will fall for all his lines. If he really loves you and wants to be your first as well as your last, then where is the fire at? Why the big rush? Do not be fooled by boys and their smooth lines... I was and I regret to this day losing my virginity in what ended up becoming a one night stand. You have a lot more life ahead of you, don't end up giving in to his pushing and do something you will live to regret. Please just wait! There is all the time in the world...
2006-12-28 07:44:55 · answer #3 · answered by Rain S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DON'T DO "IT"!! First of all you're only 12 and have a long time to grow up and have plenty of sex. Don't let anyone make you do something you don't want to. I'm sure you guys think you may love eachother, but it takes time to know if you truly love someone. What could you possibly love about someone you've known for a few weeks? Your body is a priceless treasure. Make sure when you give it to someone that you are completely ready and that they are worth it. You can't get your virginity back once its gone so remember that. And just because he gave you jewelry doesn't mean anything. And tell him to stop talking to you about "dick". You guys are far too young for this kind of activity. Please wait until you are more mature. You'll save yourself a lot of heartache. And if this boy is any good and really loves you like he says he will wait and not pressure you to do something you are not ready for.
2006-12-28 08:25:16 · answer #4 · answered by B U Tiful 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't think you are ready then you aren't ready. Trust yourself enough to go with your intincts on this. If he can't accept that then it sounds like he may not be the right guy for you. If he really cares about you and not just about your body he will understand. This is something meaningful that should only happen when you are ready. Don't let yourself be pushed into this. You will regret it if you do.
And as much as you don't want to hear yet another person say this, you really are way to young. You and your boyfriend need to elarn to enjoy each other a bit more slowly. Sex should be based on a stable viable loving relationship. If you do it the other way around and try to build the relationship on sex it rarely if ever works.
2006-12-28 07:43:16 · answer #5 · answered by toff 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all you are way too young. You have a Long life ahead of you, right now you should just be having fun and getting to know yourself. You need to respect yourself and know what your are worth. You say your are a virgirn, right?? Well once you loose that, you will never get it back and that is something very important that you don't just want to give it to somone that is not worth it. I lost my virginity at 20yrs. old and I do not regret it. I learned to respect myself. Ofourse there were guys that promsied me the world if I gave it up to them, but you know what, all the guys respected me more than the girls that were having sex so young. My husband is my first and he respects me and treats me like a queen. I am not saying for you to wait till your 20 yrs, but 12 yrs is just not the age. Right now you think that your in love and sorry to say but your not. You are still learning about the world and probably even about your body. I would say wait, tell him that you are not ready and if he really loves you, then he will stop there, and if he breaks up with you, then just let him go because he ain't worth your time and he sure aint worth your virginity!!!!
2006-12-28 07:54:43 · answer #6 · answered by Latin Beauty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie I'm going to say this one time to you, "PLEASE DO NOT HAVE SEX WITH HIM"!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! This so called boyfriend you have is only trying to use you to have sex with. After he gets it he's going to leave you and go to the next girl. He doesn't care anything about you. All that he cares about and wants is sex at this age. Trust me all the adults on here have already been where your at, and we know where your going if you decide to let him use you. It doesn't matter that you told him you would do it with him. Tell him right now that you have changed your mind and you don't want to do it. Don't let him pressure you either. He'll try to say sweet things to you, and tell you he loves you and so on. Don't believe any of this crap because he's only lying. Once you tell this loser that you don't want to have sex you'll see that he ony wanted you for sex. Your way too young, your only 12 years old. Losing your virginity is a big deal, and you should wait until your a lot older because you can never get it back. The wait is so worth it trust me. I'm 26, but I regret losing my virginity at 13 years old. I didn't even want to do it, but I never had anybody tell me what I'm telling you. I could have gotten pregnant, or even worse I could have died of an STD. I'm glad neither one of these things happened, but I can never get that time of my life back, and I really regret it. Don't do anything that you will regret either. If you need to talk you can always email me. Take care!
2006-12-28 07:53:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a horrible idea. At 14 I can tell you that you won't be his first and last. Especially considering you're 12 and he's 14, you've both got a LOT of growing and maturing to do. Think about if you're ready for the changes that will occur once you begin having sex.
It's hard to imagine being with this person for the rest of your life. If you're questioning whether or not you're ready, you're probably not.
Goodluck and no regrets!
2006-12-28 07:44:46 · answer #8 · answered by Peter N 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey! you know the answer to that question. You sound very smart and mature. You are way too young to be even thinking about sex. You are too young to be in a relationship but that is something else. If he is a good guy and a guy that you want to see a future with tell him that you are uncomfortable with the idea and in the future you will like to be with him but right now is tooo soon. If he gets an attitude then you know where his head is then ask him what is the rush, you are only with him and in the future you would like to share the experience with someone who understands and appreciates your decisions like he does. You should be talking to your parents or even his parents or any adult. These are adult decisions you are trying to make. If he continues to pressure you need to cut him loose. You are too young to be pressured and stressed out over a little boy!
2006-12-28 07:50:25 · answer #9 · answered by Jan l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not ready DON'T DO IT. another wise you'll be like me sexualy active all the time. Besides you are too young way too young. And if he forces you then leave him. Don't believe him when he said that he is ready because HE IS NOT he is too young also.
Remember ones you lose it you'll never get it back. Plus you don't want to end up pregnant or with a disease. Listen talk to him about it and let him know you dont want to do anything until your older and ready. And if he gets mad or tells you that he will get from someone else. Let him go. Let someone else go thru that pain and headache.
Good luck.
Think about it is not worth it enjoy your child her and your teenage years. Because he is not going to stay with you for ever believe that.
2006-12-28 07:48:45 · answer #10 · answered by Sally B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think...DUMP HIM...no offense but he is only looking for a*s. As you said you are 2 years younger then him so you must only be 12 years old. That in my opinion is WAY to young to be having sex. I did not loose my virgin until i was 17...and i'm still with 2 years later! You have to KNOW and make sure that he is the person you want to loose it to. Boys will be boys they will talk and say whatever...but you really should tell him how you feel. Even if you agreed to having sex it does NOT by any means mean you should be doing it now...you can wait. It's your body and you are in control of it not him. If he doesn't like you telling him that you want to wait....then he's not the right person for you. Love will wait...my boyfriend waited.....and if he loves you like he says he does he will wait....aside from the fact you've only dated him 2 weeks...you don't want to turn into someone easy like that......Hope that helped
2006-12-28 07:44:45 · answer #11 · answered by Jackie Knows Best 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋