A girl I fancy at work was texting me all over the holidays. I mean I got over 30 texts from her in the space of a few days. I dropped the hint that I did not know what I was doing for New Year's Eve. That night she offered me to spend it with her and her friends. At first it was supposed to be in another city. Then she text me to say it was in another state and we'd need to fly there. So before agreeing I figured I needed to know exactly what kind of relationship is developing here. So I asked her was she inviting me as a friend or something more because I really like her. I had an inkling she has a boyfriend but I know they are having probs and thought it might be over. She responded telling me she has a boyfriend, that she is sorry and I am lovely. I said I was sorry for getting the wrong idea, that she is a lovely girl and I feel lucky just to be friends. She replied with saying Im a brilliant guy and she is so glad she knows me.
2006-12-28 07:35:51 · 20 answers · asked by K 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think she does fancy me but she is obviously not ready for a relationship. Do you think im right or that I totally picked her up wrong. I am encouraged by the fact that she did not just give me the "we are just friends speech and nothing more".
Dont worry, Im not out to wreck a relationship and I will back off now. Im so glad she knows how I feel cos the ball is in her court now.
2006-12-28 07:38:15 · update #1
no offense but this girl doesnt know what she wants and you have been caught in the brunt of it. She wants fun but obviously is in some way devoted to her current fella. Id steer clear of anything other than friendship. being a girl myself i know how it feels to do this and I felt awful for doing it. I wouldnt wish it upon my worst enemy cuz i didnt know what i was doing until it was to late and she preobably doesnt either
2006-12-28 07:52:12 · answer #1 · answered by fiona127740 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
obviously she is drawn to you and must sincerely find you interesting. reading between the lines is difficult. you did the right thing asking for clarification to avoid future awkward moments.
some cultures or people backgrounds are comfortable with close friends of both sexes regardless if in a relationship or not. others are social butterflies and then others like the attn. if she is an enjoyable friend, then accept it is "what it is" and continue to hang out, meet new people, and hv fun!! possibly a door opening to new adventures and opportunities. happy new year!
2006-12-28 15:48:24 · answer #2 · answered by bb 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
YOu did the exact right thing. She likes you as a friend, not as a boyfriend. I know that is hard, but its what is. She has been honest with you. You can accept it for what it is or look somewhere else. You both seem very honest and thats a great foundation for a life long friend.
2006-12-28 15:39:20 · answer #3 · answered by fancyname 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Careful, if she is showing interest in you and has a boyfriend most likely she will cheat on you too. Some girls like to be chased, others like to make their boyfriend jealous by telling them they have a " new " friend. You seem like a smart guy. Dont' go for the drama that WILL come with this girl.
2006-12-28 15:40:40 · answer #4 · answered by gone from here too 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Isn't it obvious?...she has a boyfriend but is sizing you up as a potential replacement.
Women have an interest in 2 types of men. 1 type is fun and openly sexy and maybe a bit of a rogue. The other is funny, calm, reliable, sensible and a potential baby provider.
Which ever you are...I bet the boyfreind is the other?
Have fun!
2006-12-28 15:40:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
If she's having issues with her boyfriend, she's using you as compensation. Nothing good could come of this. Spend new years with people who are really there for you. And tell her to buzz off until she figures out what she wants.
2006-12-28 15:40:15 · answer #6 · answered by -Bibee- 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think this girl...see's you as a friend and that's it. She truley cares for you and feels like you and her could be good friends. She see's your relationships as FRIENDS and that's it. Another possibility could be...she might be planning to dump her boyfriend or is afraid of him dumping her and she might be using you and almost having a "back up" because she is afraid of being alone. I hope one of those answers helped :)
2006-12-28 15:38:45 · answer #7 · answered by Jackie Knows Best 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd take her at her word, unless you know that she likes to play games. Maybe she thought you needed some cheering up for the holidays and knew she would enjoy your company.
2006-12-28 15:54:37 · answer #8 · answered by There you are∫ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it were me and I liked her, there is no way in hell I would go with her. She is trying to get the best of both worlds, attention she doesn't get from her bf w/out having to give you any in return b/c you are just pursuing "friendship".
2006-12-28 15:39:12 · answer #9 · answered by randyken 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think she knew you liked her and she wants to see what she can get out of you! don't give her the time of day. If your as great as she says, then you'll find someone not sending mixed signals.
2006-12-28 15:53:25 · answer #10 · answered by Dee 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋