my neice just came to live with us and she is 20 months. everytime i pick her up she crys. and when were in the car she throws her pacifer and sippy cup at me. sometimes when im ignoring her she wants to be my friend but when i try to be nice to her and hang with her she gets all whinny. what should i do?
2006-12-28 07:34:00 · 6 answers · asked by ♥la chica♥ 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
her mother (my step-sister) leaves with us! but she is mostly at work and im always babysiting her! i dont want to have to deal with this everyday!
2006-12-28 07:39:51 · update #1
Welcome to the beginning of the terrible two's!
She is demanding attention, and is trying to get it the only way she knows how. Lashing out at you, acting unruly is what she knows.
If she acts terrible, tell her calmly that you will play with her when she has settled down, then walk away. Let her have her temper tantrum, it won't harm her. When she is calm, praise her for being calm, and play with her then. If she gets out of line, then start all over. There is no need to raise your voice. She needs to learn what behavior is acceptable and what is not.
Being nice to her is what she needs. A time out won't hurt her either, however, it ought to be very, very short considering her age ... no more than two minutes at the most. If she throws something at you, she gets a scolding and a time out, with the explanation that throwing anything at someone is wrong.
Praise her when she does nice things, something good, when she is being sweet. But don't be afraid to scold her if she is out of line. Children need discipline.
2006-12-28 07:49:36 · answer #1 · answered by aivilo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't correct in a few days what the child does. I'm 51 and have a 16 year old daughter, I nipped all negative behavior in the bud. If she threw her cup down, she didn't get it back. Only once did she throw a fit in a store. I just walked off and left her screaming on the floor. But, I was only a few feet away from her and she couldn't see me. The fit was for me - but once she realized I wasn't around, the fit stopped and I picked her up, the looks I got from other Mothers, I only cared about my daughters behavior. She never did it again, ever. Sounds like the little girl needs more attention to me.
2006-12-28 15:56:40 · answer #2 · answered by docie555@yahoo.com 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
huh. weird. i'd just ignore her and not pay her any attention. do you react when she does these things?? if so, then she is using your reaction as attention and will keep on doing it.
next time she throws something at you or cries when you hold her then put her down and walk away. or give the cup back and not say a word and direct your attention elsewhere.
she is going through a phase and she needs your love and attention, but you don't want her to keep up with this behavior.
give her time...she has just gone through a change.
take care.
2006-12-28 15:45:32 · answer #3 · answered by joey322 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm is it only with you?
She could be missing her mom. Do you talk loudly? That can upset small children. My daughter was afraid of my cousin for the longest time becuase he would approach her to fast.
Just a few things to consider :-)
2006-12-28 15:40:13 · answer #4 · answered by bean07 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is probably missing her mom. I would let her know that is not an appropriate way to let anger out, give her newspaper to rip up, a pillow to hit, a black crayon with paper.. but lashing out at you, is not appropirate
2006-12-28 15:37:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is not use to you and thinks it is your fault that for mother isnt around and more.
2006-12-28 15:38:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋