My daughter is eight years old and in the second grade. She didn't make any mentionable friendships in Kindergarten. In first grade, she made two "best" friends. Well one of those friends is in her second grade class. She hasn't attempted to make any new friends since. This week, she made a negative remark about her friend. I asked her if she liked this little girl less and she stated that she liked her less. Figuring she had a made a "new" friend, asked her if she had found someone else that she rather hang around with. She said no- she just didn't like it b/c this girl picked her nose in school. She said she would still be "best" friends with this girl. Is it normal for an eight year old to have that few of friends. Some additonal info:
1) My daughter is an only child.
2) She is more mature than most children her own age.
3) She is somewhat shy.
4) She is a bigger girl. (not fat, just taller and stocky)
2006-12-28 07:21:40 · 10 answers · asked by surelycoolgirl 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
Are you sure your not talking about my 1st grader???? At 7 years old she is itching close to 5 ft, and 70 lbs...... shy, very mature but not an only! I talked to my daughters teachers about this at her conferences. At school as long as she is interacting with other children, and behaving well don't worry too much. I set up play dates for my daughter also with other girls her age in hopes to forge some friendships and it worked well... She has gotten 3 friends out of the deal... although none are best friends, she does want to see them often. At this age a child's personality is really coming thru as she is trying to place herself among her peers. Friendships will come later when she can better explain what she likes and dislikes in other people. As long as she is interacting with other children without much problem she should forge friendships down the line. If you have any doubts at any time, Talk to your child's teacher and get her opinion on the matter. I have discovered that my child is COMPLETELY different at school than at home.
2006-12-28 14:30:14 · answer #1 · answered by trippinwurmz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd be worried if she had no friends. But she has two, so try not to let it bother you too much. As a child I preferred only one ot two. I hated sharing them with other people. Not only that, I didn't like how a girl would be nice one week and blabber my crush the next (yup, even in second grade girls are like this). Even as an adult I keep few close friendships. Sounds like your child will be the same way. I'd rather have a few very close friends than alot of friends that I'm not as close too. I'm just not a very social creature, unless I really like the person. Keep the communication open and let her know you are there to talk when she wants to. Not much else you can do.
2006-12-28 07:30:08 · answer #2 · answered by Velken 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's normal, but that's coming from a former 8 year old with few friends...lol. Some kids strive to be the "popular" ones and others want friends that are true friends. She is probably embarrassed by the girl that picks her nose and that's why she is saying negative things about her. Encourage her to widen her horizons in the friend department...go some place where she can mingle with kids her age while the parents mingle amongst themselves. See what happens. Try not to make too big of a deal out of it or she might get a complex.
Good luck!
2006-12-28 07:54:28 · answer #3 · answered by bluez 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You mentioned she is somewhat shy. Normally shy people prefer to have a couple of close friends rather than be with big groups of people. I wouldn't worry about the comment about the friend because kids say things like that thoughtlessly and are often not as serious about their comments as adults are. If she's not involved in any extracurricular activities you may want to look at team sports or dance classes so she has a chance to socialize outside of school.
2006-12-28 10:57:29 · answer #4 · answered by M N 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would make sure she has a chance to make friends outside of school if she wants. School is not as social as it used to be and there really isn't the oppourtunity for kids to get to know each other.
I would talk to the teacher and make sure she is playing normally with the other kids. It may be that she plays in groups and is very social, just only has a few close friends.
One thing I would maybe want to talk to her about. Is she not being friends with this girl because the other kids teased her for her behavior? I believe it is important to teach loyalty to others. If you stand by your friend then they will stand by you, and we all make a fool of ourselves sometimes.
Good Luck.
2006-12-28 13:54:58 · answer #5 · answered by micheletmoore 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just watch the situation closely. My 15 year old daughter was like that. She is now in ninth grade, honor roll, with lots of friends. Try to get her involved in activities outside of school with other kids. Sundayschool, gymnastics, karate, whatever, to be around kids her age.
2006-12-28 07:31:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If at all possible I would get involved in a group with my child to watch them interact with others. You can learn alot about not only your kids but other kids too by helping in a group activity. Theres so much for your child to learn about socializing and that its as important as her actual classes on reading, writing and arithmetic.
2006-12-28 10:38:49 · answer #7 · answered by twink3110 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps she just enjoys her own company and does not care about the others around her or she is taking her time to get to know others. Ask her She might just tell you
Let her warm up to others at her own pace.
2006-12-28 07:28:12 · answer #8 · answered by Spirit_Rain_3-SunShineAries 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do not worry, next year if this problem continues then be worried.
3rd grade is when i have noticed kids start to mature. so wait until the others catch up and the see.
2006-12-28 07:48:59 · answer #9 · answered by (¿¿) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her teacher. I found quite often that my students were completely different at school than they were at home or with parents.
2006-12-28 18:26:34 · answer #10 · answered by Flannery 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋