me and my boyfriend have been going out for a year and 3 months, he told me he loved me first and he always tells me that he wants to marry me one day... well he told me the other day that he kissed another girl, he told me that it was a mistake and that I was his everything and that he would never do it again. I just don't know if I could trust him again. This is the first time he has ever done anything that hurt me. PLEASE HELP!!!
2006-12-28 07:18:09 · 13 answers · asked by Haydee 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Wow my boyfriend and I have been dating for a year and 3 months as well and everything you said applies to me except for the girl thing so I'm going to give you the best advice I can if I was in your situation. Well, if you've been with this guy for this long and he had the courage to admit he made a mistake give him anioher chance girl. Look if he didn't love you and was serious about dumping you he would have broken up with you or kept it a secret. However, if he ever does it again don't give him another chance because it is more likely he will do it again. Everyone makes mistakes sometimes but I'm not saying that makes it right. Talk to him about how you feel and ask him how it would feel if the tables were turned and you were the one who kissed anpther guy. Ask him what he would have done if he were in your situation. Don't jump to conclusions right away and be sure to get all the details as to why he did it and what he was thinking during that time. I would be crushed if my bf did that to me and I'm sure you are but I would talk to him first and remind myself of all the memories and obstacles we have already encountered and if this guy has truly demonstrated he loves you overtime perhaps he is saying the truth and really doesn't want to lose you. Give him the chance to prove what he did was a mistake and that he really won't do anything like that to hurt you again. You might find that this will make you both stronger as a couple to confront and overcome things of this nature..just be careful and if it is to happen again let him go before you end up hurting more. I wish you the very best and I'll be praying that all goes well!!! :)
2006-12-28 07:39:04 · answer #1 · answered by Ivanna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel. I had a deep relationship and he did it tome, but I knew that he loves me, but then I didn't know if to trust or not in he. But I gave him another chance (after beeing very angry for a week) andhe never did it again and I think it ws kind of cold shower, which every relationship may need sometimes. I think give him another chance, but show him that he hearted you and that you are angry, pay him back, but don't cheat him. Then "restart" everything, and you'll see you will trust again in he. And look, it happens to people, I think, I really do think, that with time the trust will again will be there. So don't worry, now your desperate, angry, so does everybody else. And he said to you, he talked about it, this is important. Don't let love go away. Gd luck!
2006-12-28 15:24:39 · answer #2 · answered by asking_girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would probably be a while before you can trust him again because of what he did. I would make sure that he knows how much his actions hurt you. Based on what you have said it seems that he really do loves you and I would give him another chance. Be sure to tell him that it might take you a while for you to fully trust him again but eventually you guys will work things out. I hope it all works out and best of luck!!!
2006-12-28 15:22:43 · answer #3 · answered by Becca 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well that is a hard situation to be in..its never happened to me but i think if he came out and told you befor it got back to you in any other way then i belive that he is really truley sorry and feels bad! I dont believe in taking people back after they have cheated but if he really seams to be sorry and feels down on himself you should let him know just how much it really does hurt you but give him another chance. I would not let him do it again tho! if it happens again kick him to the curb! sorry to hear about this but good luck!
2006-12-28 15:23:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
find out why he did it, what led up to it, etc. what's the backstory here? he DID tell you about it, which shows that he cares, and he did apologize... but his reasons for doing it are very important. it could indicate some problems you two need to work out. depending on why he did it, you can either forgive him and sort out what's wrong, or move on with your life to something that hopefully won't hurt you. personally, i think that if you really are in a good relationship, this is something you CAN get over if you both want to. don't lose it too hastily.
2006-12-28 15:22:37 · answer #5 · answered by its_namz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he loved you enough to tell you "personally" that he kissed another shorty w/ no intentions then the relationship is worth sparing. That tells you he want keep a secret from you!!
2006-12-28 15:25:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
At least he came to you and came clear but your right you will need to learn to trust him again so tell him it will take you time and he will need to earn your trust again
2006-12-28 15:20:42 · answer #7 · answered by Angel Virgo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he is wondering if the grass is greener on the other side of the fence. hopefully he discovered that it wasn't and won't feel the need to check again. keep your eyes wide open for awhile and if it happens again, adios.
2006-12-28 15:22:39 · answer #8 · answered by tinketew 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if its the first time give him another chance he told you he wouldnt do it again if you really love him then you would trust him enough to give him another chance
2006-12-28 15:22:16 · answer #9 · answered by bri_bri 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him. It happens. If he was honest to you about never doing it again it is OK. Work things out together and have a talk.
2006-12-28 15:21:44 · answer #10 · answered by Justin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋